Husband gone, what now?

TooSad

wantabetterlife wrote: »

Good for you TS, i think its time things moved forward one way or another and you have given him plenty of time to lay his cards on the table and he hasnt done it so i think its going to be up to you. Having the letter to refer to is probably a good idea as in these situations it is so easy to forget all the things we want to say. You seem like such a lovely person and i know times have been rough but i cant believe your husband isnt falling over himself to move back in. Goodluck with it all and let us know how it goes. xo

I know, I don't know whether he feels like he has backed himself too far into a corner that he has no exit route and is waiting for me to give him one.
He is quite flirtacious of late with me, and enjoys spending time with me, it just seems that there is something that is stopping him coming back to me.
When we drove back on Saturday he was going on about his work and about how everyone who worked there was married there were no single people. I just felt he was trying to say yes we are still married - I dont know maybe I am looking for these things that don't exist maybe I am clutching at straws.
I always think that he isn't thinking about being where he is staying for a long time as he hasnt put any pictures up on the wall, again maybe another clutching at straws moment.......

TS x

bonnie_bumpkins

Good luck tomorrow NTSAM!!

You seem lot more positive now than a couple of days ago. Never say you are pathetic, you have been through a really really tough time and you have coped extremely well, showing strength and determination and dignity.

I will be thinking of you :T

BBx

Blade26

bonnie_bumpkins wrote: »

Never say you are pathetic, you have been through a really really tough time and you have coped extremely well, showing strength and determination and dignity.

Agree with BB X

TooSad

bonnie_bumpkins wrote: »

Good luck tomorrow NTSAM!!

You seem lot more positive now than a couple of days ago. Never say you are pathetic, you have been through a really really tough time and you have coped extremely well, showing strength and determination and dignity.

I will be thinking of you :T

BBx

I just hope I don't chicken out.........

I am more positive, I just hope my world doesn't come crashing down again.

TS x

bonnie_bumpkins

TooSad wrote: »

I just hope I don't chicken out.........
I am more positive, I just hope my world doesn't come crashing down again.

Deep breath, shoulders back, chest out :eek:

:T You can do it :T

I'm shattered, went to Brighton for the day and walked around loads. Saw some really odd characters, will [STRIKE]bore[/STRIKE] tell you about them tomorrow.

Sleep well.

BBx

Choc-addict

Agree with the others TS, you are an amazing strong person and you deserve much happiness.

I think you have probably reached the point where by you want more than what you are getting right now from husband i.e. another step forward (whatever it may be for your relationship) - keep strong and positive and just remember how far you have come.

Try not to over analyse what you are going to say or do, go from the heart and you'll say exactly what you feel you need to at the time. I'm guessing from all that you have said that OH is probably waiting for you to say something.

Oh and one last thing, agree with BB.... 'Never say you are pathetic' - you are amazing lovely person and don't ever think anything different!!

Be strong,

Choc xx

TooSad

I've done it!!! I've said what I needed to say, he listened and said nothing. He is now in the garage messing with his car! He has not chucked it back in my face, but he hasn't responded either. I think him being in the garage is a good sign as he often goes in there to think.
I am going to give him the letter too which just reiterates what I have said.

I was really worried, but I said we need to talk, and all he said was "I'm listening" and he did and didn't interupt.

It's out there now it's his call what he does about it now!

NTSAM x

RacyRed

Well done! :T:T Fingers crossed for you.

CH27

Well done.
Fingers crossed it works out for you both xx

VestanPance

Best of luck TooSad.

I always think that he isn't thinking about being where he is staying for a long time as he hasnt put any pictures up on the wall, again maybe another clutching at straws moment.

I've not got anything on the walls either, and I've been there 18 months now!