lionheartedgirl promises to let it shine :)

redsquirrel80

Sounds like you're coming to decisions about how much of what you want in your life - good for you

The yoga break sounds amazing!

LittleBoots

Yoga breaks sounds interesting , sounds just what you need actually.

And most of all, the fact that ultimately I am the only one in control of my own destiny, and if I want things to be good and fun, then I had better get a shift on!

Very true , must remember than for myself

Shoe_Gal

Yoga break sounds fab

Wordsmith

lionheartedgirl wrote: »

thanks all I am past the 'things not being as I thought they would be' bit now, in reality things would have been awful :eek: abd I know I am best off out of it.

You are much better out of it. You had a lucky escape and things are much better now than they were or could have been.

lionheartedgirl wrote: »

I need to get over the letdown on the friends front, which still hurts now, and at the moment I can't talk about this without bawling at my counsellor (welling up now!)

I do know how hard it is to let go of feelings of being let down, I really do. But to move forward, you have to let go. Any time you spend holding on to negative feelings is time wasted - you have so many fun and constructive things with which you could be filling that time.

lionheartedgirl wrote: »

I think most of the emotional stuff is the blunt realisation that I was a fool to be so naive and trusting with XF, and not thinking about who was giving and who was taking regarding friends.

Let go of this, too. Beating yourself up about it isn't going to help (you know that - I am not thinking as preachy as I am sounding). You've learnt a lesson that will make your future brighter - the lesson is done, now it's time to enjoy that future.

lionheartedgirl wrote: »

And most of all, the fact that ultimately I am the only one in control of my own destiny, and if I want things to be good and fun, then I had better get a shift on! (to quote the Russell Crowe timestamp Chris Moyles had a while ago :rotfl:). The buck stops here....

Yes, yes, YES!

lionheartedgirl wrote: »

Resisted a beautiful Mulberry Bayswater in Mole Grey Giant Sparkle Leopard. Found a credible 'influenced by' alternative in Debenhams for £22. It's very nice but I am swearing to myself now, it will be the last knock off I will buy. The next one WILL be the real thing.

I am assuming we are talking handbags here (and that assumption is made only by what you have written later)? I admit (not for the first time) to being a complete philistine in this area, but if the Debenham's handbag is nice and it is much cheaper - why are you telling yourself off for not spending your hard-earned cash on the overpriced "real thing". [I am preparing to be shot down in flames by real women.]

lionheartedgirl wrote: »

I have booked 4 days off work in October with a weekend in the middle, and I am off to Spain on a yoga break. I haven't done yoga before but am enjoying Pilates. It had a brilliant write-up in Elle a few months ago, I had torn it out and kept it 'in a safe place'.

This sounds absolutely wonderful. I am green with envy.

lionheartedgirl wrote: »

This means I am :eek: :eek: having to say NO to something harp related :eek: :eek: that I really didn't want to do anyway, and even worse, I am saying NO after I have already said yes! :eek: :eek: :rotfl:

Am I bovvered..... hmmmm! Well yes I am really. But they will understand and I am not bothered if they don't ask me again as I just do not enjoy orchestral stuff.

There is too much going on for you to agree to stuff you don't want to do. If they do ask you again, why don't you just say no?

I sound a bit teachery with all the above, don't I? Sorry for that. Erm, no I'm not. This is your time - do what you have to do (even if it is buying hideously expensive handbags) to live it the way that is already mapped out for you.

Life is too short to wake up with regrets.
Love the people who treat you right.
Forget about the ones who don’t.
Believe everything happens for a reason.
If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands.
If it changes your life, let it.
Nobody said life would be easy.
They just promised it would be worth it.

hypno06

Wordsmith wrote: »

Life is too short to wake up with regrets.
Love the people who treat you right.
Forget about the ones who don’t.
Believe everything happens for a reason.
If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands.
If it changes your life, let it.
Nobody said life would be easy.
They just promised it would be worth it.

Wordsmith - Just......Thank you!

LHG, thank you for your lovely post on my diary today x

lionheartedgirl

thanks again everyone, I love the support I get here, it really keeps me going!

started today with a Darcy Bussell DVD - did the mini programme and a couple of sections from the main bit. Having started the week feeling OK, I have got more and more tense as I have gone on, so this was a fantastic way to start the day and I feel much more pulled out (in a good way)

rehearsals have gone well with my singer and guitarist, and we are off to the pub tonight for a final run through ahead of Sunday. I am looking forward to it (apart from the lugging the harp bit but hey, got to be done).

we have plotted out a few ideas to work on over the next few months, and this involves meeting a few other musicians too so hopefully that will widen the circle a little and generally add a little on the living front!

had a really productive morning's work :eek:

things are coming together on the teaching front which is fab.

the handbag - the real thing is admittedly a label, but is also well made of decent quality stuff and will last a lifetime. There are many ways to justify it (needs vs wants etc!) and it is definitely a want. But spending £20 on an everyday handbag twice a year over the years (which is what I tend to do as I only use one and then find the handles fray on the cheap ones)....you can see where the fashion maths comes in :rotfl:

However I justify it, it's not affordable at the moment but Saturday was a bad day, which happens every now and then and I should really learn to leave my cc at home on such days.

Money stuff is under control. I should finish the year approx £23k in debt, possibly less if the teaching comes along (although another small harp is talking to me......:mad: / - need the angel vs devil smiley here).

The more I think about the considerable lump of debt that is harp, the more I feel that I am going to stop counting this as 'bad' debt to be busted.

Debt it is, but Mum reminded me that a mortgage only tends to last 25 years whereas I could have my harp for 50+ years.... Not sure I am quite ready to admit on here how much it all costs but if you go on a harp website it's not tricky to find out!

I have made a decision - doggies will come in spring next year. Firstly no holiday left for the settling in process, and secondly I have a few building bits to get sorted before then. But, as a work colleague pointed out yesterday, it is lovely to have something so nice to look forward to.

Wordsmith

lionheartedgirl wrote: »

the handbag - the real thing is admittedly a label, but is also well made of decent quality stuff and will last a lifetime. There are many ways to justify it (needs vs wants etc!) and it is definitely a want. But spending £20 on an everyday handbag twice a year over the years (which is what I tend to do as I only use one and then find the handles fray on the cheap ones)....you can see where the fashion maths comes in :rotfl:.

I like your idea of "fashion maths". However, you have not looked at the full equation:

to buy or not to buy = ((cost of label / (quality + durability)) * (girl envy + pulling power)) / ((boredom + datedness) * ("I wants it" * 100))

lionheartedgirl

fashion maths isn't my idea sadly - it's very dubious though. While the Cost Per Wear argument is a very sound one, the idea that by not spending £xxx you don't have on a handbag/dress/motorbike etc, you have 'saved' £x and can spend it on shoes/other motorbikes instead is a rubbish one but still one I am sucked into time and time again! :mad: :rotfl:

What a couple of days. Went to pub last night for a final run through of our jazzy bits for Sunday's concert. It went AMAZINGLY well :j and my harp-related confidence is good (apart from the solo stuff but even that is almost there!)

I got in at midnight and was then buzzing til 1am so took ages to get to sleep.

Just before I went out, I took 20 mins to do a job I have been putting off for months. I have cleared all XF's stuff (trophies and other racing bits) from the cupboard in my living room. I knew the moment would come, and it happened to come yesterday evening. It is a big step and I am glad I have done it, they hold a lot of feelings and things but are now stacked up in the shell of a downstairs toilet

Someone was clearly listening as today I had a lovely message from one of my friends. We had been chatting on FB last week about my being single, he was doing the normal can't understand it, if I wasn't loved up I would etc (which I found quite hurtful even though I knew he meant it in a nice way). He has been a total star and offered to set me up with one of his single friends. I said yes as long as said friend was cool with it. Checked my email, about an hour later I have a friendship request - he looks lovely :cool: loves dogs and likes climbing (which I have done a lot of in the past). Could be promising!

Plus had a hilarious flirt with a guy on the phone when I had to renew my bike insurance. It was a very random conversation, we ended up having a race to see who could find my quote reference first, me from my email or him from his computer. He said what would the prize be. I said he could buy me a new bike if he won the race :rotfl: :cool: He then decided that if he wins the euromillions tomorrow night, we will have a race across Europe to a destination of my choice, him in his car and me on my bike. So I chose Monte Carlo. He said wouldn't it be a funny thing to tell your grandkids that that's how your grandma met your grandpa :rotfl: honestly my face was bright pink!! I gave him my card number to pay for my insurance and told him not to use it to buy euromillions tickets It really brightened the day up even though we both knew nothing would actually come of it :rotfl:

Off to bed now in an attempt to get some decent sleep, plus give my poor fingers a break. my right thumb is killing!

hypno06

Here's to good rehearsals, being set up with nice fellas, and flirting to call centre chaps!

And a big hurrah for sorting out the XF stuff - a big big move in the right direction!

x

satchmo1

LHG

Next step on the Ex's possessions... give him a deadline to collect them with the advice that they'd be disposed of if the deadline passes. (You don't have to say by what method: eBay, carboot, etc.) They shouldn't have to be a constant reminder of what has passed.

Hugs, Satchmo