Teenage (unplanned) pregnancy

ljbnotts

I've not posted before but have been following your story, i'm really pleased your daughter has been able to make the right choice for her. She sounds like a sensible girl from a loving supportive family. Best wishes to you all for the future!

tenmah

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

I can...which is why I said what I said when you first posted.

You seemed to take offence at me suggesting that some perspective was needed but yet the next day was stating that your daughter wouldn't be the first - or last - teenager to get pregnant....and that is exactly what I was angling at. Funny how that perspective kicked in and you went from being an angry and disappointed Dad to a proud as punch Grandad to be.;)

She announced she was pregnant - not that she was desperately ill and that was what I was trying to get across to you....if you took it another way then I'm afraid I can't change that.

You are right in stating that I haven't been in your situ (but there were/are lots of us passing comment who have not been) but I had been in the situ of being nervous of telling my Dad of an unplanned pregnancy albeit at an older age than your daughter.

Hopefully I will never be in the situation you have been but if I am then I would take everyone's comments graciously even if I didn't agree with them...especially if I asked a forum of millions of users who have all differing views and opinions.

I hope the pregnancy goes well for you all and your daughter certainly seems to be as high as a kite so she has clearly made the correct decision.:D

Hopefully you still have your high hopes for her...they maybe have just shifted course!

Good luck to you all (not sure if anyone has mentioned this but there are fabby pregnancy threads on here...maybe your daughter could have a read and join in and have a blether will all the other 'bumpy Mummies to be')

Smug, much? It might not have turned out that way and they way you put things sound very offensive to me. Even when you are trying to be supportive you have to turn it into a defensive remark.

You can never know how you will react until it happens to you, and it is very easy to say 'you should have said this or you shouldn't have reacted that way' etc but when something is a shock, who knows how you will react?

ailuro2

Ah, well done, think you all did a grand job of supporting her and helping her follow her heart not those awful BF's parents!!

Shouldn't the baby be called Martin, or Lewis, or maybe Martine? :money:

haha, just kidding!

Best Wishes to you all!:D

ILoveEoin

WOO HOO:) best wishes to your family x

taxi36

make_me_wise wrote: »

Im just glad that at a time when you needed it most you turned to all the lovely people here and recieved the support you needed. This thread has reminded me that people are really good at heart and there is so much help available if you just reach out for it.

When you wrote that first post, what came across most to me is that you were in deep shock. Being able to talk things through and giving ourselves some time to come to terms with something helps us all see things more clearly and calmly.

I dont know how familiar you are with this forum but there are loads of areas of it that will be able to offer you all the advice you need over the coming months. Im quite new here myself and have been having a good look round it today.

I feel a whole mix of :j:beer::D:T for your family right now.

Thank you!

I fully intend to take a peek around the forum and stay involved, infact the missus and Daughter are joing up too :rotfl: I will make sure they introduce themselves or maybe even tell them that a condition of joining the boards is that they have to adopt the username's MrsTaxi36 and for Daughter how about DDofTaxi36 ? :rotfl:Either way I am sure you will all welcome them just like you welcomed me.

taxi36

neneromanova wrote: »

As this is moneysaving forum I'll do a bit of money saving for you

I found my Graco Quattro with car seat and car clippy in thingy on ebay and won it for £108.
I bought a CotBed (from amazon and don't forget your cashback) so it lasted til DD is 5 (Although DD2 is currently in this and DD has a new "Big Girl" Single bed. But DD2 will now use it til she's 5)

I would say the ONLY new things you need will be a car seat (as if the car seat has been in an accident it needs to be replaced) and a mattress.

I personally took these with DD2 but just the prenatal ones with DD1. I would say these are BRILLIANT. And they're on offer 3for2.

If your DD asks what should she do about her "BF", tell her to just leave him and plan to have the baby on her own. This is what I did. If he comes back then great, if not then oh well, his loss. I also don't know what NI rules are like regarding names on the birth certificate, but I'd think very hard about putting his name on there if they're not together. Over here you need to ask permission from him for pretty much everything. Schools, holidays etc. It's easier just not having his name there.

Sorry if this post sounds bossy by the way. I'm half paying attention to writing this and also watching Team America

Thanks for this , very helpful as it has been so very long since we have had to worry about the essential items required by a Baby.

taxi36

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

I can...which is why I said what I said when you first posted.

You seemed to take offence at me suggesting that some perspective was needed but yet the next day was stating that your daughter wouldn't be the first - or last - teenager to get pregnant....and that is exactly what I was angling at. Funny how that perspective kicked in and you went from being an angry and disappointed Dad to a proud as punch Grandad to be.;)

She announced she was pregnant - not that she was desperately ill and that was what I was trying to get across to you....if you took it another way then I'm afraid I can't change that.

You are right in stating that I haven't been in your situ (but there were/are lots of us passing comment who have not been) but I had been in the situ of being nervous of telling my Dad of an unplanned pregnancy albeit at an older age than your daughter.

Hopefully I will never be in the situation you have been but if I am then I would take everyone's comments graciously even if I didn't agree with them...especially if I asked a forum of millions of users who have all differing views and opinions.

I hope the pregnancy goes well for you all and your daughter certainly seems to be as high as a kite so she has clearly made the correct decision.:D

Hopefully you still have your high hopes for her...they maybe have just shifted course!

Good luck to you all (not sure if anyone has mentioned this but there are fabby pregnancy threads on here...maybe your daughter could have a read and join in and have a blether will all the other 'bumpy Mummies to be')

Loopy , not sure how to respond to you're posts as you seem to be one of the few people who I felt DIDNT offer much sympathy/compassion on my situation. You appeared to make snide comments at the very beginning of the thread and then retreated once I was starting to get my head around the situation.

I was contacted by several (infact MORE than several posters) who told me that you are renowned for you're nastiness and downright !!!!!y comments on the board,this is the reason I didnt even take you're comments on board.

I took some time to read back over a few of you're posts (please dont be flattered here thinking that I gave you headspace because I assure you,I literally spent mins reading back) and realised that the other posters were indeed correct. You ARE a sarcastic individual who (judging from you're posts) makes people feel that they should be eternally grateful to you for you're sarcatic one liners!

Do tell us all Loopy.Is this the reason why you have just returned to the board after a 2 month absence?ARE THE OTHERS CORRECT WHEN THEY SAY THAT YOU WERE BANNED?:rotfl: Please do tell us Loopy what was it you got banned for ?

Seems to me that the board guides/moderaters dont always get it right then because they should have banned you forever!

Sally_A

When's the due date GranddadTaxi??

taxi36

Sally_A wrote: »

When's the due date GranddadTaxi??

Well, the date we are working with is 9th December . Seems like an age away but I know from experience that it will fly by.
My Daughter went to see her Gp even before she had told us about the pregnancy and because of her age and because she was so "up in the air" about what she was going to do , the Gp didnt make any referal for the antenatal care etc, my Daughter said she simply worked from her date of last period and told her that her approximate due date was 9th December.

We understand that this date may change though once the scan and that is done.

Im going to post an update on the bf now.

taxi36

Up-date.
I had a few little celebratory drinks last night and so took the morning off to have a lay in .

My Daughter came into our room all dressed and made up and informed us that she woke this morning to 5 missed calls on her mobile from the bf. The calls were made in the early hours.

When she discovered the calls she called him back and he asked what her plans were for today . She told him she had none and so he asked if they could meet up and go for a walk to talk.

My Daughter agreed to this and so at this point in time that is where she is. She told me before she left the house that she said to bf on the phone this morning "Now, my mind is made up and so if you think that you are going to get me along with your family and railroad me into changing my mind and stressing me out then you need to know that that is just not going to happen".

He then apparently told her that he just wanted to chat to her one to one.

So , im sat here at home hoping that it is all going ok with her. Im hope he isnt upsetting her in any way.

Because certain members of the family on our side knew about the situation I wanted to tell the rest of the family so that no-one is hearing it from a third party and so last nitght we told all the GREAT Grandparents to be ! As expected , once my Wife's Parents heard the news and determined that my Daughter was happy with the news they were fantastic :T. This couple have been rocks to myself and my Wife since the day I have known them and I knew that this situation would be no different. They really are the most amazing people to walk this earth. Within an hour of hearing the news my Daughters head was spinning with what her Granny and Granda were going to do with / for this Baby.

Granda has of course said that he would really like to buy the pram and cot for the baby as it is a tradition in the family that he makes these purchases.

How people get through such situations alone baffles me. Without the love and support of family I just dont know what we would do!

Im rambling now :rotfl:.

I will of course up-date on how the meeting goes with the bf.