Teenage (unplanned) pregnancy

taxi36

jellyhead wrote: »

'old enough to open your legs' is a horrible phrase to use to the father of a teenage girl

I did find this phrase to be quite offensive so thanks for posting you're support.

Plans_all_plans

I am over the moon for you all! I was praying for you all last night at Church. Let your daughter know that the best is yet to come: it'll be hard at times, but you'll get there together in the end.

taxi36

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

I am over the moon for you all! I was praying for you all last night at Church. Let your daughter know that the best is yet to come: it'll be hard at times, but you'll get there together in the end.

So kind. If this has taught me nothing else it has shown me that there are lots of good people in this world.

Kimberley82

Im so glad your daughter has made a decision that she is happy with. I wish your family the very best of luck.

Plans_all_plans

Haha, well I must admit I felt a bit odd: "Dear Lord, please give taxi36 from MSE's daughter the strength and courage to make the right decision!" I hope all goes well for the future and with the scans etc. I think you should be proud of the way you've handled this.

msb5262

Congratulations to the mother to be and grandparents to be - I'm so glad that you've been able to support your daughter to make the decision she really wanted. Just wiping my eyes now, I'm so pleased for you all.

Best wishes - the next few days/weeks/months are going to be hard but it will all be worth it!

love from

MsB

jackieglasgow

Congratulations then on the imminent arrival of your first grandchild. My father became a grandad at the same age for the first time - which is the age I am too, btw - and my niece has brought nothing but a lot of love and joy to the family.

Pollycat

taxi36 wrote: »

We continued talking for another half hour or so and the councellor asked our Daughter if she wanted to share any snippets of the session with us to which our Daughter informed us that she wants to keep her baby.
Our Daughter confirmed what we had suspected all along and that is that she felt pressurised into saying she wanted the termination because this is what the other family wanted.

Well, thank heavens for that. :T

I don't mean that your daughter has decided to keep the baby, but that she has been allowed to come to a decision that SHE is comfortable with.
It's a life-changing decision for her - and I guess for you & her Mum too - so well done that counsellor (and you & her Mum for being supportive).

It did seem pretty obvious from what you posted that she was being pressured/coerced into a termination by her boyfriend's family.

I also thought from what you'd said that she wanted to keep the baby.

Sally_A

I'm welling up , you dealt with it perfectly taxi36. :T:T

make_me_wise

Hi taxi36, both your wife and yourself should be very proud of how you have handled things since finding out your daughter is pregnant. Throughout this whole thread it has come across really clearly that you are a very close and loving family unit.

I think your daughter is wise beyond her years, from things you have said she has realised the enormity of her situation. Despite facing almost unbearable pressure from her bf and his family she has kept her head.

You told her that she has your love and support whatever she decided and gave her the space and time to think things through. You had the insight to arrange for her to see a counsellor and look at things from all angles. She has now been able to reach her decision in a fully informed, calm, non pressured way. Something that is invaluable and will help her in the months to come. Personally I think it may do her good to continue seeing the counsellor sporadically. She may need to talk things through further after advising the bf and his family of her decision. Their reactions may rock her and distress her I fear.

If only all teen mums were looked after as well as your daughter has been, the world would be a much better place. I wish you all well for the future