How much drink???

dearbarbie

wow - he's kinda helping you make the decision. well done you OP, you're very brave. and you can do it!

hippychick1

djdido2 wrote: »

I feel an huge sense of relief. (He did not come home last night) and am shocked at how calm I feel at what the future holds for us. I think all the lovely replies and support here has really helped, so thank you.

Probably be on here quite alot now as I am gonna be a single parent to three kids with a mortgage yikes:eek:

Hiya. I've been following this thread, our situations are sooo similar! You are me three years ago. I posted on here asking for advice, and the support I received was fantastic, and I eventually left, realising he would never change.

I too felt such relief!!! Once I moved out into my own (rented) house, it was just me in control, all the stress and worries I had been carrying around just lifted. It is tough work as a single parent, but I am now in control. I know all the money in my acount is mine, and it won't be raided to buy drink, cigarettes or the latest gadget. I also have three young children, and I am a full time student. You will manage, and it will become easier over time.

My soon to be ex husband still drinks, still doesn't think it is a problem. Well that is no longer my concern, it is his girlfriends, who has just had his baby. I still to this day wonder why I didn't leave sooner, and regret spending a decade with this man. You'll make a new life for yourself and your children and he will still be in the same place ten years from now. Good luck to you!!

belfastgirl23

hippychick1 wrote: »

Hiya. I've been following this thread, our situations are sooo similar! You are me three years ago. I posted on here asking for advice, and the support I received was fantastic, and I eventually left, realising he would never change.

I too felt such relief!!! Once I moved out into my own (rented) house, it was just me in control, all the stress and worries I had been carrying around just lifted. It is tough work as a single parent, but I am now in control. I know all the money in my acount is mine, and it won't be raided to buy drink, cigarettes or the latest gadget. I also have three young children, and I am a full time student. You will manage, and it will become easier over time.

My soon to be ex husband still drinks, still doesn't think it is a problem. Well that is no longer my concern, it is his girlfriends, who has just had his baby. I still to this day wonder why I didn't leave sooner, and regret spending a decade with this man. You'll make a new life for yourself and your children and he will still be in the same place ten years from now. Good luck to you!!

I remember your original thread too hippychick and am so glad it all worked out for you

djdido2 sounds like you've taken things in hand. And also sounds like as you say he's made it easy for you to know you're making the right decision. Keep posting if you need support!!

mackemdave

God 40 pints a week,living on takeaways and sitting in a taxi all day long.....Does he have a weight problem...if not he soon will have.

Disgusting that someone who depends on his licence for HIS livelihood should drunk so much....

Emmzi

you have been a single mum for ages already hon.. you just have one less kid/ lump of flab in your life now.

Good luck - change the locks!!

jakem_2

djdido2 wrote: »

God know, I dont know anyone on this earth that would put up with him other than me.

He does not contribute anything because in his words he has spent a fortune in the last few weeks. (He brought me a flat screen TV for about £200 for Mother's day, my tv was old fashioned but it was sufficient and I am not one for fancy gadgets I will make do with what I have)

Yes I am a mug and I have realised this but now I have a massive backlash of his tactics (he has contacted my sister and asked her to have a word with me as I am going mental)

I asked him to leave last night and he got up and went, only to return hours later and go upstairs and get into bed. He is intimidating and thinks HE IS RIGHT. I have had to text to tell him to him I want him to leave and so far he hasn't been back.

BUT HE WILL SHOW UP LATER:(

Your not mental, but he is driving you mental, and as for the TV, give me a break, he's bought you that to keep you happy watching the TV so he can still go out and do his drinking, mine bought me a TV for the bedroom and digibox thing, so he could watch what he wanted downstairs after his jaunts, while I went upstairs in the bedroom watching mine, christ! when I look back and remember what I put up with I get a bit ashamed of myself, and I had no kids at home either, but one day you wake up and the worm turns, I did.

Please let us know how things pan out for you, I will be crossing my fingers and wishing you well, I do know what you are going through <<<hugs>>>

northern_at_heart

Well done. I think you know that you have made the right decision, not just for yourself but for your children.

You sound like a lovely, strong, woman and a great mum and I wish you all the best. I'm sure things will get better for you and you will never regret it. You deserve so much more than the life you were living.

Caroline_a

Well done! When I left my ex i felt like my shoulders had lifted up about a foot, the stress just vanished!

ailuro2

Good Luck and Best Wishes, very exciting isn't it, realising today really is the first say of the rest of your life? :beer: <-- that's creamola foam in the glasses, not beer, since you're pg.;)