Can't control my jealousy & insecurity

pupsicola

Excuse my ignorance but what is a CPN?

LadyMorticia

pupsicola wrote: »

Excuse my ignorance but what is a CPN?

Community Psychiatric Nurse.

blue_monkey_2

lookingforsun wrote: »

blue_monkey, thanks. His son is now grown up & away at university. He has never harmed me or our baby, suprisingly he is the most gentle, tender, patient man with her... he is a really good dad - really good, which makes it harder & more confusing.

Nope he never arranged for someone to sit with me.

Yes I would like to know his issues

He might be a good dad, he is NOT a good husband or partner. I am sorry if that upsets you. And you have absolutely no idea what he is hiding. I am sorry if that worries you but he is hiding things for a reason and I am not even going to begin to list them here.

I have no idea how you go about finding out what his issues are, maybe someone in the know will know more than me, but something just does not sit right with me. You are married to the guy, you have a child (possibly 2) together and you have no idea what his 'serious mental health' problems are.

Have you ever googled his name to find out whether he has a past that has been in the news....?

Believe me though, I am sure you have been told different but this paranoia is not your fault, this is what he and your sister have done to you, they have made you this way so don't you blame yourself for your feelings. This is what abusers do, turn it all onto you so everything is your fault. Have a virtual ((((((hug)))))), I guess it has been a long day and you need uit.

*Louise*

Hmmmm

Lot of stuff has appeared since I last read this thread.

OP - I had a strong suspicion I had read another thread by you in the past - you were the poster whose husband naffed off to a nudist beach without you not long after you married and when you were heavily pregnant aren't you? In fact, I know you are, because every detail matches up. (Don't worry, I'm not going to post a link to it)

In that thread you stated:
'I know he would threaten to keep her to hurt me'

referring to your DD. Is this the real reason why you are scared to leave him?? He kept his son from his previous relationship so you are scared he will keep your daughter too

You have had post after post telling you you are in an abusive relationship and you should get away from him but I bet you will sit and put up with this most recent behaviour yet again and you will be back in another 6 months under another username with a different problem.

Do you want your daughter to grow up and think this is how women are meant to be treated? Walked over and accused of being paranoid for daring to question something? (especially when the hubby is as guilty as hell!)

You would be better off on your own with your DD than putting up with al his nonsense. I really hope you realise this soon xx

bestpud

lookingforsun wrote: »

bestspud, from what I can gather he feels our baby is not a problem in his life, so not worth mentioning. He had custody of his son, after his divorce & was ill then and obviously his CPN knew that. I read about his serious mental illness, on a form he had to send to IB, and that was written by his CPN as evidence

I can only echo what others have said - there is a serious problem here!

I've seen CPNs and also a pyschologist and counsellor in the past, and you don't just talk about stuff that is going wrong and completely fail to mention stuff like that!

His CPN will undoubtedly ask him how his relationship is going and general stuff like that.

You have a CPN, so would you leave out something as important as a child...? Of course not!

I really don't want to think you are winding us up, but I just can't get my head round you thinking this is ok!

To put it another way - if he is such a great father then why wouldn't he mention his child, out of pride, if nothing else? Let's face it, you and your little one don't feature to heavily in his thoughts if he doesn't ever discuss what goes on at home, do you?

bestpud

*Louise* wrote: »

Hmmmm

Lot of stuff has appeared since I last read this thread.

OP - I had a strong suspicion I had read another thread by you in the past - you were the poster whose husband naffed off to a nudist beach without you not long after you married and when your DD was a few months old aren't you? In fact, I know you are, because every detail matches up. (Don't worry, I'm not going to post a link to it)

In that thread you stated:
'I know he would threaten to keep her to hurt me'

referring to your DD. Is this the real reason why you are scared to leave him?? He kept his son from his previous relationship so you are scared he will keep your daughter too

You have had post after post telling you you are in an abusive relationship and you should get away from him but I bet you will sit and put up with this most recent behaviour yet again and you will be back in another 6 months under another username with a different problem.

Do you want your daughter to grow up and think this is how women are meant to be treated? Walked over and accused of being paranoid for daring to question something? (especially when the hubby is as guilty as hell!)

You would be better off on your own with your DD than putting up with al his nonsense. I really hope you realise this soon xx

I'm gonna be honest and say I'm really not sure all this is genuine.

If it is, then it is possible the OP thrives on this kind of 'yes, but...' conversation.

Get some help, OP, whatever the truth of all this is - you clearly have serious issues in your life, I'm sorry to say.

brummiebabe

I'm a CPN and can't imagine working with someone for any period of time & not knowing their family/home situation! It's key part of the assessment process as it can have such an impact uopn recovery/coping skills etc. Does his/your CPN not do home visits? If you each have a CPN allocated I would be very surprised if they're not communicating, at some level.

bestpud

This is surely the OP as well as the thread mentioned above (a different username again!!!):

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2667165

Interestingly she has an 18 year old son in that thread and he doesn't seem a caring father to me!

*Louise*

bestpud wrote: »

I'm gonna be honest and say I'm really not sure all this is genuine.

If it is, then it is possible the OP thrives on this kind of 'yes, but...' conversation.

Get some help, OP, whatever the truth of all this is - you clearly have serious issues in your life, I'm sorry to say.

It's 8 months since the thread I found was posted - all the details match up, from the son at uni, the ages of the DD, the medical problems etc.

So either the OP is

a) The best troll I have ever seen with an amazing memory for detail
b) A genuine person in trouble and scared to make a move to help herself
c) Someone who thrives on all the drama.

Who knows for sure?

*Louise*

bestpud wrote: »

This is surely the OP as well as the thread mentioned above (a different username again!!!):

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2667165

Interestingly she has an 18 year old son in that thread and he doesn't seem a caring father to me!

Also 'violent tendancies':eek: