Is DD's friend a thief?

bizzybee

I would appreciate some advice on something that has happened today.

DD had a classmate stay last night and today they went into town shopping. As ususal I nagged her about keeping her purse zipped up in her bag at all times. Her firned had her purse in DD's bag too so I stressed it was even more important that the bag was kept zipped up.

They got home, bags were dumped on the coffee table whilst they went upstairs. I checked her bag and was pleased to see her purse was in there along with her friend's purse.

They came back down for food in the kitchen and DD's friend asked if she could get her purse out of DD's bag. Yes, said DD and carried on chatting to me.

Half an hour later DD's friend's dad came to collect and off they went.

We then went to go out to get DVDs and DD went to get her purse only to find it gone!

I know it was there, I saw it with my own eyes. Sadly there is only one conclusion we can come to, her friend has taken it.

DD called her friend to ask if she had accidentally picked it up by mistake and she no and then hung up.

So what do we do?

happy35

you have two options really, either put it down to experience and never let her alone in your house again and your daughter will have to watch her things like a hawk if they still want to be friends

Or contact her parents and tell them that you had seen the purse in the bag, when their daughter left so did the purse

How old are they? How much money was in the purse? What does your daughter want to do about the situation?

bizzybee

They are 13. DD is very upset, there was about £5 in coins but also 2 New Look vouchers that she got for her birthday.

DD just can't comprehend how someone would so blatantly steal form her.

hellokittygal

I would contact the girls parents and ask them to look and speak to her, as to me the way she quickly hung up the phone would indicate some guilt to me.

She needs stopping now, if she has stolen it, before she goes down a path of theft and possibly lands herself in jail when she is older.

jinky67

hellokittygal wrote: »

I would contact the girls parents and ask them to look!

I would too, explain you saw the purse yourself so your dd is not lying

*max*

Maybe she took your daughter's purse by mistake? I would ask you daughter to give her friend a call and simply ask! Don't go in with all guns blazing, it could be a simple mistake.

bizzybee

Thanks for your advice, I have just left a message on the home phone, hopefully I will get a response.

bizzybee

*max* DD has called her friend to ask just that question nad she said no and then hung up!

*max*

Oh....well, if you are absolutely positive your daughter's purse was in the bag, and your daughter didn't take it out herself and maybe doesn't remember (I know, unlikely!) then her friend must have taken it. Blimey, that's some bare-faced thievery there! I'm quite shocked a so-called friend would do something like that! Let us know what her parents say.

Edit: I'm sorry, I hadn't seen that your daughter had already phoned her when I first posted!

happy35

if there was £5 and some vouchers in I would definitely contact the parents as that is a lot of money

I am not surprised your daughter is upset you dont expect your friends to steal from you

pigpen

I would ring and ask to speak to her parents and ask them to keep an eye out.. describe DD's purse to them and tell them exactly what was in it.. if she turns up with stuff from new look the receipts will say whether it was paid cash or voucher.. Emphasise that you saw it there.

Is it possible that it fell out of or was taken from DD's bag after she left the house? Could it be in the car or have dropped elsewhere though before you ring the girls parents?