Is DD's friend a thief?

themull1

Keep trying to phone.

pigpen

Just checking in to see if there's an update..

Somewhat off the original topic.. but.. Fang isn't a menopausal sex starved hormone deficient battleaxe???? I thought She just was needing a good seeing to.. or HRT.. or something.. All is now explained.. a man.. heehee.. same difference ...

Sorry Fang.. but you remind me of my mother.. I quite like my mother... mostly.

I am sat giggling now..

(all written in a light hearted manner and not meant to be insulting in any way I just thought you'd be amused by my silliness)

onlyroz

In the case of the stolen £9.40 all in 20ps I think the evidence is clear-cut, and the child's mother is being ridiculous in continuing to stick by her thieving offspring.

In the case of the stolen purse, I'm not sure there's enough evidence to say categorically that a theft took place - so I'd speak to the parents about it. If the supposed thief didn't own up then I'd let it go, but I'd encourage my own child to be careful around them.

mountainofdebt

Here's hoping that it has been resolved and that the OP simply hasn't responded as she's being pampered becuase it's Mothering Sunday.

However,on the off chance it hasn't, then I think she will also have to consider what approach her daughter should take tomorrow when she sees the other girl tomorrow in school

pulliptears

If DD has a friend round I usually insist on PSP, DS, Money etc be put away in a cupboard in another room than her bedroom. She's 13 so brings girls home I don't know especially well. I've always felt quite guilty for not really trusting them but I think having read this its probably the safer option.

I know when I was a child a watch my Dad had bought for me vanished from the top of the fireplace when a friend visited. We could never prove it and it was never mentioned but it couldn't have gone anywhere else. Sad thing is this was 30 years ago and I still see the girl occasionally to speak to. It certainly tainted a friendship.

mrbrightside842

Any news, OP?

bizzybee

Sorry I didn't post the outcome of this sooner but thenk you for all your posts.

I did phone the girl's parents and spoke to her father who asked his daughter and she denied that she had stolen anything.

Later that evening the girl's mother called me and said that she had finally got her daughter to admit that she had stolen the purse. She had thrown the purse away, spent the money but still had the vouchers that she would return to my daughter the next day at school.

Her mother was very apologetic and offered various reasons why her daughter may have done it, none of which seemed plausible.

The next day at school the vouchers were returned and the girl told my daughter that the reason she did it was because she was being bullied.

By this time I felt I was immersed in fairy tale book and had had enough so I called the school and spoke to the pastoral care person and explained what had happened and that the girl in question may be being bullied. She said she would speak to both my daughter and her 'friend' separately and then see what action my daughter wanted to take as they take theft and bullying very seriously even it has happened outside school.

It turned out that the girl was being bullied in school which wasl dealt with immediately. My daughter said it wasn't worth making a fuss over the theft because she had to see the girl every day at school for the next 5 years and didn't want things to be awkward. She has also not told anyone about it.

I had another call from the girl's mother a few weeks later saying that they would replace the purse and the money but nothing ever came of it. She was grateful for what I had done as she wasn't aware that her daughter was being bullied and she was even more grateful that my daughter had decided not to make a big deal of the matter.

So I think we have all learnt some lessons...and we now lock things away when people are staying over, a sad fact but better to be safe than sorry.

Kay_Peel

"I stole from my friend's purse because some other kids were bullying me" Pardon?

I've heard some 'mitigating circumstances' in my time, but that takes the biscuit.

Thank you for posting the update.

Gigervamp

Kay_Peel wrote: »

"I stole from my friend's purse because some other kids were bullying me" Pardon?

I've heard some 'mitigating circumstances' in my time, but that takes the biscuit.

Thank you for posting the update.

Maybe the bullies had told her they wanted money and the only way she could get money was by stealing it.

Thanks for the update OP.

cord123

My friends little brother, 12, had a sleepover for his birthday. All was good kids had fun, left the next day. 2 days later they realised the playstation was missing..... one of his friends must have taken it. They are pretty sure they know what boy it was but obviously cant accuse him of it cause of the other 4 boys there. His mum just mentioned it to all the mums to look out for it - played out like her some may have lent it out stupidly not thinking..... never heard anything back!