Is DD's friend a thief?

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Not relevant to the subject, I just wanted to say I find it really, really annoying when people stick a smiley face after an intentionally cutting comment..."Ah, but you're really a tw4t, aren't you? ". Or "That's because you're a moron. "

Aaaaargh...

Sorry, mini-rant over!

asbokid

toniq wrote: »

I have to be able to trust people, especially people I allow into my house, The friend stated to me quite clearly I had no right to accuse her daughter and couldn't believe I had the nerve to come to her doorstep with wild assumptions, She wouldn't have a barr of it and got very vocal,If i hadn't warned her back she would have got physical. Even when proven wrong no apology was ever forthcoming.

I don't like stuff like that in my life, I also don't want to be suspicious of guests, so would rather not have contact or be around someone who can't deal with things without a kickoff.

Aww! Have some compassion. See the flip side. What outcome did you want? Would you have been content to get the purse back? Or did you want the satisfaction of seeing her own daughter squirm with humiliation? If, indeed, the child did steal the purse in a moment of madness, you can bet that her mum knows that her daughter nicked it. But it's commonplace for a mother to unswervingly defend her child. There is an in-built protective instinct in most all mothers, and its admirable. That's why snitching mothers who grass on their own children are so unusual that they make the national news..

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1346672/Tuition-fees-rioter-Edward-Woollard-jailed-mother-Tania-Garwood-turns-in.html

abby1234519

My two pence is that I was a compulsive thief as a child and teenager, if I had been there I might have taken the purse. I didn't understand consequences as a child, or rather I did I just chose to ignore them. It was only till I got to 19 that I taught myself that the consequence is there for a reason.

If I was caught I wouldn't do it again ONLY because I had been caught.
So she is right to ask the parents.

poet123

sjc3 wrote: »

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Balls of steel, you are braver than me, crossing FANG

:T:rotfl:he's a puss....y cat;)

uolypool

My friend use to come to my house everyday during the school term and her daughter used to play in my daughters bedroom, My dd had a jewellery box with earrings, a bangle that her nana had bought her and a st christopher necklace I got her when she was born.This was on a high shelf in her room and she knew that she wasnt to play with it, but had an old jewellery box with "junk" jewels " that she could wear.I kept finding her proper box moved but didnt really take much notice , until I realised that the bangle and 2 pairs of earrings were missing.I searched high and low for them and couldnt find them anywhere, so the box was removed and put in my room. Well the Christmas after my "friend" had a party for the kids and whilst my daughter was in the daughters bedroom she came across the bangle and brought it down to me .Friend tried telling me that it was her daughters and I was mistaken , inside the bangle was "TO 875643 love Nana" So I knew it was my daughters , I just gathered my children together and left with the parting words "I refuse to be friends with someone who has a thief for a daughter" and left.To this day we have never spoken.I personally in your case OP would speak to the girls parents rationally as it isnt them who you think has stolen the purse, and take it from there.Sorry I cannot suggest any help.

Fang_3

ViolaLass wrote: »

But she isn't being presumed, is she? That's the point. There's no proof at the moment, only circumstantial evidence.

You're aware this is an internet forum and not a court of law? The evidence may be circumstantial, but it all points towards to the girl having done it.;)

asbokid

Fang wrote: »

You're aware this is an internet forum and not a court of law? The evidence may be circumstantial, but it all points towards to the girl having done it.;)

Who elected you as chairman of the jury?! The MSE Court needs to hear all the evidence. The aggrieved mother should take the stand and swear that she is sure that her own daughter had no involvement in the disappearance of the purse!

snookey

My son when he was little took five pounds from a little boys saving box. The mother was not going to mention it until I got talking to her a few weeks later . Id been telling her that Id told my son off for stealing fifty pence from my purse and had told him Id be talking to the police if it happened again. Anyway I was shocked and really upset, first because he had stolen from the child and secondly that the mum had not told me sooner.
My son was marched to the childs house and made to give his birthday money of five pounds to the child and he had to apologise to both mother and son. Thankfully he did not steal after that.

Pollycat

bizzybee wrote: »

Thanks for your advice, I have just left a message on the home phone, hopefully I will get a response.

I've just flicked through this thread hoping for an update from the OP.

bizzybee - did this girl's parents ring you back?

pupsicola

asbokid wrote: »

Who elected you as chairman of the jury?! The MSE Court needs to hear all the evidence. The aggrieved mother should take the stand and swear that she is sure that her own daughter had no involvement in the disappearance of the purse!

:T:rotfl: Puss....y cat to bengal tiger in one post :rotfl::T