ex and holidays

Broken_hearted

Ignore Fang they like to stir things, take a deep breath and think another couple of years and it will be out of your hands.

rachbc

I'd figured that already BrokenHearted -unforunately as OH and DS (and probably ex too lol) would tell you I do like to have the last word (and of course deep down I know he's right....:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:)

And absolutely oh and I were saying the same today - 5 more years til he's 18 then we only have to worry about seating plans at weddings lol!

Zoetoes

Fang wrote: »

I didn't say it was your fault. But your bitterness is coming across loud and clear. I just worry that your son will notice it too.

OP is not coming across as bitter at all, she is coming across as torn.

You, on the other hand, are coming across as an antagonistic idiot.

POPPYOSCAR

For what its worth I personally think you are being more than reasonable.

My OH never had his kids(my step-children) at christmas and had to fight for one week in the summer holidays.

themull1

I would let my child go on both holidays, too good an opportunity to miss.

monkeychops

I too would let my child go on the holidays - good experience

Kay_Peel

Who in their right mind would want to go to Malaysia between November and February?

It's relatively cheap - but only because it's the monsoon season and most of the hotels, restaurants and touristy places close. It rains and storms everywhere except the ugly dump on the southernmost tip, which gets the sun. You'll need wellies, cagoules and rainhats but it's also desirable to pack plenty of books and playing cards too because (so I've heard from friends) there won't be anything to do except sit around the hotel.

In recent years the weather in that region has got worse and worse - you only have to read reviews on forums like the Lonely Planet or Trip Advisor. I'm not saying it's dangerous, but let's just say that I wouldn't go at Christmas. There's nothing worse than an exotic holiday that turns into a wash-out.

Has your ex done his homework on Malaysia or has he just looked at the price?

kimmi_b

themull1 wrote: »

I would let my child go on both holidays, too good an opportunity to miss.

I can't understand all the posters advising the OP to let her son go on both trips because "it's too good an opportunity to miss". What happens if the ex offers ANOTHER unmissable holiday the following year, and the year after that? OP will never get to holiday with her son if the ex's offerings are perceived as being better. Why should time spent with family at home be dismissed as not good enough as a trip to Malaysia?

I agree that the child should have the choice between the two but not both and think the OP is quite right to be cross about her ex taking the pee.