Drunken Partners ~ Feel So Upset

Emmzi

I agree with posting it to facebook each time it happens, your wall and his so he can't delete it all.

With pictures.

If it is ok not to do anything about it then it must be ok to tell people, right?

Filing that, I'd send him home to mummy until he's stopped wetting himself like a child. One to look after will be enough.

katerinasol

tod123 wrote: »

I think you are making a fuss about nothing OP , so he likes a drink and pees in the cupboard , many men do this , its not the end of the world if thats the only problem you have.

Try not to listen to the spinsters who propagate threads like these , they just want to get another member for their lonely club, misery does love company after all.

I've never met a single man who's done that, and I'm far from a spinster. Are you serious? That's such a disgusting thing to do.

lostinrates

katerinasol wrote: »

I've never met a single man who's done that, and I'm far from a spinster. Are you serious? That's such a disgusting thing to do.

Hate to say it, because I agree its disgusting, but I have, and have had friends who have, and even heard my mother and her friends talking about it with disgust when I was small. (I remember a story about a trouser press, before the grown ups over for coffee realised I was in the room:D)

its not totally uncommon but that doesn't make it acceptable.

Personally I wouldn't pee on the floor and make him clean it, because just as I don't want to live with someone who acts like an untrained animal I don't want to be one myself. I can' imagine any of my husbands friends boasting about it...my husband would be revolted or think the chap was ill. I don't know what I'd do if I were you OP. Maybe show him the thread, to start a discussion, let him know how seriously you take it. And yes, some water at him next time..or a yell.. and get him to clean it up himself THEN. While you call his mother and weep ...




edit: just to make it clear, when I said ''I have'' I meant I have ..known of it happening....not I've done it myself! I mean mean I've known have done it. I'm a woman and don't get drunk, and when I did when I was younger never ot so drunk I ddn't know where I was piddling. Within my own experience this appears t be a male only thing.

Nixer

There was a conversation about this at a previous workplace of mine after one guy said he had wandered into his girlfriend's parents' room and p1ssed in their wardrobe. He knew he'd done it because they put the light on mid-slash and remonstrated with him. About 5 or 6 of the guys had weed in wardrobes or cupboards. Incidentally the first guy is now married to said woman.

Maybe I just know a lot of drinkers, but I wouldn't say it was that rare. Repeatedly doing it when in a long term relationship with someone is, I'm guessing, rarer.

RacyRed

tealady wrote: »

I would be soooo tempted to take his fave electronic gadget and put it where he is peeing. When he surfaces next day and realises he has trashed his xbox/laptop/whatever he may decide it wasn't worth the drinking.

Errrrr, just make sure an electrical item is unplugged first. :eek:
Or not.... depending on how much you object to such a disgusting act

Gingham_Ribbon

louise3965 wrote: »

Oh my lord, not in my world they dont. Men that pee in wardrobes are sad, losers as far as I'm concerned. I learned bladder control at about 18 months and think thats the same for normal people.

He's sleep walking, not choosing to do it.

For heaven's sake. The OP said they were happy together apart from his sleepwalking after an occasional boozy night.

This isn't a loser we're talking about. It's a bloke who needs to either stop drinking or clean up after himself.

Gingham_Ribbon

katerinasol wrote: »

I've never met a single man who's done that, and I'm far from a spinster. Are you serious? That's such a disgusting thing to do.

My ex did it in a drawer in a hotel once.

He was sleepwalking so I don't see how he could be expected to control it. He cleaned it up himself and was mortified that it had happened.

It's an odd thing. Why would someone's brain tell them to open a drawer to pee in? But then it's hardly within his control, is it?

Emmzi

you have an illness that makes you slap your partner when you eat chocolate.

do you
a) stop eating chocolate or
b) think "it's only a little slap, I'll just have a wee kit-kat now and then."

There's a choice here.

He's making bad choices.

It's still abusive even if it isn't a physical slap.

The weeing when drunk may not be under his control.

The drinking in the first place is.

euronorris

Nixer wrote: »

There was a conversation about this at a previous workplace of mine after one guy said he had wandered into his girlfriend's parents' room and p1ssed in their wardrobe. He knew he'd done it because they put the light on mid-slash and remonstrated with him. About 5 or 6 of the guys had weed in wardrobes or cupboards. Incidentally the first guy is now married to said woman.

Maybe I just know a lot of drinkers, but I wouldn't say it was that rare. Repeatedly doing it when in a long term relationship with someone is, I'm guessing, rarer.

Yeah, one off incidents are fairly common.

One of my brothers did it once, after drinking too much on a night out with friends. He came home and p'ssed on the end of the bed! :eek: He was rightly embarrassed, and received an earful from his wife, and he's never done it again since.

Even I did it once, at 16, after getting very drunk for the first time. I decided, in my intoxicated state, that the washing basket was the toilet. I barely have any recollection, but my parents let me know! I was only 2 feet away from the actual toilet too, so they were trying to persuade me to move, but were also very worried I would fall down the stairs as the stairs were inbetween the washing basket and the toilet. I was sooooo embarrassed the next day, had the hangover from h'll, and felt so bad about my parents staying awake worrying about me all night. I've never done it again. In fact, these days I barely drink, and I don't like to be drunk anymore, so I stop after 2 or 3 drinks.

Repeatedly doing this though, is a BIG problem, IMO. If he can't have a drink without getting bladdered, then he should stop drinking. Full stop.

Think about it people, if he was getting into fights everytime after getting too drunk, and saying he 'can't help it' when one drink becomes 10, you'd all be saying that he should stop drinking then. Full stop. Why is p'ssing all over the house acceptable? He's a grown man, not a child, and as such, should take responsibility for his own choices.

I know the feeling of one drink becoming 6, 7, more, but I recognised it and then decided to give up alcohol completely for 3 months in order to change my attitude towards it.

Repeating the same actions over and over again, and expecting a different result is madness!

lostinrates

euronorris wrote: »

I know the feeling of one drink becoming 6, 7, more, but I recognised it and then decided to give up alcohol completely for 3 months in order to change my attitude towards it.

Repeating the same actions over and over again, and expecting a different result is madness!

FWIW I do this every year, new year to the end of March. I take a nght off for valentine's sometimes (didn't this year) and still cook with alcohol in meals I normally add it to, but otherwise run ''dry''. I would take the opportunity if somethig remarkable was offered though I think. It stems from the run up to NY being very boozy and just feeling a period of time off is probably of benefit to the liver. We like long cocktails and jugs of Pimms in the summer (and goodness knows one is grateful for a nice glass of something when stuck next to a bore at a summer wedding!) so the spring is a good time to take off for me. Its a nice discipline, a little like Lenten fasting or something. And it does me good. DH drinks less but still does drink sometimes during this period. That's fine by me, he's actually a fairly light drinker.