Drunken Partners ~ Feel So Upset

Jox

Please don't clean up after him again..... he should sleep on the sofa after a night on the lash, put a plastic sheet on the sofa......he shouldn't pee in your bed and force you out. He can sleep in the wet if he does....keep a plastic sheet on your bed as well....the mattress must be soaked with his urine.....it's so unacceptable....filming him peeing everywhere is a good idea.....he would never put up with you urinating all over the house and he wouldn't clean up after you

pearl123

As drunk as he gets - he is a danger. If he does not recognise that it's not a toilet where he choosing to urinate then his brain has departed him at that moment. He, whilst in such a condition could do anything - knock over a baby cot - anything! He need to be told clearly that it is the end for safety sake as both of their lives are about to change perminantly. It is time to choose the baby and family life or the lads and booze. A Responsible adult would of course know the way to go!
He does need a wake up call. Maybe is she has a video camera she could video him whilst so very drunk. It must be so stressful for her so close to giving birth. Selfish man. He appears to be just thinking about himself.
If this pattern of behaviour carries on then you've got a bit of a problem.
Best of luck. I hope he see's what is important in life.

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Mrs_P_Pincher wrote: »

Whether or not he is alcohol dependent, this is a man with a drink problem. He is a binger, he knows he's a binger and he's stuck in the cycle of being really sorry and then when the dust has settled, going out and doing it again.

If you bargain with him, you are lost. He will make the bargain and then ignore it.

I remember asking my OH not to drink in the run up to our baby's birth in case he had to take me to hospital. Did he take any notice? No! There was always a reason why he had to have a drink, principally the stress of the forthcoming birth!

OP won't want to hear this at this time, and who can blame her, but unless this man decides himself that he is going to sort this out and stop behaving in this way, this relationship is doomed, not just because of the consequences of the drinking ie the peeing everywhere, but because of all the behaviours that go with it.

When a counsellor told me this when my baby was 6 months old, I was not ready to hear it, and I stuck it for another 8 years of abuse, let downs, bargains, violence etc etc. I had a breakdown when it finally ended and was out of commission for 18 months. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

Think on OP.

Mrs PP

This is it, the nail on the head. At the moment the OP is in denial but it is a very different thing having a partner who uses any wall as a toilet and having the same in a house with a new born baby.

What about him doing cooking when in this state, crashing about into things, falling down, all manner of otherwise innocuous things which can be dangerous. This is on top of the fact that at this late stage he shouldn't be out on the sauce anyway.

There isn't a good thing to say about this however you wrap it up.

Kt8

contact your local community alcohol/drugs team or go thru your gp, as he is displaying early signs of hazardous drinking behaviour.
a few one off sessions even together may help and can do wonders?
good luck

louise3965

next time he gets so !!!!ed, shove some choc buttons near his !!!! crack (if you can bear it) and put a couple of those tiny plaque disclosing tablets in his mouth and he will think he is bleeding to death orally and has !!!! himself. never tell him the truth, let him worry for a week he is truly ill. What a knob he is.

jinky67

louise3965 wrote: »

next time he gets so !!!!ed, shove some choc buttons near his !!!! crack (if you can bear it) and put a couple of those tiny plaque disclosing tablets in his mouth and he will think he is bleeding to death orally and has !!!! himself. never tell him the truth, let him worry for a week he is truly ill. What a knob he is.

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Primrose

This is terrible for you when you are so heavily pregnant but I think you have to face the fact you could well be married to an alcholic in the making, and that unless something happens very soon, he is not going to change. He probably thinks that his behaviour is "blokeish" and acceptable. It is not, and you have to ask yourself now whether you're prepared to spend the rest of your married life putting up with this behaviour, and whether this is the sort of environment in which to bring up a child. Getting drunk after a rugby match is just the start. Soon it could be other nights in the week, and slipping out to the pub whenever the baby is crying because he can't stand the noise. This kind of behaviour normally just goes down a slippery slope.

I'd wait until he's thoroughly sober, sit him down and give him an ultimatum. Tell him that unless he goes to Alcoholic Anonymous and gets help for his drinking problem, you're going to ask him to move out of the house because his drinking makes him behave like an animal. Ask him how he would feel if his all his rugby mates, his work colleagues, his family and your neighbours knew how he behaved. He'd be mortified and hugely embarrassed. I'd tell him that this is what is going to happen unless he changes his ways. Remind him that he's about to become a parent and a rather in three weeks' time and that's it's about time he grew up and accepted some responsbility for his behaviour. And tell him that he might as well get into a non-drinking habit now in case your baby arrives early and you need him to drive you to hospital. If he's been anywhere near a bottle when you're ready to give birth, ask the nursing staff to ban him from the room. The fact that he was banned from his child's birth because he was drunk could end up being a lifetime's humiliating reminder for him of his behaviour.

tod123

I think you are making a fuss about nothing OP , so he likes a drink and pees in the cupboard , many men do this , its not the end of the world if thats the only problem you have.

Try not to listen to the spinsters who propagate threads like these , they just want to get another member for their lonely club, misery does love company after all.

building_with_lego

tod123 wrote: »

I think you are making a fuss about nothing OP , so he likes a drink and pees in the cupboard , many men do this , ....

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Not grown men.
None that I've met, anyhoo.

louise3965

tod123 wrote: »

I think you are making a fuss about nothing OP , so he likes a drink and pees in the cupboard , many men do this , its not the end of the world if thats the only problem you have.

Try not to listen to the spinsters who propagate threads like these , they just want to get another member for their lonely club, misery does love company after all.

Oh my lord, not in my world they dont. Men that pee in wardrobes are sad, losers as far as I'm concerned. I learned bladder control at about 18 months and think thats the same for normal people.