Drunken Partners ~ Feel So Upset

madison-nyc

Get him some tena lady pants for when he's had a drink! problem solved and mess avoided!

building_with_lego

Rach39 wrote: »

My ex used to do this - I even woke up one night to find him peeing on me!! Final straw was when he did 'number 2' in bed after a particularly heavy session - coupled with all the other carp i had put up with from him, 99% of it related to alcohol.

I asked my OH earlier (in his capacity as a bloke who used to like a drink) about how many people he had known who would have peed in the wrong place regularly. He actually knew lots who had done it, including one who'd done the 'number 2' thing in bed- this was reported to the packed pub by his wife :rotfl:. The thing that struck me was that as a one off, and a bit of a wake-up call, it does seem to be fairly common. As a regular thing though I'm still thinking :eek:

JBD

graemecarter wrote: »

Great advice. You cannot make your partner change. What you can do is change how you deal with it.
Al-Anon will have people in the same situation as yourself.

Your OH sounds an alcoholic. While he may not drink every day, that doesn't mean he's not an alcoholic.
I also believe that alcoholism is an illness.
I hope he finds treatment that works, as then ALL your lives will get better

I actually agree with this. The OP gives the impression that this happens every weekend, that is serious binge drinking. It will affect his health sooner or later.

mummyroysof3

cant you leave something painfull for him to stand on in the doorway, may wake him up before he pees anywhere(not helpful if you get up to go to the loo and forget though)

rose28454

As the wife on an alcoholic ( married 30 years this year seperated 3 years ) I would say you should think very carefully if you want to stay with this man at all. My OH only got sober when I threw him out and he finally realised he had reached the bottom and would die if he did not stop. He always said he was not an alcoholic as he did not need a drink 1st thing in the morning and always went to work ( definitely over the limit most days however)
I cant tell you what harm it has done to my now grown up children and how I wished I had thrown him out earlier.
It is not acceptable to pee in your bed and in the end oh and I had seperate beds as I got so fed up of it.
I personally think it is not at all a laughing matter and urge you to talk seriously to him about it.
BTW I went to Al Anon whilst he was going to AA but I left as I felt the organisation was little selfish as there was very little help for children of alcoholics.
best of luck with the baby

bitsandbobs1

Hey OP, How are things?

NickyBat

JBD wrote: »

I actually agree with this. The OP gives the impression that this happens every weekend, that is serious binge drinking. It will affect his health sooner or later.

................................................................eh? think you must have been reading a diferent post, she said it DOESN'T happen very often!!!!!!!!

JBD

Caseyface wrote: »

He used to be so much worse, and this doesn't happen so much now, but tonight,

She said it happens 'less often'. Not 'not very often'.
It was every weekend previously, but now is more than occassional ,although she doesn't specify how often. IMO this is still a potential health risk.