Dispute between Childminder and husband

sjc3

polkadot wrote: »

Another point of view to put to DH regarding his argument that "she sent them all away",if she were that shaken up and distracted and something happened to one of your children as a result-Im sure he'd have had more words about that?

If I were in the position and had other kids to watch I might have called their parents to take them away also for the same reason.If she would then hold him responsible and tell the other folks why they'd all be taking a day off work (you're potentially looking at at least 4 other parents),the repercussions for him could have been huge.

Very true. I wouldn't want anyone in charge of my kids that was really shook up and upset by someone who had just verbally abused her. The cm has a huge responsibility and if her nerves are shot to pieces she shouldn't be minding kids.

pupsicola

Ask hubby how he would feel if someone spoke to him in that manner whilst he was just doing his job. No doubt he'd have them up on bullying and harrasement charges.

Errata

sjc3 wrote: »

Very true. I wouldn't want anyone in charge of my kids that was really shook up and upset by someone who had just verbally abused her. The cm has a huge responsibility and if her nerves are shot to pieces she shouldn't be minding kids.

I would think anyone's nerves would be momentarily shot to pieces when a bloke rocks up and starts bawling them out.

ellies_angel

I wonder how hubby would feel if a customer of yours reduced you to tears by shouting at you

catfish50

Would you be willing to mention roughly the area where this childminder works? My son and his wife are looking for a good childminder.

pozalina

thatgirlsam wrote: »

I really think you can expect notice from her in the not so distant future

In the nicest possible way, I really hope you are wrong . I realise we will be lucky if she continues to keep us on.

Poppyoscar - On my drive home from work I was thinking about the (bad) example he was setting for the children. I will be speaking to him about this, and not just on one occasion.

Oh, and I don't think her nerves are shot to pieces. He was probably scary and she had not had a good early start to the day for unrelated reasons.

barbiedoll

Yes, he was in the wrong. Good childminders are like gold dust and to be honest, she would be perfectly within her rights to stop having your children immediately, she wouldn't need to give 4 weeks notice.

A lot of childminders moan about how the parents treat them. Parents seem to begrudge paying the CM for holidays, yet they expect THEIR employer to pay for their time off. Leaving the kids at the CM for longer hours than they have paid for is another common complaint. CM's family have to put up with other people's kids in their house during most of the school holidays, including Christmas and Easter. They have a house full of stairgates, fire notices, and toys and books for all ages, things that we can throw or put away when our kids have finished with them. Their home is their workplace and they have the right to feel safe and not to be bullied or harassed, just like any other employee in any other job. If she wants to accommodate another family, that is her business, it has nothing to do with your OH.

OH needs a large slice of humble pie and a decent alarm clock!

danielle1977

if accomdating another family is such a problem (so long as the kids aren't treated differently while they are there) maybe you or your husband should stay home and take care of the kids and notforce his temper on anyone then you'll just have yourselves to blame when your kids grow-up just the same

mum2twinsx2

Would you let your employer shout and reduce you to tears?
Your childminder runs a business, and she cant expect to wait around because your husband cant be on time.

Childminders are normally quite close together so i wouldnt be surprised if you ever need to find yourself another childminder some may be reluctant.

Its a lesson learnt.....

danielle1977

The childminder may end up losing other children if word gets around that your husband is abusive-even if it was just once-I wouldn't want my kids hearing it!