My wife wont talk about having a family

Sambucus_Nigra

dark_lady wrote: »

I think counselling would be a great idea as honesty is required so neither you or your wife will be able to avoid answering difficult questions like you have on here.

Or perhaps you are just on the OP's ignore list?

Turtle

OP, I'd just ignore dark lady if I were you. She just sounds agressive to be honest (and has in other threads) and for some reason just wants to be mean to you. For what it's worth, I think people often take things very literally on here when it might just be a poor choice of words.

Anyway, my OH and I have been together for 15 years, we're not married and neither of us wants children. If my OH changed his mind however, I would be prepared to give this serious consideration as our life together is important to me. Although I am also not thrilled with the idea of giving birth and the though of being pregnant / feeding etc makes me feel physically ill, I wouldn't start crying about it if he brought it up (and I am an emotional person).

I hope you get this sorted out, even if that means having to find someone else who wants a family.

dark_lady

At the end of the day its not my questions he needs to answer anyway. The OP needs to sit down and have a frank and honest discussion with his wife and reassure her that he will do his share of the child rearing should they have a child. He should be honest and mean it and stick to whatever promises he makes. I do apologise if i have come across as aggressive but i think ive made some valid points.
It is interesting though that some of the people on here who have called me aggressive,arrogant etc are also the same people who have started other threads or contributed to other threads in the past about how their other halves arent helping enough with childcare, housework etc.

Derivative

I think that you should really contemplate the idea that your wife doesn't want children. Even if you do all of the work, she's going to be sharing her house with extra little ones. Restricted from going on holiday when she likes. Losing loads of income to raising kids. And so on.

I'm not sure how you managed to marry without discussing this first.