Diets & Relationships...

jinky67

well done on the exam results :T:T:T:T

GEEGEE8

Thanks Jinky! I'm very relieved that it all went well this semester seems to be a drag though, so I need to keep focussed.

No more weight lost going to be extra careful with my food today, especially as going out for a meal tomorrow, so I need to pick something fairly healthy, otherwise I'm going to be stuck at this weight forever.

jinky67

GEEGEE8 wrote: »

Thanks Jinky! I'm very relieved that it all went well this semester seems to be a drag though, so I need to keep focussed.

No more weight lost going to be extra careful with my food today, especially as going out for a meal tomorrow, so I need to pick something fairly healthy, otherwise I'm going to be stuck at this weight forever.

Positive Mental Attitude

You can, and you will, do this:cool:

gambit27

Wootball wrote: »

You have absolutely no right to accuse me of being any way whatsoever to my fiancee on here, to my face or any other method that you want to accuse me of doing so.

I am just very aware that this is a thread full of women - you might be absolutely right and this guy is a complete plank with no idea how to respect his partner and follow a balanced, equal relationship, but I am just explaining that we are only getting half of the story here. Let's not forget that we now have a woman here who doesn't trust her partner enough to explain her annoyances to him and instead does so via the Internet to strangers. So it's ok when she doesn't trust him, but if it's even a possibility that he doesn't trust her he needs to be kicked out?

Being afraid of losing someone isn't the same as being insecure and controlling. I'm not saying he is expressing it in the right way, but as a man I am explaining why he might be doing what he is doing.

For what it's worth - and I really do not feel as though I should have to justify myself to someone as rude as you - I love and respect my fiancee unequivocally. She is my shining light and the girl that has inspired me to be who I am, do what I do and have the self confidence and progress in life that I now have. We own our house 50/50, our accounts 50/50, and everything that is mine is hers also, with no equivocations. I can't wait for the day she becomes the mother to our children, she will be the greatest mother on the planet. If I have to spend the rest of my life walking on broken glass to repay all the good she has done for me and to make her as happy as she has made me, I'll take off my shoes and socks with a smile on my face.

I don't expect an apology but in future I suggest you avoid throwing wild accusations at someone you don't even know. It makes you look very stupid indeed.

To be fair, you did say something along the same lines to GEEGEE. So no, I don't think it makes me look stupid, particularly when I have had experience of things starting off as just a bit of insecurity, which led to years of emotional abuse, and ended with me being strangled in front of me and my ex partner's 6 year old son, whom he held a knife to while doing so, so I think this girl needs a bit of support and advice, so that if this is the case, she can deal with it rather than be made to feel it's all in her head, as I was for years, and being told she's as bad as her partner, which she's not. He stops her leaving rooms, she's lost friendships because of him, this, is how it starts, just because he's not laying a hand on her does not mean the way he's treating her is right.

GEEGEE8

Thanks again for the support guys it really does mean a lot to me and is giving me the strength to make changes.

OH is at football today, so I have met up with a friend (male), gone for lunch and a drink. Text OH that I was going for a drink with him and as usual he is fine so far.. it meant he couldn't ring me as usual from the car park when he got to football to pass the time, so no doubt he'll be a bit put out by it. But that's not really my problem, still my weekend too and I'm so glad I went out, had a great chat, feel much better about a few things that I chatted to my mate about, life, uni, boyfriend etc.. and it's already 5pm! wow..

Generally my OH won't create an argument over something that has just happened, he seems to let it build up and a day or so later tends to cause an argument about something else and then bring his real issue into it. Hopefully this won't cause another argument, otherwise I'll be really miffed off, even if it does, I've said to myself that he's just attention seeking and for him to stop it I need to really not argue back and just be straight with my answers, show no emotion. Just like a dog that's behaving badly, don't reward bad bahaviour lol.

I think I'm going to try that bootcamp next Saturday, eeeek! trying to rope another friend into it too lol..

burntfingers_2

gambit27 wrote: »

To be fair, you did say something along the same lines to GEEGEE. So no, I don't think it makes me look stupid, particularly when I have had experience of things starting off as just a bit of insecurity, which led to years of emotional abuse, and ended with me being strangled in front of me and my ex partner's 6 year old son, whom he held a knife to while doing so, so I think this girl needs a bit of support and advice, so that if this is the case, she can deal with it rather than be made to feel it's all in her head, as I was for years, and being told she's as bad as her partner, which she's not. He stops her leaving rooms, she's lost friendships because of him, this, is how it starts, just because he's not laying a hand on her does not mean the way he's treating her is right.

Alarm bells were ringing loud and clear for me exactly for the reasons above. Domestic Violence is not just about someone being violent it comes in all shapes and guises, it can happen to a man or a woman and is not selective.

Having said all that no-one is saying that GEEGEE's partner will be violent or this is the lead up to it, but fore warned is fore armed surely??

Hope you all had a good weekend....yay !!!! we have sunshine !!! :T

burntfingers_2

GEEGEE8 wrote: »

I've been looking for a part time job but nothing yet, and also sent 54 CV's to local Quantity Surveyor firms but nothing yet either, I've had about 10 letter back saying thank you for the letter but that they don't have any jobs.. really nice of them to at least reply to me
It can be sooooo frustrating when they don't even bother to reply, at least you know that they have received the CV and that maybe your details will be kept on file for when they have a vacancy....

Lost my motivation today, just not feeling 100%, might be diet, or coming down with something? just feel incredibly lazy all of a sudden, yesterday as well..
I think everyone has days like this no matter what you do, just can't seem to get motivated off the spot...just go with it..bang on some feel good music and sing your heart out...usually helps life me if I am a bit down.
Hope you get your work done! Have a great weekend
Yeah I managed to get all my caseloads cleared before the weekend. :cool: We had a lovely weekend thanks, DIYing but something that needed doing to make our nest more 'ours'.

Gem

Hope you managed to get through the weekend with no hiccups, am so pleased glad that you had a good chat with your male friend sometimes an opposites point of view helps.

Enjoy the rest of your day xx

GEEGEE8

Hey BF!

Just got in from Uni, skipped the last lesson as we never do anything constructive and I'd had enough, was nodding off in the lesson beforehand about land surveying lol.. oops!

Weekend went well, yesterday I ate like a horse though lol.. oven still isn't fixed so it's a bit of a pain really.. today has gone better for me, but I've had loads of uni work to do and I think the pressure is making me snack more again. Trying to get to grips with it.

Male friend is a good mate and knows both me and OH, but more friends with me if you get me. He does try and put things into perspective and doesn't just merrily b1tch along with me about OH lol. So it's always handy to hear it from a blokes point of view, although he has always agreed that OH holds me back from things that I would enjoy.

Meant to go swimming last night, but did coursework instead.. I've left it all to the last minute, not like me at all, but I think after the long Xmas break I've just not got back into it yet.

Land lady has already sent me a cheque for the cost of the broken oven part, bless her, she seems very nice! just waiting for the part to turn up now so we can cook again.

OH seems to be behaving himself so far, and I've tried to put more effort into asking about him rather than just talking about myself, which I know I have a habit of doing.

Glad you had a good weekend! & yes, it's been gorgeous weather here today, still a little chilly but sooo nice!

Kinda enjoyed the company of Uni friends today, I need to enjoy things like that more

Generally feeling happier this week than last, let's hope it continues!

Gem xx

burntfingers_2

I am finding it really hard to get motivated again with the weight loss am having a pretty carp time at the moment with one thing and another...won't bore you with the details tho' and I know its only me that can give myself a kick up the backside.

Haven't been to gym in a couple of weeks as my gym buddy has stopped going and I feel too self conscious to go on my own...am meant to be out for a run at lunch time but overslept and then left my kit at home.

When I get home tonight I will do my wii fit and have a weigh in and if it groans at me then it serves me right...lol

Hope your day goes well today, am staying logged in so will keep bobbing back on as and when I can. Mountains of caseloads to review ready for the impending redundancy

ttfn bf xx

minxtress

I lost 5 stone last year, and had a huge impact on my relationship. My partner is the one who is insecure now for some reason. He thinks because I have lost a lot of weight I am automatically going to go and cheat on him, he mustnt of felt threatened when I was fat! I cant assure him anymore than I already do.
To be honest i have less confidence than when I was bigger, as I get more attention and dislike it so wear baggy clothes to cover up! We're never happy are we