Old style daily 24/01/2011

esmf73

Nic2Lou - Lots of love and hugs coming your way. You're not stupid, I'd have done exactly the same. Feel free to PM me anytime you want to off load.
xx

jackieglasgow

Shame, Bitsy, I have gone off him now - I don't like those "too cool for school" types :rotfl: tell him he's scrubbed off my lustlist now!

nic1lou2

Evening everyone

Firstly thank you all for the kind words of support and also for the PMs.

Today has been another emotional day as DD moved out into a flat with her BF. I tried really hard to hide how much I am going to miss her (especially now!) and really think I managed to keep it up all day, they were so excited! I am sure they will be very happy together.

OH says he is moving into her old bedroom tonight now for the time being so that we can lead separate lives ("treat me as a lodger") until he finds a place to move to. It feels very strange not having a meal ready on the table for him when he comes in from work - what on earth am I going to do with all my spare time now but I dont see why I should cook, wash and clean for him and act like a wife when he says he no longer wants to be a husband - do you think I am handling it wrong?? He has now started to call the debts "your debts" rather than ours so looks like he has not intention of taking responsibility for them (or any responsibilty at all at the moment actually) He has been to the bank and opened a separate bank account (we have always had joint accounts)

On another point - does anyone know anything about Coeliac disease - the hospital told me on Monday that they think that is what I have got and I have to have further tests now to investigate. It has been a rotten New Year so far!

Sorry to moan, dreading him coming in!

Thank you again for your support.

x

halight

fairylittle wrote: »

Hello

sorry there are so many today poorly or upset,
sending you all hugs xx

wm has been on and clothes are drying on airer, more
muddy doggy paws = cleaning the floors every few
minutes or so it seems!!

had a big chat with DD today, I really don't like the way
her BF treats her but she sees him through rose coloured
glasses today she was in tears because he had a go at her
for seeing her best (female) friend!! I know I can't tell
her what to do but he is her first BF so she has no one to
compare him with iykwim.

Dinner is sausages, bubble & squeak and baked beans.

hugs xx

Well she can compeare him to others, If you are still with her dad then say would you like to se your dad treat me that way. if you are not with him then ask her if she would like to see your BF treat you like it or how would she feel if you meet someone who treated you like that what advice whould she give you? How about if she had a DD how would she feel she her treated that way?

It just might get her thinking

I hope she dumps him soon and find someone who worshipd her and traets her with some respect.

All teh best

jackieglasgow

Well firstly Colieac disease can be made much worse by stress, so set him a date for when he must go, and don't deviate from it. Get onto Relate and your GP and see about counselling services for yourself, to help you cope with this transition. I think your instinct may be right about him having someone else, in my experience about 90% of the men I see have left their wives stating the same thing but meaning the other - but TBH there is no point in worrying about that or trying to find out the truth, it will make you feel no better. Get to a solicitor ASAP. If you can prove (receipts, bank statements etc.) you paid off his debts with the new debts, you may be able to do something about that in your financial split.

You are a strong capapble woman, and you will get through this, and you have us here to help you. xxx

halight

nic1lou2 wrote: »

Evening everyone

Firstly thank you all for the kind words of support and also for the PMs.

Today has been another emotional day as DD moved out into a flat with her BF. I tried really hard to hide how much I am going to miss her (especially now!) and really think I managed to keep it up all day, they were so excited! I am sure they will be very happy together.

OH says he is moving into her old bedroom tonight now for the time being so that we can lead separate lives ("treat me as a lodger") until he finds a place to move to. It feels very strange not having a meal ready on the table for him when he comes in from work - what on earth am I going to do with all my spare time now but I dont see why I should cook, wash and clean for him and act like a wife when he says he no longer wants to be a husband - do you think I am handling it wrong?? He has now started to call the debts "your debts" rather than ours so looks like he has not intention of taking responsibility for them (or any responsibilty at all at the moment actually) He has been to the bank and opened a separate bank account (we have always had joint accounts)

On another point - does anyone know anything about Coeliac disease - the hospital told me on Monday that they think that is what I have got and I have to have further tests now to investigate. It has been a rotten New Year so far!

Sorry to moan, dreading him coming in!

Thank you again for your support.

x

Hi,

Right here is what you do. If they are your Debts Then i think them clothes taht he is wereing are yours. When he goes to work in the morning bag them up burn them or seed them to a chairty shop.

Dont cook, buy food for him. Ask him to start paying you rent. Why should he live somwere rent free!.
Be the biggest bi^%$ ya can be to him.

You could even show him my facebook page and say this is my new bit of stuff!!! he is a lot better in bed than you! Im moveing him in at the weekend and pack your bags you small w!!*y man:rotfl::rotfl:


Its time to fight back and make him know that you are not going to be walked all over.

jackieglasgow

OMG Halight you are a tonic - but you forget to say that she's to say you have the most lead in your pencil too! :rotfl:

But he's right Niclou, don't take his crap, fight back. Post over on the families board too, there are people who post there but not here who can give you good advice re the legals. Chin up, and come out fighting!

candygirl

NICLOU don't let him get away with treating you like this, how dare he:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:Don't cook, clean, wash or do owt else for him from now on:mad::mad::mad:
RUBY hope you're ok hun too:A

halight

jackieglasgow wrote: »

OMG Halight you are a tonic - but you forget to say that she's to say you have the most lead in your pencil too! :rotfl:

But he's right Niclou, don't take his crap, fight back. Post over on the families board too, there are people who post there but not here who can give you good advice re the legals. Chin up, and come out fighting!

I agree the familys bord there are loads of posters there that know all the legal stuff.
They should be able to help. You can always set up a new addy to post with so people dont know who you are

redruby

nic1lou2 wrote: »

OH says he is moving into her old bedroom tonight now for the time being so that we can lead separate lives ("treat me as a lodger") until he finds a place to move to. It feels very strange not having a meal ready on the table for him when he comes in from work - what on earth am I going to do with all my spare time now but I dont see why I should cook, wash and clean for him and act like a wife when he says he no longer wants to be a husband - do you think I am handling it wrong?? He has now started to call the debts "your debts" rather than ours so looks like he has not intention of taking responsibility for them (or any responsibilty at all at the moment actually) He has been to the bank and opened a separate bank account (we have always had joint accounts)


x

It might be worth you posting a question on the debt free board, they are a knowlegeable lot over there and might be able to help you out.

And no I don't think you are handling it wrong, I would not do a thing for him at all, he doesn't deserve anyting at all, s*d him :mad: