12 to 24 week pregnancy thread

snozberry

mogwai wrote: »

I'm 23 weeks today, only 1 week left til 24 weeks, or V-day as I'v seen it called on other forums..

V day?? What does it mean?? I'm 24+2 now. Gawd knows where the time has gone!

mogwai

snozberry wrote: »

V day?? What does it mean?? I'm 24+2 now. Gawd knows where the time has gone!

V-day means 'viability day'...From 24 weeks onwards the chances of survival if baby is born early are much higher, and they are considered able to survive outside the womb...and also after 24 weeks I think hospitals are legally obliged to make every effort to save an early baby whereas before 24 weeks they are not obliged to and whether or not they will depends on individual hospital policy. I think it's an important milestone to reach although every pregnancy and every baby is different of course

snozberry

mogwai wrote: »

V-day means 'viability day'...From 24 weeks onwards the chances of survival if baby is born early are much higher, and they are considered able to survive outside the womb...and also after 24 weeks I think hospitals are legally obliged to make every effort to save an early baby whereas before 24 weeks they are not obliged to and whether or not they will depends on individual hospital policy. I think it's an important milestone to reach although every pregnancy and every baby is different of course

ahhh I knew about the viability bit. I just didn't realise that people call it V day. I have only been using this pregnancy thread and using the Baby Centre app on my iphone to chart his development. I haven't been speaking with other ladies in the same boat as me so to to speak.

Thanks

*BigBird*

Good luck with your scans today, Sparkes and Nicki.

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Dida I did NCT with my last pregnancy, and it really was the best money I have spent.

It's certainly not cheap, but the friends I made through it were invaluable through my maternity leave, and are all still good friends.

I'm not doing it again for obvious reasons, but I think for a first pregnancy it is a good thing to do.

What she said. I'm still in touch with the friends I made at NCT classes and they were invaluable support while I was on maternity leave. It's also quite nice that half of the group are now expecting their second, so I've got a little support network again. I'm not sure what the age range would have been like at the NHS classes, as I didn't do them. But whilst I was one of the oldest at the NCT classes (just turned 36 when we did them), I think the youngest in the group was around 30.

Metranil_Vavin

I was second oldest in my NCT group (37 at the time), I think the youngest had just turned 30 so not too much of a gap.

I'd be ancient this time..40 in April!

pigpen

I was the youngest by about 10 years when I was forced by KH to go to the parentcraft classes.. total waste of time and I felt like a freak and noone spoke to me at all.

lovecake

Hello ladies! Good luck for those having scans this week! Mine is a week today - I cannot wait!!!! Hehe!

I am just going with the NHS parentcraft classes - I'm sure I will meet some nice people there and if not I plan on going to plenty parent and baby classes after baby arrives so I'm sure I will meet some people there.

Just a thought about young mums - I know not everyone is the same, but my sis is a young mum, she had her first at 17 and second at 20. Although her two are 6 and 10 now, I remember she made some great friends at antenatal classes and she gets on great with the 'older' mums she has met from the kids' school so I wouldn't necessarily write off being friends with a young mum just because of their age. Just a thought...

I really can't face looking at the big things we need to buy. I get a bit obsessed by researching everything before I buy it and I think I will be overwhelmed looking at prams etc. The other thing I've been thinking about is getting a co-sleeper / bedside type cot. They are so expensive though! Although I have seen on a lot of forums and blogs that people have used the IKEA cots which have a completely removable side and with a little DIY have turned them into a co-sleeper. Anyone have any thoughts on this or noticed any bargains?

Also been thinking about Hypnobirthing. I probably can't afford to do a course, but was thinking about the books/cd's. Anyone else looking into this?

IHateDida

lovecake wrote: »

Just a thought about young mums - I know not everyone is the same, but my sis is a young mum, she had her first at 17 and second at 20. Although her two are 6 and 10 now, I remember she made some great friends at antenatal classes and she gets on great with the 'older' mums she has met from the kids' school so I wouldn't necessarily write off being friends with a young mum just because of their age. Just a thought...

I think its because most of the young mums that I see around my area hang around in their "breeding" tracksuited groups. I want to meet other working parents that I feel I would have more in common with. Its not young parents I have a problem with, if I met a young professional couple that would be great - but I'm not really up for socialising with single teenage mums.

The MW offered me the NHS classes and I was about to accept (afterall the more info you can get the better??!!) but then they are held 15 miles away in the chavviest area ever. So I am going to stick to the NCT ones I think.

I also don't particularly like childrens centres either - they have targets to meet and were set up with the aim of getting to certain groups of parents (yes they get some yummy mummies - but they don't particularly want them - I used to work in the sector and all the time it was about them targeting certain groups and not encouraging the so-called "yummy mummy"). So I am hoping to find some private baby classes to go to after the birth.

Does this all make me sound like a snob?:eek: (however at the end of the day I think much does depend on the type of area that you live in as to who you are likely to get at any NHS/children centre classes)

lovecake

Absolutely - I'm don't think you sound like a snob at all. I just think that some people can be very quick to judge based on age alone and may miss out on making great friends. It just makes me sad to think that some people may have judged my sister at these classes based on her age and she could have missed out on having a supportive group of Mum friends because they didn't want to hang around with a 'teen mum'. Actually - it makes me sad for them because they will have missed out on having a lovely friend!

I was laughing the other day - my sis was telling me a story about what she overheard my nephew's friends saying while they were at the door waiting for him to come out to play...

Boy one - "His mum's really young."
Boy two - "Yeah, she looks it."
Boy one - "And his dad looks like 30 or 40."
Boy two - "Well, he looks 30."
Boy one - "Or 40."

Haha! Her partner is only a year older than her - poor him! She was loving rubbing it in!

*BigBird*

For me, age isn't an issue, it's more to do with meeting people I have something in common with. The main reason I didn't do the NHS classes last time was that they were so disorganised about them that I missed the first opportunity to do them and by the time another opportunity came around I'd already done the NCT ones and didn't see that I'd learn anything else. As it was, I met a group of local mums at a mum and baby group run by my local Dr's surgery after DS was born and a few of them had previously met at the parentcraft classes.

I think it very much depends on the area you live in. Even at my scans, I haven't noticed any young mothers in the waiting room.