Please please please help! Pregnant & suicidal over debts, redundancy & illness

vicxzy

Thanks Snuggle, I feel a little better today I am even going to meet a friend & her baby for a coffee Im just trying to pluck up the courage to go now. Ive not seen any friends for ages cos of my ex stirring but I went to school with her so she doesnt know him x

debtdaft

sTAY POSITIVE Nil illigitimi despairandum = don't let the B*****ds get you down

vicxzy

Thanks Ill try not to x

dancingfairy

How was coffee?
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purpleheather2810

vicxzy wrote: »

Thanks Snoop, that was the forum owner as well! Rude sod, no wonder hardly any people use his forum!!!
Thanks Heather Halifax are one of my creditors sadly I have set up a fairly basic Natwest account which I set up a while ago before my major meltdown so I have started to transfer things to that now x

Sorry I must have missed that somewhere. Still I'm glad you've got a natwest account on the go. Then you can just set up a standing order back to barclays for a token payment of €1 a month while you are in the process of negotiating...

vicxzy

Yes hopefully I can sort it easily online re paying. Coffee was fab thank you had a dodgy moment of having to rush to the loo & throw up but it really cheered me up just getting out & about x

patman99

I do hope you have stopped contributing to your ex's mortgage. If he looses his house, then that is just tuff. You need to keep putting YOU first, then your baby-to-be and your OH.

To help keep your morale up, start a 'Positive thoughts diary'. Every day list all the positives that happen, then when a negative action occurs, you can read your positive ones and take your mind off the negatives. It is all part of building your self esteem.

vuittondreamer

Vicxyz, it great to hear your feeling so much better,

Patman99 your tag is the funniest Rab quote ever, you've made my evening xx

cattyboo

Hiya,

I can't believe what the people on the other forum said to you, it's not just rude, it's totally thoughtless and uncaring, even people who haven't had to deal with debts can at least put themselves in your shoes and see it's not an easy place to be right now, shame on then for not being supportive, stick with us!

Glad to hear you had a good time out at coffee (apart from the sicky moment) and that you feel better for sharing your worries with the OH, I'm dead impressed you've come so far in so little time :j Keep moving forward lady!

C xx

32kickstart

Hi Vicxyz, I'm new to this forum and have just scanned your thread. I may have missed it, but was wondering is the mortgage on the house your ex is living in on a repayment mortgage or interest only? Could you get it changed onto interest only whilst you get things sorted and sell? It could save a few hundred each month? I hope you continue to stay strong. Good luckx