Advice needed, ex and child contact :-(

Flyboy152

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

He should want to do it himself.

He's a grown man and shouldn't need his parents in this stage of his life to tell him to 'do the right thing'

Yes, you are right he blooming well should do it himself, but we do not live in a perfect world and if help is needed, then it should be sought from the most effective source; in this case that is most likely to be his parents.


By the way, we are not, at this stage, privy to the ages of the NRP and the PWC, they could very well be teenagers, or in their forties.

pinkpig08

But the OP has said herself that he didn't see their son for a few months after they split through his choice. He is travelling that distance because he has moved that far away from his son.

pupsicola

Flyboy152 wrote: »

I have no reason to learn anything about you, the fact that you are willing to advice someone to block contact, to force an errant NRP to pay more support tells me all I need to know but you.

Every repsonse you have given throughout this thread has been rubbishing everyone elses opinions. Your ignorant superiority speaks volumes about you. I dont care what you think about me, your just not important.

Flyboy152

pinkpig08 wrote: »

But she is incurring the petrol costs for HIM, so it doesn't cost HIM as much to see his son.

No she isn't, she is funding petrol for herself; her part of the journey. I know it sounds pedantic (it probably is) but there is difference.

My husband is an NRP, and we have had our various issues with the PWC so I am not siding with anyone in particular here, but I can see what the OP is getting at.

So can I and I agree, her ex-partner is a tight git and should grow some and start paying his fair share, but that, unfortunately, has nothing whatsoever to do with their son.

Loopy_Girl

Flyboy152 wrote: »

It doesn't make the slightest difference, that he moved away. The fact that he also drives three hundred hundred miles, to facilitate contact with his child, should be enough to give anyone a clue to his level of commitment.

And the fact that he would cease/reduce contact if the PWC could not afford the journey, is also a clue to his committment.

You seem to have alot to say yet have not once offered a solution to the OP's problem?

shellsuit

pinkpig08 wrote: »

But she is incurring the petrol costs for HIM, so it doesn't cost HIM as much to see his son. I don't think flyboy sees it like that.:cool:

My husband is an NRP, and we have had our various issues with the PWC so I am not siding with anyone in particular here, but I can see what the OP is getting at.

flyboy, the OP is doing as much as she can. She is doing the ex a favour by taking the child halfway to meet him and now she is struggling with that, so is asking for money to cover the petrol which allows him to see his child in the first place!

If she didn't bother meeting halfway, the ex wouldn't see his child would he? And to be fair, it was him that moved miles away, not the other way around.

If he wants to see his son, he needs to put his hand in his pocket, or ask Mummy & Daddy to help out with petrol costs, seeing as they are both solicitors, they can't be short of a bob or 2.

pupsicola

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

And the fact that he would cease/reduce contact if the PWC could not afford the journey, is also a clue to his committment.

You seem to have alot to say yet have not once offered a solution to the OP's problem?

:beer: Well said:beer:

Loopy_Girl

Flyboy152 wrote: »

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So can I and I agree, her ex-partner is a tight git and should grow some and start paying his fair share, but that, unfortunately, has nothing whatsoever to do with their son.

So the grassroots is that the OP can't afford the journey anymore - seriously, what is your suggestion to resolve it?

Or has she just to get into loads of debt? Would that help her Son?

Flyboy152

pupsicola wrote: »

Every repsonse you have given throughout this thread has been rubbishing everyone elses opinions. Your ignorant superiority speaks volumes about you. I dont care what you think about me, your just not important.

Then you, like many on here, haven't bothered to read the thread properly. It is always advisable to consider the needs of others, before you make decision for them.

Flyboy152

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

And the fact that he would cease/reduce contact if the PWC could not afford the journey, is also a clue to his committment.

You seem to have alot to say yet have not once offered a solution to the OP's problem?

Where has it been written that is what he will do?