June 2012 brides

Sammyj1988

Oh anibell i hope everything works out and as you said this should be a happy occasion, I also need a bit of a vent this week i have found out that my dad may have cancer, yes the dreaded C word. He hopefully will get his results on monday but being in limbo is really taking it out of me, also where it is they cannot operate and can only do radiotherapy which will just prolong his life.
We are getting married abroad so there is a big chance he will not make the wedding which i have handled quiet well and have told him to concentrate on himself not my wedding.
I have never felt that close to him but the fact he could now be taken away from me, before giving me away cripples me to tears. Just need the results but its not looking good:(.

Also my little boy has been poorly this week so has been up during the night (hes only 2) so i think the mixture of everything has just drained me, but on a brighter side i have done soo much wedding stuff this week to keep my mind occupied so feeling alot better about that side of it.

1st dress fitting on saturday:D
need to buy balloons and gas
M.O.B present
bridesmaid present
best man present and im done......

sorry about the long post girls needed to get it off my chest

Pernicious

Sammy - So sorry to hear about your Dad, I hope it turns out to be just a false alarm. Well done for keeping busy
Anibell - I don't know the full situation & forgive me if this comes out the wrong way as I do not mean it to be offensive, but does it matter if his name is on there? All it means is that biologically, he is your father, nothing else. He doesn't have to be there, or agree to it, or have anything to do with you & your soon to be husband. I hope you can continue with your wedding plans & not let anything spoil it, don't let one (from the sounds of it) complete idiot ruin your plans for life. He honestly doesn't sound worth it.

Pernicious

Quicko update from me - all the bits for the invitations have arrived, did a trial print last night & all seems well so they should hopefully be out by the end of the month Then I'll have the joy of trying to get people to respond lol.

Appointment for suit fittings is on Saturday, but it looks like 1 of the best men won't be able to make it now :mad: & the guy that runs the suit shop is a PAIN to get hold of! Not what I need...

Found a bridal hair/make up package that I like the sound of, so I've emailed a few questions over & will hopefully get the responses that I want & then can book that too.

On Sunday we have a meeting with the venue & caterer, so time to get a lot of questions answered, hope my 15min appointment with the main lady running the place will be enough! Need to work on a list for that tonight & put it in order of importance I guess.

Happy planning everyone, not long left now! x

FutureCooper

anibell wrote: »

Am not happy :mad:

OH phoned registrar as we want to give notice tomorrow which should be a happy time

Found out I have to have my worthless excuse for a human being birth father's name on my marriage certificate. Whatever is on my birth certificate has to go on the marriage certificate apparently. Not happy at all :mad:

Am going to speak to them tomorrow and put forward my case. I feel so strongly about this I seriously would consider not signing the marriage certificate even though I love OH loads and want to be his wife. OH completely understands my point of view thankfully.

Going to speak to the local registrar where I was born to see if there is any way he can be taken off it although I don't see this happening.

Sorry to vent....this should be a happy happy time otherwise!

hope you don't mind me replying to this (I am from the July12 thread) but you do NOT have to have your Father's name on your marriage certificate. I am in a similar situation and when we went for our original interview with the Registrar and booked and paid for our date i was asked for my Fathers details and occupation. I explained i didn't know and did he have to be on there at all and i was told NO. He is on my birth certificate but that section of my marriage certificate will be left blank.
I would put your foot down with the Registrar and have them remove it. In this day and age of step families it is more and more the norm not to have parental details on legal papers.

Gemmzie

It's my hen weekend

Yargo1

Have a fab time gemzie x

Sorry to bear that about your dad sammy

Sammyj1988

Thank you ladies we find out on monday so fingers crossed hes ok!

so excited to have my dress fitting tommorrow haven't seen it since september last year so hope i still like it :eek:
my mum and dad have now said they will pay for our evening buffet when we get back to the uk which will save us soo much money, but i think caterers are out of the picture, i have called about 5 companies and they want between £700-£950 for 100 people and its food you would get at a childrens birthday party.

So second option i looked at m&s food you have it delivered to store on platters pic it up and take it to the venue, has anyone used them if so please could you let me know what they are like.
As food comes to £450 with m&s including sushi, indian snacks and salmon swirls.

Have a great time gemzie

anibell

Sammyj1988 wrote: »

Oh anibell i hope everything works out and as you said this should be a happy occasion, I also need a bit of a vent this week i have found out that my dad may have cancer, yes the dreaded C word. He hopefully will get his results on monday but being in limbo is really taking it out of me, also where it is they cannot operate and can only do radiotherapy which will just prolong his life.
We are getting married abroad so there is a big chance he will not make the wedding which i have handled quiet well and have told him to concentrate on himself not my wedding.
I have never felt that close to him but the fact he could now be taken away from me, before giving me away cripples me to tears. Just need the results but its not looking good:(.

Also my little boy has been poorly this week so has been up during the night (hes only 2) so i think the mixture of everything has just drained me, but on a brighter side i have done soo much wedding stuff this week to keep my mind occupied so feeling alot better about that side of it.

1st dress fitting on saturday:D
need to buy balloons and gas
M.O.B present
bridesmaid present
best man present and im done......

sorry about the long post girls needed to get it off my chest

Really sorry to hear about your dad Sammy. I hope he's okay. My problem sounds so trivial when you hear news like that. My fingers are crossed for you. Hope your little boy gets better soon too x

Pernicious wrote: »

Sammy - So sorry to hear about your Dad, I hope it turns out to be just a false alarm. Well done for keeping busy
Anibell - I don't know the full situation & forgive me if this comes out the wrong way as I do not mean it to be offensive, but does it matter if his name is on there? All it means is that biologically, he is your father, nothing else. He doesn't have to be there, or agree to it, or have anything to do with you & your soon to be husband. I hope you can continue with your wedding plans & not let anything spoil it, don't let one (from the sounds of it) complete idiot ruin your plans for life. He honestly doesn't sound worth it.

I completely understand your point...he is NOT worth it! I haven't seen or spoken to him in 20 years and he is not a nice person at all. I did get really upset yesterday as I have not had him in my life for years but it was like I couldn't get away from him and he was haunting every single aspect of my life. I've used my mum's maiden name for the last 20 years and I changed my last name officially last year to it so my original surname wouldn't be on my marriage certificate....well worth £55!

FutureCooper wrote: »

hope you don't mind me replying to this (I am from the July12 thread) but you do NOT have to have your Father's name on your marriage certificate. I am in a similar situation and when we went for our original interview with the Registrar and booked and paid for our date i was asked for my Fathers details and occupation. I explained i didn't know and did he have to be on there at all and i was told NO. He is on my birth certificate but that section of my marriage certificate will be left blank.
I would put your foot down with the Registrar and have them remove it. In this day and age of step families it is more and more the norm not to have parental details on legal papers.

I spoke to the registrar yesterday in my local district (where I was born-we are getting married in another one) and asked if there was any way I could have my father's name removed from my birth certificate. She was very nice and listened to what I had to say regarding marriage certificate etc and explained that he cannot be removed as my parents were married at the time of my birth. I got really upset and she was lovely. Apparently in Scotland it's the law to have parents details from the birth cert put on the marriage cert and the registrars can't do anything about it. She did say I could have a step father's details on it instead but my mum never remarried (which is a shame as I would rather have that). Now I've just accepted that his name will need to be on it but that is all. He will never be part of my life again.

anibell

Well we gave notice today so no getting out of it now....we paid all the fees due! :j

Have fun Geemzie

spoonymoose

Ooooh Gem, hope you're having fun! :j

OH and I went to sort out our cake and flowers today. We sorta out the flowers pretty quickly - within half an hour as we knew exactly what we wanted (thanks to OH for actually drawing some pictures and sitting down with me to sort out the flowers.) The florist was a really nice guy too; really helpful and he'll send us a quote out for what we wanted on Monday.

The cake however was trickier - we only had a certain amount to spend and I'm not very good at visualising things! OH was saying what bits of the different cakes me liked and all I could really do was look at the ones in the shop and say what was nice and what I disliked! It took us nearly 2 hours to decide on a cake

I still *don't* know what the cake looks like so I'm gonna have to have a go at creating it on Paint/with felt tips as all I keep seeing is the horrid cake.

It stressed me out... A bl00dy cake stressed me out! I'm so annoyed at myself for being so silly and for annoying my OH