Hubby hit me

babyshoes

Hi Mummy29, I just wanted to say how brave you are to have asked for help on here - it is the first step, and the first step is always the hardest. I know it is not easy to admit to something like this, which is still rather a taboo in society.

The most difficult part is done, you just need a bit more courage to do what is needed to protect your children and yourself from further abuse! As soon as you get hold of the police or a women's refuge they will give you all the practical help that you need. We aren't experts on here and can't do the real, practical things you need, so please let the people who ARE experts help you. Of course we will all still be here to encourage you and support you, but can't replace the very real, valuable work the police and refuges sadly do so much of.

Please let us know that you are safe!

kittiej

Hello mummy29

You must go to the Police and report this. This man should not be left to get away with treating you like this.

His behaviour is wrong. You have to look after yourself and your children.

Please get help straight away.

Hope you're Ok xx

spender

You are making all the excuses not to leave, he may apologise and state that it will never happen again but it will and eventually you will believe it is all your fault and that you cause him to hit you. No you don't no man has the right to hit a woman for whatever reason.

You have four children whose lives you could influence for ever by the choices you make today.

Stop making excuses, although they may have not witnessed the abuse they WILL be aware of it and they WILL be affected, they are being abused by hearing it.

If you let him get away with it today he will continue to get away with it.

pink_princess

The first thing you should do is to go look at your babies sleeping soundly in their beds.Imagine how you as a bigger stronger person who is meant to adore and love them could take your hand roll it into a fist and smash it into their faces .You can t even imagine it can you ? course you can t because your decent and a good mum,but this is what he did to you this morning .Do you really believe some one capable of that is worth you ,or your children ? Sorry if that comes across harsh but your mental state will now be twisting reasons behind his actions,you ll of already started to make excuses for him in your head.He really isn t sorry ,he really isn t overly stressed etc.He is an abuser ,I ll put a £5 charity donation to a womens shelter on the fact that he initiated the move of home to isolate you .Its one of the first signs,I bet he s always disliked the amount of time you spent with friends ,family etc.Its a very set pattern and just continues to spirall,really think in extreme detail about what he did to you this morning.It will stop you making excuses for him.
Im praying you make the right choice now and not after he has done it again ,and AGAIN .You really can do it on your own ,you and the kids are worth the world xx

MrsE_2

spender wrote: »

You are making all the excuses not to leave, he may apologise and state that it will never happen again but it will and eventually you will believe it is all your fault and that you cause him to hit you. No you don't no man has the right to hit a woman for whatever reason.

You have four children whose lives you could influence for ever by the choices you make today.

Stop making excuses, although they may have not witnessed the abuse they WILL be aware of it and they WILL be affected, they are being abused by hearing it.

If you let him get away with it today he will continue to get away with it.

The OP is not making excuses, she is not posting much at all.

She needs support, not having a go at.

whitewing

There is no excuse for hitting you.

Could your parents collect you and the children tomorrow and take you to a police station to report it and then take you back to theirs?

Your children will suffer and be terrified living in a family where their mum is being hit. And they will know. And they will hate it and be very scared for you.

Harry_Flashman

Any man who hits a woman has lost the right to be called a man.

This whole situation makes me so damned angry. Respect to you Mummy29 for getting on here and asking for advice. Mine is for you to report it to the Police as soon as you have some time alone, get him arrested and removed from the family home and then not allowed back. He deserves to lose everything!

Dammit, if I knew who you were, I'd come across myself and make sure you were kept safe while you got rid of him.

Just_Plain_Jane

spender wrote: »

You have four children whose lives you could influence for ever by the choices you make today.

I cannot stress the importance of this sentence strongly enough.

I left an abusive relationship, in the clothes I stood up in, with my three year old daughter in tow. We went to a refuge.

Don't wait for him to change, he won't. Get in touch with Womens Aid. They can help you with finances, housing, even changing your name if you want. Good luck. x

pupsicola

My ex husband told me that we would be out on the streets with nothing. The law doesn't work that way much to his surprise.

The posters who have mentioned how all this will be effecting the children are totally correct. My eldest was just 4 when we left. He remembers far more than I ever realised he could have observed. My youngest stopped developing altogether between the ages of 4-8 months such was his trauma. It has taken years of counselling for all of us to pull through.

Dont put yourself or the kids through anymore.

meritaten

mummy29? have your phoned your parents and told them? if my daughter was in the same situation - I would be straight there and she wouldnt be in danger! he would! and she would come home with me kids and all! if people had to sleep on the floor! why havent you sought help from your parents?