Hubby hit me

ever_the_optimist_2

I absolutely agree with you all ... hitting is unacceptable and I think once it starts it is unlikely to stop.

However, if the OP is in the house with her husband then it sounds like she is going to find it impossible to phone any of the helplines or Police that you have suggested - clearly she is trying to hide away from him and keep her cries for help quiet.

OP ... is there someone you trust that you can PM with your address and ask them to phone the Police for you ?? As someone said earlier, they will come and arrest him, keep him overnight so you have a chance to pack and get away to your family. I can hear your distress and I understand you trying to keep it quiet to stop him being angered again. Once the Police are in the house you will be safe - all you have to do is answer the door to them.

I am guessing you are offline as you are getting the children to bed .. I do hope you come back on and let everyone here help you.

Much love

ETO x

k.o.d

mummy29 wrote: »

Iam a regular user so have registered with a different name

I really dont no where to start,my husband hit me twice in the face this morning,causeing my mouth/nose to bleed
we moved to a new area last year,so i no nobody,have no friends and noone to turn too
Things are really bad
i feel like ending it all,just so i can get away

As a bloke, all I can say is I am so sorry for you, some blokes are !!!!!! and like to use their fists, which is abhorrent.
Phone the police, get your statement down and if you can find the strength, leave him.
Blokes are crap at controlling their temper, but there is never an excuse for this.

pupsicola

ever_the_optimist wrote: »

I absolutely agree with you all ... hitting is unacceptable and I think once it starts it is unlikely to stop.

However, if the OP is in the house with her husband then it sounds like she is going to find it impossible to phone any of the helplines or Police that you have suggested - clearly she is trying to hide away from him and keep her cries for help quiet.

OP ... is there someone you trust that you can PM with your address and ask them to phone the Police for you ?? As someone said earlier, they will come and arrest him, keep him overnight so you have a chance to pack and get away to your family. I can hear your distress and I understand you trying to keep it quiet to stop him being angered again. Once the Police are in the house you will be safe - all you have to do is answer the door to them.

I am guessing you are offline as you are getting the children to bed .. I do hope you come back on and let everyone here help you.

Much love

ETO x

This is very good advice. Please let someone help you. I will be online all evening if you need help

kaya

there's never an excuse to beat anyone regardless of their sex, but sometimes people will do irrational things when troubled or under stress, you must do what you feel is justified in the situation,but you should never let anyone beat you

Cherryscone

you have been given some great advice above please take it the min you can leave and take your kids with you womans aid will help you good luck x

staffiecat

I really hope you have found the strength to leave.
Please take care and if you can't find the strength to leave him then look at your 4 kids and hopefully you will do what you know is right.

xxxx

Tulip09

This sort of thread brings back so many memories for me. I have been there, contacted the police, went back, phoned the police again etc. Its a really vicious cycle to fall into and not one that is easy to break no matter how many people tell you what to do, or what you should be doing. Only you can make the decision and know what you should be doing for yourself and the protection of your children. Only you know how serious this assault was or what caused it. It will not be any easy decision to make, and live with and you will have to find more strength than you ever thought you had possessed before but believe me you will find strength if your looking for it, its just buried a little deeper than some peoples, and takes a little longer to surface. The police sat across from me one night and told me that they were waiting for the call to say i was dead or one of my kids had died; i felt sick to the stomach but still didn't have the strength to leave, nowhere to go, no money, no friends or family left etc. A whole bunch of excuses and i was scared of all the possibilities. Life went back to normal for a few weeks and then it started again, i woke up in hospital, broken bones etc having had 2 operations, and i had been there over a week. My children had been put into temp care and they didn't know if i would pull though or not for nearly 10 days.

I don't want to scare you but that is the reality, it is real and very frightening for everyone concerned. If you want to talk please just pm me and i will see how i can help you.

VfM4meplse

I agree that you need to get out but would suggest that your OH may have calmed down by now and be less of an immediate threat to yourself and the children. Keep him at a distance but maintain the peace for now.

A women's refuse is very far from a sanctuary, it will actually make living back with you OH feel like paradise. You're likely to be driven back when you remember your home comforts, especially when there are 4 children to consider. I would suggest that you use this time to think about what you want from the future, collect your evidence, and get your financial act together.

In your position I would contact the police tomorrow, serve an injunction and change all the locks on your property. Your OH is at fault so let the suffering be his. And don't think for one minute that it wont happen again if you don't take action.

Good luck

mummy29

hey,thank you everyone for your advice,kids all in bed,and iam in bed myself,husband is down stairs,im just sitting here trying to get my head straight
husband has been mentally abusing me for weeks,saying im a bad mum,kids hate me...etc and just putting me down
he knows i have no one to turn too,and iam sure this is why he thinks he can get away with it
this morning was out of the blue,and he was"nt even out of bed when he hit me,hes been staying up all most all of the night playing hes comp,then he wont get up in the morning,he does work but only part time
im sitting here,my heads a mess and i dont no what to do for the best

freda

my heads a mess and i dont no what to do for the best

Look at it the other way around. How could staying with him be the best thing for you and your children?

Call women's aid and do what they advise. Your head is not clear so you need confident advice from experienced people.

Good luck.