Hubby hit me

pupsicola

Ive been in your position. The thought of how you will cope financially is a crippling and scary prospect. Its what stopped me leaving for so long. There is more help out there financial and otherwise than you would believe.

If you dont feel able to leave or call the police tonight then do it tomorrow morning when he has gone to work. Finances can be sorted, yours and the childrens safety is paramount at the moment.

dizzybuff

OP please get out , I work in an environment where I know the statistics of domestic violence. It wont get better , you do not have to leave your children . Call the police and ask for a domestic violence officer to attend. They work in conjunction with partners and will sort everything out for you .

Please do something , as once a partner starts with any kind of abuse it is a power thing and gets more and more frequent. Please get help xxxxx

Cat1

I would be gathering together things like the kids passports, birth certificates, national insurance numbers and preparing to sneak out with kids quietly while he is at work. I would be taking some cash from your account in case he empties it when he realises you have gone. Please bear in mind the police station may not be manned over the bank holiday weekend (where I live it's only staffed mon - fri) so it might be worth checking this out before you consider leaving the house. Good luck x

VfM4meplse

Keeping_Positive wrote: »

When he is at work tomorrow pack some bags

Specifically, pack HIS bags and don't spare the bin-liners.

jcr16

oh hun, i can only imagine what ur going through.

i'd say don't worry too much about money for the min. while he's at work get together ur importan paper work ie birth cert's for you and children , passports if you have them. pack a bag each for you and your children and head straight to police station. they can keep you safe until you can get to a womans refuge.


or failing that, ( you don't say ages of your children) get them to school in the morning and stay there with all ur children until you have contacted police or womens refuge. but don't go home again.

maybe you can phone a family member from the police station or school. i know if my dd was in trouble, no matter how far it was i would drive and collect her , no questions asked and get her back to the safety or her family.

hugs to you xxx

Guinea_2

Please, please, please stay safe and leave. Do you have access to a car? Is there anyone that could come round now to help you leave? Perhaps the Police if no friends are around?

Phone your Mum...they always understand

Sublime_2

If you stay with him, he will continue to do it. It has escalated from mental cruelty, to actual violence. Where is it going to stop. You're only 29, and have got your whole life ahead of you.

Ring up a womens shelter, pack a bag and go. You should not have to put up with it hun.

Wishing you well. xxx

AllAdviceWelcome

hun i see you have gone offline again i hope you are ok i have sent you another private message please think about what i said keep you and those 4 kiddies of yours safe xx

Yorkie1

dizzybuff wrote: »

OP please get out , I work in an environment where I know the statistics of domestic violence. It wont get better , you do not have to leave your children . Call the police and ask for a domestic violence officer to attend. They work in conjunction with partners and will sort everything out for you .

Please do something , as once a partner starts with any kind of abuse it is a power thing and gets more and more frequent. Please get help xxxxx

Dizzybuff is absolutely correct.

Domestic abuse almost invariably escalates. Statistically, 2 women in the UK are killed by their partners per week. It usually takes at least 30 physical assaults before a women rings the police. The mental torture continues so that the woman feels it is all her fault and cannot leave. This, combined with regrets and promises of change from the abuser.

Please, please, for the sake of your children do something about this tomorrow if not tonight. The emotional impact on children of witnessing the mental and physical abuse by one parent to the other is so much more recognised and proved these days.

The finances can be sorted out by people who are incredibly experienced at doing this whilst protecting you. You cannot easily undo the damage to your self-esteem and, more importantly, your children's well-being.

The practical suggestions re documents and packing are good ones. Come back on here whenever you need to, someone will be there to support you in what is an incredibly difficult decision.

pupsicola

Your kids are in bed and you are in bed on your own by twenty past nine, keeping out of the way of a man who quite obviously terrifies you. I know that need to stay out of someones way so as not to do the slightest thing to antagonise them and bring on a violent outburst. This is not a natural way to live. Your huband has no right to make you feel this way.

Being violently attacked strips you of feeling human and leaves you in a state of shock. It makes your head spin and you cant think straight. If you cant phone the police and dont want any of us to can you email or facebook anyone you know and ask for help. People who love you and the kids will want to help. No-one would want you suffering like this.

My parents drove half way across the country to get my kids and I. They were horrified I hadn't told them what had been going on earlier.