Hubby hit me

Imp

Just to back up James and his cohort of pitch fork waving females, check out the short length of this thread and general lack of advice when it is a man being abused by the woman.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/40373890#Comment_40373890

sassyblue

jamespir wrote: »

why because im right ive been a victim of domestic abuse ther is two sides to every story here were only getting one

I don't understand, if you were a victim of abuse why would you want to think the OP is lying about her circumstances?

Are you trying to tell us you were as bad as your abuser??

BlueAngelCV

Imp wrote: »

Just to back up James and his cohort of pitch fork waving females, check out the short length of this thread and general lack of advice when it is a man being abused by the woman.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/40373890#Comment_40373890

Thanks for this Imp. Comments like this

What beaten up by the missus?

are not helpful. There is DV the otherway round and it is just as serious. Please don't dismiss it.

But, I don't agree with James' comments here and think that it is completely clear from this thread that the comments to "get out" etc are justified.

Well I do think that there are some circumstances in which some level of DV would be understandable (not acceptable) this is not one of them (for example I may well slap my OH if I found out he was cheating on me, I would not however punch him in the face and make him bleed)

jamespir

sassyblue wrote: »

I don't understand, if you were a victim of abuse why would you want to think the OP is lying about her circumstances?

Are you trying to tell us you were as bad as your abuser??

im not saying shes lying

ska_lover

BlueAngelCV wrote: »

Thanks for this Imp. Comments like this



are not helpful. There is DV the otherway round and it is just as serious. Please don't dismiss it.

But, I don't agree with James' comments here and think that it is completely clear from this thread that the comments to "get out" etc are justified.

Well I do think that there are some circumstances in which some level of DV would be understandable (not acceptable) this is not one of them (for example I may well slap my OH if I found out he was cheating on me, I would not however punch him in the face and make him bleed)

Gosh I totally agree on the bit about slapping the OH if you found out he was cheating. I would struggle to not slap my man!

Fang_3

ska_lover wrote: »

Gosh I totally agree on the bit about slapping the OH if you found out he was cheating. I would struggle to not slap my man!

And if it was the other way around - you've be OK with that?

Disgusting. Domestic Violence is always wrong and there is never a time when it should be 'understandable'. Never.

rozmister

ska_lover wrote: »

Gosh I totally agree on the bit about slapping the OH if you found out he was cheating. I would struggle to not slap my man!

It really wouldn't cross my mind to slap him. I'm a distant creator (upset me and I just put up walls) so if my OH cheated on me and found out he'd be out of the house, deleted from my phone and ignored.

I think it depends how you naturally cope with situations and strong emotions.

ska_lover

Fang wrote: »

And if it was the other way around - you've be OK with that?

Disgusting. Domestic Violence is always wrong and there is never a time when it should be 'understandable'. Never.

If it was the other way round? I have no fear of that whatsoever, as I would never cheat on my partner. I never understand cheats, why be in a relationship if they want to behave like that?

Please get into context:- I am talking about a SLAP - after EXTREME provocation (which personally I think being cheated on would be a provocation), not ritual abuse or daily beatings or fear for your life, and being afraid of being in your own home. There is a huge difference there. Everything is not always black and white.
Anway, this really ISNT about me, its about the OP - I don't want to hog the thread.

murphydog999

I'm disappointed.....I saw this and thought she was back with, hopefully, some good news.

mrs_marty

murphydog999 wrote: »

I'm disappointed.....I saw this and thought she was back with, hopefully, some good news.

I was like you was hoping it was an update