Hubby hit me

Stephb1986_2

OP I hope you have left for somewhere better, What would you say to someone on here who posted the same as you what advice would you give them? I know it's hard love but you have to think of yourself and your four kids, How old are they?

My mum was a victim of DV my dad was/is an alcoholic and use to hit us all the time I remember them times and we got out and left when I was 7 I'm now 24. If your kids are old enough to know what is going on you really do need to get out this will be with them forever.

I hope your somewhere safe and well

Steph xx

AllAdviceWelcome

Mummy I hope you and the kids are ok and are somewhere safe. I understand it may not be easy for you to get back on here to let us all know you are ok.

I do so hope that you are all ok and somewhere safe now good luck to you all xx

AllAdviceWelcome

lostinrates wrote: »

To those who know, how long would it take for someone in OP's position t either get back into her home if she left or to be found accommodation?

It might be that she doesn't feel she can leave with the uncertainty of when she'd be in space she could control for her children.

It can vary from area to area and from refuge to refuge.

I have been in refuge accomodation with my 3 children since 20th October, the refuge i was put in initially there were women living there that had been there 10-11 months one of which is still there now although she has been moved into the self contained part of the refuge.
They moved me to the refuge I am in now 6th December. There was a woman here on her own that had been here for 3 days when i moved here and she was moved into her own accomodation albeit temporary housing but it was her own place after she had been here for a total of 5 days.

welshpolarbear

Reading this thread is so heart breaking, but the support being given will hopefully help.

Mummy29 - please stay strong and I hope that you and your kids are safe and well. This man doesn't deserve you, as hard as it will be to leave you deserve so much more and really need to get yourself to safety as soon as possible, as Im sure you know deep down. My heart goes out to you.

JG82

Some really good advice been given so far. I hope wherever you are that you and your children are safe. Unfortunately domestic abuse does increase at this time of the year. Just wanted to add a couple of points.

BOO-BOO - just in response to saying the police won't help. I hope you haven't had a negative experience with them for whatever reasons and get your point that it may aggrivate the abuser more but I would definitely advise to contact the police. The police have undergone a lot more intensive DA training over the past few years I believe and are more effective in their reponse.

I would reitterate to take all important paperwork the most being passports, driving licence, birth certificates and any proof of state benefits.

Re. how long stay in refuge is it sadly depends on the local housing stock available and what areas women can be rehoused in i.e. whether it is an area that the abuser frequents or has connections in.

Hope that's useful info for any women. Scottish Women's Aid, Refuge and National Domestic Abuse Helpline are all great sources of info.

jcr16

i hope all is ok.

Desperate_Housewife_2-2

just loggin to to see if you are ok mummy29...

meritaten

mummy? I am hoping that your not posting means you are safe. If you are then please dont give any information which could pinpoint your location. dont mention relatives etc in case he is here on MSE.
If you are not leaving now - then dont worry about posting that. it takes a lot to leave and we understand that. just know we are here for you.

pupsicola

JG82 wrote: »

BOO-BOO - just in response to saying the police won't help. I hope you haven't had a negative experience with them for whatever reasons and get your point that it may aggrivate the abuser more but I would definitely advise to contact the police. The police have undergone a lot more intensive DA training over the past few years I believe and are more effective in their reponse.

I second this. I really hope you didn't have a negative experience with the police. I also needed alot of persuasion that involving the police wouldn't push my ex over the edge and put me at more risk. I was aware that when abusers feel they are loosing control is when you can be most at risk from attack. Thankfully it was all handled very professionally and the kids and I were looked after.

mummy29 I am thinking of you and hoping you and the kids are safe:)

pink_princess

Still praying for you ,re read my previous post ,I know its harsh but its the most successful current method .Pray you and your kids are safe .x