Hubby hit me

Bloomin_Freezing2

This is an anwful thing to happen to anyone, and the OP must be so confused. She may easily be too scared to contact the police or a womens aid etc. Her husband may tell her it'll never happen again and he's sorry and she may well want and hope to believe him. She may want to give it 'one more go' for the sake of the children (in her eyes). This is a very tough situation for her to be in.

Even though is it nowhere near being cheated on, I can only imagine when a friend has been cheated on, and myself and other friends have told her to leave him and she hasn't. It's all very well saying leave him, and 'I would in that situation' but until it happens to you, you really don't know if you would.

I really wouldn't wish being hit by a partner on anyone and I hope she makes the right decision for herself and her children.

sock-knitter

reading this thread, has brought back many bad memories from my past
my exhusband was abusive to me, it started when i got pregnant we'd moved to an area away from my family and friends, and after my twin sons were born he got worse, i stayed with him, thinking that i couldnt cope with two tiny babies on my own.
it came to a head when my son were only jhust 3 months old, and he broke the arm of one of our babies, we left there and then
what i'm trying to say, dont put up with it, thinking he will never hurt the kids, he just might
op hope your safe

Margaret54

Please please love keep yourself and children safe. I too was in a violent marriage many years ago and it does take courage and strength, because he will not stop at this one time. You must get help for you and your children. You deserve to be loved and cared for not treated like this, and your children deserve to be treated well too. Please love please ring Women's Aid or the police. Keep strong and safexx Don't give up, you have lots of support on here. God Bless

Bennifred

DitaVonTee wrote: »

.......... you don't have to be the one that has to leave ..........

This bears repeating - if only to point out that your children's lives need not necessarily be turned upside down - they can continue to be in their own home, go to their familiar school, etc, etc - but be safe from their abusive father. YOU DO NOT NEED TO LEAVE. The police will make sure that HE does. He caused the problem, he should be removed.

pupsicola

Bennifred wrote: »

DitaVonTee wrote: »

.......... you don't have to be the one that has to leave ..........

This bears repeating - if only to point out that your children's lives need not necessarily be turned upside down - they can continue to be in their own home, go to their familiar school, etc, etc - but be safe from their abusive father. YOU DO NOT NEED TO LEAVE. The police will make sure that HE does. He caused the problem, he should be removed.

This is so true. I still remember my ex being taken away by the police, in tears. It was the most bizarre feeling, part of me was numb and yet the other half was strengthened by how weak he really was. Once he had a police officer telling him the harsh truth his whole demeanour changed.

brighthair

I hope you are ok - only just seen this thread

I don't know where you are, but if you are anywhere in the NorthWest and need a room - I have a spare on, and my parents have a hotel, please ask if you need a room, or just some space to put belongings

bluejulie

If you want a better life leave him ASAP!Police won't help.It'll make him more aggressive which will be worse for you.Be strong and leave him.

balletshoes

mummy29 wrote: »

Iam a regular user so have registered with a different name

I really dont no where to start,my husband hit me twice in the face this morning,causeing my mouth/nose to bleed
we moved to a new area last year,so i no nobody,have no friends and noone to turn too
Things are really bad
i feel like ending it all,just so i can get away

Pack a bag, take your personal paperwork, get on a bus/train and get the hell out of there, now. You control your life, not anyone else. If you have no money, go to a neighbour and ask them to use their phone. Call a relative, or the women's refuge and the police. There is help out there, use it. Don't ever put up with any man hitting you.

balletshoes

mummy29 wrote: »

my family live miles away,and really dont have the room for us,iam going to get the kids to bed then ill take laptop to bed with me,very wary that he will see what i have wrote

I'm absolutely sure if you contacted your family and told them your husband had hit you so hard you were bleeding, they'd make room for your and your children. You'd at least have a safe roof over your head. You are not safe where you are.

lostinrates

balletshoes wrote: »

I'm absolutely sure if you contacted your family and told them your husband had hit you so hard you were bleeding, they'd make room for your and your children. You'd at least have a safe roof over your head. You are not safe where you are.

I thought exactly the same and also

I don't know where you are, but if you are anywhere in the{}and need a room - I have a spare

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It makes me shudder and would gladly help someone for a few weeks while things were sorted out. To those who know, how long would it take for someone in OP's position t either get back into her home if she left or to be found accommodation?

It might be that she doesn't feel she can leave with the uncertainty of when she'd be in space she could control for her children.