MSE Parents Club Part 16

*BigBird*

Hello again Doglover. Just had a thought - do you swaddle Alistair at night? Thinking back, Joe wasn't too good at settling when he was tiny and swaddling really helped. We also put a hot water bottle in his moses basket for a few minutes before we put him in it (it came out before he went in), so that the moses basket was nice and warm for him.

I'm having flashbacks now to those days of having to eat in relay with DH, never finishing a hot drink without it having been in the microwave at least twice... :rotfl: The early days are hard, but they don't last that long (though it will feel like a lifetime at the time!)

Doglover

Thanks ladies I really appreciate your advice and support. We did try swaddling but only once a fair while ago. He hated it but might be worth another go. I'll also try the hot water bottle although he seems quite a hot baby if you know what I mean.

HV just gone and said he's on track and his crying etc is just typical newborn stuff. Will prob relax a bit knowing he's ok, just a screamer!

Make-it-3

Hi & welcome Doglover, the early days are really hard, but them wanting to be constantly with you is completely normal. It's all they've ever known. You can try all the tricks to fool them into going down in their baskets, but they were never successful with me. Gradually over time they become more independent as thry grow more confident & curious about the world beyond mummy.

A sling is great for getting around the house during the day. Co-sleeping at night helps too - you'll both get more sleep. Don't think you're creating a rod for your own back, at that age they have no concept of manipulating you, they simply communicate thru crying that they need you with them.

koalamummy

Hi Doglover congratulations on your sons safe arrival. I am just going on my own experience here but does your son maybe have colic? Colicky babies tend not to like being laid down flat or even held up to your shoulder for burping as it apparently causes more discomfort for them.

Doglover

Thank you for the welcome! It certainly seems like a sling will be a good investment. I feel like a real meanie expecting too much from my boy so soon. The world and his wife have been telling me how their children were talking in French and cooking the famy dinner by 2 weeks of age and how I'm obviously doing it all wrong. I guess tiredness and being a first timer combined with a crying baby is making me question if I'm doing ok. My DH is being amazing and the HV says we're doing ok so we'll keep doing what we're doing and remember that our little one is still tiny.

Sorry to moan in my first set of posts on this thread.

Doglover

koalamummy wrote: »

Hi Doglover congratulations on your sons safe arrival. I am just going on my own experience here but does your son maybe have colic? Colicky babies tend not to like being laid down flat or even held up to your shoulder for burping as it apparently causes more discomfort for them.

He is very windy and tends to hang onto his wind a lot. What did you do for yours? HV has suggested we go up a level on the teat so he doesn't drag down so much air but she said not to bother changing bottles. We already give him infacol.

koalamummy

All of my 3 have had trouble with wind and/or colic to some extent but my younger son was by far the worst. I tried everything for him including infacol dentinox and colief. I went through every bottle on the market with him as well with little success but that was 3 years ago and bottles are all different again now! I tried going up a teat size but all that achieved was loads more washing! I tried all of the different ways of winding him that everybody suggested to me. What worked for us in the end was giving him some very warm water out of one of the tiny 2oz bottles from savers before feeding him and strangely enough it brought lots of wind up.

With my daughter who is now nearly 13 weeks I changed her from the tommee tip pee ctn bottles on the advice of our gp and hv. I chose the mam ultivent ones and although she still had wind it became very easy to bring up.

Every child is different though and different things work for them as I read rave reviews about dr browns bottles but found myself at best disappointed after I spent a fortune buying them for my little guy and they did nothing for him.

delain

Doglover wrote: »

Thank you for the welcome! It certainly seems like a sling will be a good investment. I feel like a real meanie expecting too much from my boy so soon. The world and his wife have been telling me how their children were talking in French and cooking the famy dinner by 2 weeks of age and how I'm obviously doing it all wrong. I guess tiredness and being a first timer combined with a crying baby is making me question if I'm doing ok. My DH is being amazing and the HV says we're doing ok so we'll keep doing what we're doing and remember that our little one is still tiny.

Sorry to moan in my first set of posts on this thread.

The people that say those things are probably lying anyway, or have at least forgotten how it was

koalamummy

Hehe I had that too Delain but I was always happy to listen to the sensible advice given by my mum that they all get there in their own time.

Becles

Doglover wrote: »

The world and his wife have been telling me how their children were talking in French and cooking the famy dinner by 2 weeks of age and how I'm obviously doing it all wrong.

I've said it before on this thread, but every new Mam needs to learn the technique of looking interested with your head tilted slightly to one side, and adding the occasional agreement noise, so it looks like the wonderful advice is sinking in, but really their unwanted words are just flowing in one ear and straight out the other

If they do ever ask you about something they told you earlier, you can always blame the frazzled baby brain making you forget things

Had a good day out and Charlotte enjoyed the Waybuloo Pipling Pod