MSE Parents Club Part 16

SugarSpun

Miss M's 17 months and has only been sleeping through for the last 3-4. I felt so guilty whenever pregnant people would ask me when she started sleeping through and I'd have to tell them that the only time she did was after I had a beer and then unexpectedly had to feed her

Kitkat I would be raging in your position. Husband is often too ill to do much and I take up the slack but he is an excellent father and does loads when he feels well enough. at lazy fathers.

newmoneysaver_2

Aw kitkat, that makes me OH used to love feeding L, and always did at least on evening feed. When does your OH expect to bond with T if he does nothing for him?
And we have always taken it in turns to have one night free from night feeds each and one lie in each weekend. ie: I would do night feeds on friday and then have a lie in on Sat and hubby would do the night feeds sat and have a lie in on Sun morning.
Grr - you can not be expected to work 24/7 with no break!!!

Bufger

kitkat5566 wrote: »

Morning!

Ethel: have to admit I hate selling on eBay, had timewasters in the past and the postage for clothes mounts up, could you try nearly new or hang on until car boots? (altho I confess I CBA with car boots LOL!)

Thanks for advice about theos sleep, I think it's only really getting to me as OH has told me while he is working he wants me to do everything for theo: wash bottles, sterilise, make feeds, feed him, change him, do his washing, sort his clothes/ toys, get up with him in night all the time. He now refuses to do anything even if it's the weekend, all I ever asked of him was him to do one bottle per evening/ every other but apparently playing on his laptop is far more important. Fed up is an understatement!

Theo went to bed 10pm and slept until 6.30 then fed and slept until 10.30am. Hopefully tomorrow I will wake him 8am and try avoid the earlier get ups.

Thats not on.. I have the agreement with my missus that she does night feeds during the week when i have to be up early for work and i do the weekend and she gets a lie in. When it comes to feeds etc i like to do the evening ones as it gives me time to have cuddles with the littleun! if shes doing feeds i get the stuff ready for her and if im doing them she gets the stuff ready for me. As for the housework thats one thing thats tiring me out, i do feel like im the only one doing it at the moment but we have talked about it and we've agreed a plan for housework (+ that shes not allowed to get stressed about the state of the house if shes not helping to clean it, seems fair?!)

Its all give and take. Give each other a break and it'll work out. if he's not on board then you have to show him whats expected for you to all get along.

kitkat5566

Thanks Jenny and SS, I think I am just more mad at my OH than the fact T is waking in the night. He's got a tooth right at the front now, feels like my baby is growing far too quickly!

SS thats good your DH still helps out, and I feel for him being ill, whereas my OH is just plain lazy! He will happily play with T, but it has to be when he CBA, and often over-stimulates him and then just puts him in his bouncer when bored.

Thanks New! Its just really getting to me, its gradually got worse and worse and his 'talk' last night just shocked me. He hardly did anything before, yes I know he works but crikey one bottle!! He will only ever do it if I go out which is maybe for an hour per week to do food shopping? I normally come home to chaos though! Maybe I will start staying out all weekend!

kitkat5566

Bufger wrote: »

Thats not on.. I have the agreement with my missus that she does night feeds during the week when i have to be up early for work and i do the weekend and she gets a lie in. When it comes to feeds etc i like to do the evening ones as it gives me time to have cuddles with the littleun! if shes doing feeds i get the stuff ready for her and if im doing them she gets the stuff ready for me. As for the housework thats one thing thats tiring me out, i do feel like im the only one doing it at the moment but we have talked about it and we've agreed a plan for housework (+ that shes not allowed to get stressed about the state of the house if shes not helping to clean it, seems fair?!)

Its all give and take. Give each other a break and it'll work out. if he's not on board then you have to show him whats expected for you to all get along.

Thankyou your wife is a very lucky woman! My OH doesn't do any housework either... LOL. Then he will moan at me for having carp everywhere but TBH I've barely had time lately, I always do the basics; wash up, clean the kitchen/ bathroom, wash clothes, sweep floors and run the hoover around but general tidying has been my last priority!!

I think a bit of a talk will be required later!

Hows fatherhood treating you?

Bufger

kitkat5566 wrote: »

Thankyou your wife is a very lucky woman! My OH doesn't do any housework either... LOL. Then he will moan at me for having carp everywhere but TBH I've barely had time lately, I always do the basics; wash up, clean the kitchen/ bathroom, wash clothes, sweep floors and run the hoover around but general tidying has been my last priority!!

I think a bit of a talk will be required later!

Hows fatherhood treating you?

I'm completely knackered to be honest. LOL. Its hard work, alot harder than i thought it would be! I did find it more diffucult when i was on paternity leave and we were both at home - when sleep deprived she can get very grumpy and i snap at her when she speaks to me badly and i havent done anything wrong - then the fireworks start! luckily we both know why its happening so we can sort it out.

My missus does the washing which i appreciate. I can load the washing machine and work it and dry clothes but i rarely remember to do it and the stuff would just pile up! luckily the magic fairy does it so i dont mind always doing the dishwasher or something else.

aless02

Sleeping through with no wake-ups other than to feed: only once we did controlled crying around 6.5 months old. He was a TERRIBLE sleeper before this, up 4-5 times a night sometimes more.

Sleeping through with no wake-ups whatsoever: 11 months, just one night he stopped waking up, no prompting from us!!

redmel1621

kitkat5566 wrote: »

Thanks New! Its just really getting to me, its gradually got worse and worse and his 'talk' last night just shocked me. He hardly did anything before, yes I know he works but crikey one bottle!! He will only ever do it if I go out which is maybe for an hour per week to do food shopping? I normally come home to chaos though! Maybe I will start staying out all weekend!

Your not alone KK...My dh is a lazy so n so too.

I do everything for the kids, and there's 4 of them!! I sometimes wonder why I am so knackered all the time, but if I sit down and think about it, it's not really surprising.

Hopefully you can get him to do a few things, or maybe go out more, say you are just nipping the shop and stay out for a few hours...

Mel x

Becles

redmel1621 wrote: »

I sometimes wonder why I am so knackered all the time, but if I sit down and think about it, it's not really surprising.

I could have written that

elainec

hiya, thought i would introduce myself.
Ive spent past couple of day reading thread through to get to grips with everyone. I remember some from the pregnancy thread when i had a lot more time to myself!
my son is now almost 5 months and i am trying hard to get him into a good night time routine as i will be going back to work soon.
saw someone posted about sainsbury 1/3 off, have just compared prices for some things and boots have deals which make most nappies and pampers sensitive wipes cheaper if ive done my sums correct!