MSE Parents Club Part 16

Make-it-3

Feeling a bit more upbeat today after a stressful week. My LO is now clocking up a nearly 2 hour daytime kip :j . Also this morning when she was weighed she had made her largest weight gain - 10oz in two weeks (I know that's not a lot compared to many of your chubby babies) but makes me feel fab as she is BF and fell to below the 2nd centile at her smallest point when I had the HV all over me like a rash to FF.

rach

that's great news MI3, everything feels better after sleep (theirs more than your own i think!). Great news about the weight gain, L was around 2nd centile around xmas after my abcess etc but is now over 50th i think. think sir m is going to pm you about meeting next week xx

We went to bounce & rhyme at the library, which is fun...though I always think I could do a better job than the lady who does it (have done similar things in the past I'm not just being c0cky! Had a chat with another mum who we often see there whose dd was born the day after L, should've said let's go for a coffee really as her friends were not there today and sir m wasn't either. Got caught in a downpour on the way home but thankfully had heeded the grey clouds and taken a brolly!

L has had 2 naps today adn I've just put him back down as he was looking tired and rubbing his eyes. hit and miss at this time though. DH is on his way home (is this a good thing or not!?) and FiL randomly popped in with a lemon drizzle cake going spare as they're going away

pigpen

My fatty lumpus is on the 85th for weight.. she eats bricks I'm sure lol

I love lemon drizzle cake.. tell them to spare a chunk in my direction!

Make-it-3

Thanks Rach, tried to pm you too, but system said you don't accept pm's??

I also got caught in that rain shower coming back from the library (picking up the Gill Rapley book). Negotiating the puddles with one hand on the pram and the other holding an umbrella wasn't exactly successful - but we're all dried out now.

madnessandmayhem

Afternoon ladies

Sorry not posted for a while, but I have been lurking

Hope no-one minds, but I just need to offload a bit-having bit of a down day today.

Just feeling really stressy and wound up-not really for any particular reason, although if feels like there is cr*p all over the house, and I feel like I am doing a sh!te job at everything.
I just want to sit here and cry, but then that makes me feel guilty cos I feel like I should be happy all the time (which i am, just don't feel like showing it, if that makes any sense at all??? )
Everything seems to be setting me off- I hung up on the person when renewing my home insurance cos the song that was playing when I was hold was the one at my Grandads funeral and ALWAYS makes me cry, so couldn't really be dealing with insurance lol
Hubby is being good, but when he is telling me i need to stop stressing and calm down, it makes me feel worse, and he keeps telling me i'm doing a good job, but if I am then why does he need to keep giving me 'pointers' (I know thats not his intention, but it feels like criticism) and keep asking me if I need to 'talk about it'

I don't know if it's just because i'm tired, or hormones just being a bit jumbly, but i'm just really scared that it's PND rearing it's ugly head again (I had it with DS 1, not DS 2 though) and then the thought that it could be makes me feel worse.
I just feel guilty about everything all the time (like the fact the kids had oven chips for dinner 2 days in a row, or that I burnt hubbys dinner the other night cos I was sorting Max out and fogot I had it in the oven, and that i'm not bf Max anymore (even though he's a little chunker and put on 2lb 8oz in 2 weeks :eek:)

Sorry to bring the mood down, I just needed to offload a bit-even if it's rambly and doesn't make sense lol

On the plus though, we have started getting nice smiles from Max

MERFE

Did you have a breast abcess rach? How did you carry on feeding I could barely pick Bob up? You did fantastic to carry on, its hard normally but when you're ill and in pain almost impossible.

Beccles as well as bottle feeding I also give my little bobit the odd yoghurt and baby biscuit I'm such a bad mum. But then on the telly this morning they were talking about people that gave their kids sweets for breakfast and one of the mums from school (and I was really shocked by this as she seems so well presented, smart, nice etc) was saying how her little boy same age as DD 6 years had to have a filling and she has had to stop giving him sweets everyday. Then there was the poor girl from DD preschool who developed type 2 diabetes at 5 because in her home there's 3 kitchen draws full of sweets, one for mum, one for dad and one for her.

Bobs on his way to being a chatabox, started with loads of mouth movements but nothing coming out but we are now getting all sorts of gagas and raras. No clear mama or Dada yet so there's a bit of a competition going on but I've no doubt dada will come first just cos its easier.

Becles

Pleased you feel better MI3 xx

Just offload if it helps madnessandmayhem. You can't be happy all of the time and things do build up and get you down. Maybe go to the doctor for a chat and just see how you feel. If it is PND, it would be better to nip it in the bud now so to speak. Have you got a nice doctor that you can talk to?

Have seen what goes into some packed lunches and can well believe those children Merfe. The next door neighbour used to send her daughter to school with a packet of Wotsits, a Twix and a Mars bar for lunch as that is all she wanted to eat.

pigpen

madnessandmayhem wrote: »

Afternoon ladies

Sorry not posted for a while, but I have been lurking

Hope no-one minds, but I just need to offload a bit-having bit of a down day today.

Just feeling really stressy and wound up-not really for any particular reason, although if feels like there is cr*p all over the house, and I feel like I am doing a sh!te job at everything.
I just want to sit here and cry, but then that makes me feel guilty cos I feel like I should be happy all the time (which i am, just don't feel like showing it, if that makes any sense at all??? )
Everything seems to be setting me off- I hung up on the person when renewing my home insurance cos the song that was playing when I was hold was the one at my Grandads funeral and ALWAYS makes me cry, so couldn't really be dealing with insurance lol
Hubby is being good, but when he is telling me i need to stop stressing and calm down, it makes me feel worse, and he keeps telling me i'm doing a good job, but if I am then why does he need to keep giving me 'pointers' (I know thats not his intention, but it feels like criticism) and keep asking me if I need to 'talk about it'

I don't know if it's just because i'm tired, or hormones just being a bit jumbly, but i'm just really scared that it's PND rearing it's ugly head again (I had it with DS 1, not DS 2 though) and then the thought that it could be makes me feel worse.
I just feel guilty about everything all the time (like the fact the kids had oven chips for dinner 2 days in a row, or that I burnt hubbys dinner the other night cos I was sorting Max out and fogot I had it in the oven, and that i'm not bf Max anymore (even though he's a little chunker and put on 2lb 8oz in 2 weeks :eek:)

Sorry to bring the mood down, I just needed to offload a bit-even if it's rambly and doesn't make sense lol

On the plus though, we have started getting nice smiles from Max

offoad all you like..

insurance.. sort it online!!! you can do it while eating or once the children are in bed.. better still delegate it to hubby!

Re the food.. could you maybe have hubby help prepare stuff the night before? potatoes can be peeled and stored in cold water until needed same with other ve.. or dig out a slowcooker and do stews/bolognese/joints of meat.. chuck them in about lunch or mid morning and they'll be cooked in good time for dinner.

What annoys you most about the house? I hate seeing dirt laundry.. if I do nothing else I do that. and dirty pots depress me. and I harpic the loo nightly. Could you do a binbag a day? fill a binbag and bin it or charity shop it or just put it in the shed until you can deal with it! Get the children putting away their stuff before bed.. it is theirs they should shift it.. then it takes 2 minutes to whizz the vac around... and you have a tidyish grown up space for you of an evening!

I had PND a few times and the wost part was the apathy which meant I couldn't summon the energy to do a thing.. but it drove me mad and made me feel worse.. it was literally a case of forcing myself to do anything.

My GP was about as supportive as a trainer bra! so I battled through it with no help or support from anyone.

sir_monster

((hugs)) to those feeling down especially madness and mayhem, can you get support from parents/in laws?

Had to miss library group today as feeling unwell - barely eaten today and was in bed when t went down at 8 last night and slept (well with a few wakings) till 7ish. I normally enjoy groups, but have to time around when t wants to sleep now as easy for him to sleep in cot now is older.

MI3 glad to hear of long nap and enjoy the blw book, I'm just re reading mine. Also sent you pm.

Can I ask a question re sleep, DS since abut 5 months has been sleeping from about 7:30/8 till about 7ish but last week or so has been waking at about 4 or 5 for a feed, then usually goes back till 7ish. Should I feed him at this time or do you think he is waking for habit? Anyone else gone through a 9 monthish sleep regression and does it pass or do I need to alter anything? If it helps I usually bf about 5, then tea, then bath and then a bottle of ebm or formula. I usually bf in the night have tried water but seems to make him more upset and less easy to settle rather than a quick feed. Just feel we are going backwards . . .

pigpen

It could be something outside disturbing him. We have wood pigeons squawking down out chimney about that time.. oh to have a broom!

He could be hungry or have kicked off his covers and be cold or just habit.. difficult to tell really... what does he do if you ignore him? Squeak wakes about 4 quite often and will whine a bit but goes back to sleep if left alone.