MSE Parents Club Part 16

Becles

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Sorry for the long post, so glad I came on here - its calmed me down. One of the mum's at Gymboree made me feel like my problems with DD ie not sleeping in day, no routine, her small size are all down to BFing. As she didn't bother and her boy is making great progress.:mad:

Just ignore her.

When your baby/child behaves badly in public, everyone looks and has an opinion on what you are doing wrong and what you should be doing.

When they are perfectly behaved, it's very rare that someone notices and passes comment.

Some good news today. My sister-in-law had her baby yesterday. He's a boy and I've seen him on Skype this evening and he looks very cute. James is absolutely thrilled as he told them at Easter they should call the baby by his middle name after him, and that's the name they have picked :cool:

jennynoo

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Mit3 - I took Josh to a gymboree sesion a couple of weeks ago, and he screamed hysterically through the whole thing! It was so embarassing! All the other babies seemed to be loving it, including my friend Kelly's baby who has a habit of screeching and sqwaking almost constantly!

I ended up in a corner trying to BF him to calm him down but that didn't help. He just screamed even more..it was horrific! I haven't been back since as it was just too awful. I sometimes think these things can be all too much for a baby.

Don't listen to smug know-it-all's you meet at these groups. You are doing the very best for your baby, and they all grow/behave differently. I gave up on reading books a long time ago as no 2 babies behave the same!

Jennynoo - I live really near you if you are in Streatham! Wonder if we have met in 'real life' at any baby groups..I've been to a few!

I'm gearing up to stop BF'ing in the next few weeks. My boobs are completely lop-sided now as DS has always favoured the left one. It looks ridiculous, and the right one is pretty much drying up.

We've started mixing formula into his dream feed as I'm also not able to express as much as I was. I think it's coming to a natural end for me. I'm sure I'll be a little sad, but considering I was ready to quit a day or so after he was born in hospital, I'm happy that I have managed to push on with it for this long really!

I stopped going to groups when I went back to work in Sept last year so I wont have seen you at any groups. I do however frequent streatham common park and the rookery at the weekend and Mondays. I'm the only one with the toddler in Inka wrap so easily spotted.

I wouldn't worry about screaming babies - that's what they all do at some point. I remember quite a few parenting classes and groups where Erin just kept pooing - none of the other babies seemed to poo so much and I never saw anyone else have to strip baby due to poo leak and have do a complete clothes change - thanks Erin! She was an angel other times though - at that age you just never know.

Congratulations Becles - it's lovely having Skype isn't it although it does make you miss being able to hold them that bit more in my opinion.

rach

Morning all

MV don't worry about Josh crying at the thing, was he tired maybe? I find that things like that are too much for them sometimes as if they're tired they can get overstimulated! and the more you worry and stress the worse they get!! hugs. you've done so well with the bf, I was the same as I struggled so much at first but somehow one feed at a time became 8.5 months. You've given him a great start, well done!! we learnt yesterday that the milk will still be there for a good month after you stop altogether, and even if you were to put him on the lower side a fair bit again it would soon catch up - amazing things boobs!

MI3 - as SM says we are not too far from you, we could jump on a train after our bf training and meet you, sounds like a good real life gossip might be what you need!

L slept through til 6 today without a peep, he was happily cooing at first then but started to moan about 6.15 so I am up early with him after a big feed. I usually take him into our bed for a play after the first feed but thought I'd let dh sleep a bit longer...I really need to start going to bed earlier, it has crept til about 11.30 which is too late for me these days, was going around 10 until dh moved back in the room and i tend to wait up for him now.

Becles

jennynoo wrote: »

Congratulations Becles - it's lovely having Skype isn't it although it does make you miss being able to hold them that bit more in my opinion.

They live 350 miles away, so I'll not get to see him in person for a while. They're talking about coming up to visit at the end of August but I guess that will depend on how he goes as it's a long car journey with a baby.

Busy day today with a few things to do.

Have a good day all xx

Metranil_Vavin

Thanks rach. I have really had to take BFing one day at a time as I struggled and hated it so much to begin with, I was convinced Josh would starve!

I do regret a bit caving in a few times in hospital when he was first born and giving him formula though. I feel like I gave in too easily, but I totally believe that every mother does what she thinks is best for her child at the time. No one else has ANY right to criticise. We are all doing a great (and difficult!) job

Jenny - I was at the Rookery only last Saturday! It's lovely there isn't it..just a shame it is so full of steps in places, which makes it tricky with the buggy.

Have a great day all XX

Make-it-3

Thanks again ladies for all your support, it’s been another demanding morning, but LO has finally went to sleep at 11.15 after waking at 5.30 am. I’m wondering if I’m keeping her up too long after feeds and then she is getting overtired? How much play time should they be having at 4 1/2 months?

MV, glad to see our babies have something in common – a dislike of Gymboree – I don’t think we timed it right as she had gone the whole morning without a sleep and then to add in sensory overload of colour, noise, other babies etc. I wouldn’t have gone if it wasn’t a free trial.

SirM – think you’re right about these paid-for groups, it was the first such thing I had gone to, unfortunately I live in an area with lots of yummy mummies and I do think there is a lot of competitiveness going on. It was one of the reasons I didn’t do NCT – but it does make me feel a little isolated though.

If both you and Rach want to use me as a guinea-pig for your BF supporters training then I’d love to meet up. BF has been quite a rollercoaster for me but I want to keep going to the year mark if everything carries on ok with us. It would be good to get some tips from you both. I’ll pm you and we can sort something out.

CL

Hi everyone. I didn't go to any classes. I'm not really into joining groups and I live about 20 mins drive from the nearest town, so couldn't really be bothered.

I spent some of yesterday practising sitting up with my LO and she seems to have got it! She can now sit for about 10 mins unaided. When she has a bit of a wobble, she can correct herself and usually topples over only when she reaches for something too far away. I'm really pleased, because I'm sure now she will be sitting confidently by August when she goes to the creche.

wendz86

Afternoon everyone ,

MV - i had to give my baby formula in hospital first couple of days as she just wouldnt eat anything. I felt guilty too but you have to do what is best. I am not a massive fan of bfing but am going to do my best to get to 6 months.

I took Poppy to her first music class today and she seemed to like it, fell asleep at the end though. The mums seemed quite nice so thats good.

pigpen

I haven't taken mine to any groups.. what is the point? She wants me and nobody else so why would I inflict other people on her.. she hates other people.. if we go out she wants to feed the entire time as a way of hiding from everyone. I can do singing and playing at home.. babies do not need a social life.. it just inflicts other peoples grotty children and germs on them and then they get ill.. these groups are not for the children but for the parents.. once they start walking and want to do other stuff I won't do at home like painting and sticking.. then fine... she can go to nursery lol ..

Ok.. also, I don't like other people, I dislike other peoples children and I am not interested in their petty and sad little lives... I like mine... much more drama! Is it just me or does everyone seem incredibly.. uneducated and clueless? (of course that could just be down to where I live )

delain

pigpen wrote: »

I haven't taken mine to any groups.. what is the point? She wants me and nobody else so why would I inflict other people on her.. she hates other people.. if we go out she wants to feed the entire time as a way of hiding from everyone. I can do singing and playing at home.. babies do not need a social life.. it just inflicts other peoples grotty children and germs on them and then they get ill.. these groups are not for the children but for the parents.. once they start walking and want to do other stuff I won't do at home like painting and sticking.. then fine... she can go to nursery lol ..

Ok.. also, I don't like other people, I dislike other peoples children and I am not interested in their petty and sad little lives... I like mine... much more drama! Is it just me or does everyone seem incredibly.. uneducated and clueless? (of course that could just be down to where I live )

No it happens here... some random woman the other day said I should put sugar on Squeak's strawberries! Why? She likes them as they are!

Because we are out and about on the bus so much and people always look at her, Squeak now seems to think she is the Queen and therefore required to smile and wave at everyone so people just start talking to you. If no one is looking at her she makes loud chatter sounds until they do!

To be fair I do get complimented on my parenting sometimes which always comes as a shock I don't think I do that well :rotfl: