MSE Parents Club Part 16

hngrymummy

rach wrote: »

I've really worried myself by reading about how leaving a baby to cry can be damaging I feel sad that I gave in and did it when we said we never would. He is sleeping loads better now, though sometimes wakes and crys for a few minutes. but i feel sad if that's because he knows no one will come

maybe he knows that no-one will come to his whinging, but they will come if he's upset, so he's saving his crying for when he's needing you.

JadeOrchid

We're not all smug monsters for ff... it didn't work out for us.
An idea for babies who dislike tummy time like Tigger: Distraction. We worked out that he was so fascinated by the telly (cbeebies) if we put the telly on with him facing it he would tolerate it for much longer. (bad mummy )

Now he's started rolling from his back to front and gets stuck that way and moans because he doesn't know how to roll back yet. How long's that gonna take then?

Nephthys

Evening all. Hope everyone is ok. I would have to agree Jade - distraction worked great for us. It has led to a total fascination with Mickey Mouse and the Little Einsteins on Playhouse Disney! Chunky rolled from back to front first too. The other way took him a wee bit longer - maybe a week. He was so proud of himself when he managed though. It also meant I could no longer leave him alone for any length of time as he could roll from one end of the room to another!

Rach, yayy for the haircut. I really want to get mine done but DH likes it longer the way it is now. Does my head in as Chunky keeps grabbing it! I had typed a huge paragraph re the controlled crying but deleted it as I was probably rambling again. Suffice it to say that you know what is best for him and if it has worked for then please don't feel bad. I believe that he knows you would come and get him if was really upset. Babies are scarily smart and perceptive that way!

MI3 - take no notice of other mums making silly comments. Every baby is an individual and they all develop at their own pace regardless of with they are bf or ff. How they get their milk is irrelevant so long as baby and mum and dad are happy!

Have decided to keep feeding LO myself until I feel like it - regardless of the funny comments from some people (my parents bless them!). I don;t think it bothers them too much but they are worried in case it took too much out of me. It has taken me a while to recover from the pregnancy. I reckon it took me nine months for my body to be a bit knackered (and I didn't help by eating all round me) and it will take me nine months and more to get back to normal. I'm getting there. Have lost almost 3 stone in weight and am slowly getting more mobile - hurrah! Oh and I will still try for another some time as I know I can recover even if it takes a while!

Yayy me for the PMA!!!

And arguments with OH are perfectly normal. Our friends warned us before hand that we would argue over the silliest things. and they were right. My dad advised me when we got married to never be afraid to have an argument but to never go to bed angry. he was right - but I'm not gonna tell him that!

gizmodo_2

Anyone tried the gro blackout blinds? Or the velcro blackout blinds? TEmpted to get some, but we're not very lucky when it comes to the sucker type things that stick to windows. The blinds in the car still fall down. So edging toward the velcro ones.

DD has gone to bed in her nursery. She's screaming. OH is trying to sort her out. We've tried putting her moses basket in the cot for now but I don't think it's made a difference.

Nephthys

Hang in there Giz - it will work, I promise. It may take a while for her to settle and realise that you are just in the next room. Has she slept in her cot during the day at all? Is it something totally strange to her or is it just because she is in a different room? We let Chunky play in his cot in the mornings before moving him into his room (and we didn't move him until near 6 and a half months as he was still fitting well in his crib) and I think it helped him get used to the surroundings.

We've never tried those blinds so can't help there, sorry!

Dribblekitten

gizmodo wrote: »

Anyone tried the gro blackout blinds? Or the velcro blackout blinds? TEmpted to get some, but we're not very lucky when it comes to the sucker type things that stick to windows. The blinds in the car still fall down. So edging toward the velcro ones.

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I have the gro blinds for my eldests room. They are very dark and stop her getting up with the sun, but I can't make them stick. OH does a good job, when I do it, they fall off. Now I just leave them up all the time so her newly decorated room is in near darkness!

rach

Giz - we've got a gro blind in our room from when L was in there with me, and got blackout linings for his curtains.

Nepthys, *waves* you wouldn't be rambling! so glad you're posting more. hope we can keep this thread busier!

Jade - hugs, bf can be really hard and I'd definitely have stopped if i'd not found the right support at the right time. distraction is a great technique! L never liked tummy time when little but he's rolling all over now and happy on his front

MI3 - silly woman, she'll probaby have the toddler from hell! where do you live roughly? it is really hard, i feel v different to a lot of the mums around, i'm v lucky to have sir m close by though.

Make-it-3

I didn't expect to make friends with people just because they are mums too, but I guess I've been surprised how easy it is to take an instant dislike to somebody just because they spout their (different) views on parenting. This particular girl got my back to start with when she asked LO's age and then said "arrr, poor thing, was she premature".

Rach, I'm in SW London. I think we were going to have a bit of a Saff London meet up at one point, but not sure what happened, as it was just before I went off on holiday.

sir_monster

Hi MI3 we never sign up for any classes either I just go to the localish children's centre and attend their groups (free or minimal charge) as in my mind seems to be full of real mums who have probs like you say and don't judge. I found the pay for groups far too serious and with an edge of competiveness. Have you been to your local cc or one that is close by, I don't go to the closest one but found one that is great!

I hate the adverts for follow on milk, like after 6 months you don't bf anymore??

Also re developing on bf you have to on demand so your milk is available you can't really follow any sort routine, trust me I've tried but it doesn't work (for me on bf) and I still go by when he wants to feed/nap not on the clock not to any timetable. The bf training is great too as reinforces this, not weight but if they are pooing/weeing ok and happy - you are doing a great job!

We should meet, sorry was me rubbish at organising - maybe after our training as we are more sw london there?

Good for you nepthys I am too, only thing stopping me is his teeth!

Good luck giz.

Jade, must be hard when tried I was lucky t attached well.

Metranil_Vavin

Mit3 - I took Josh to a gymboree sesion a couple of weeks ago, and he screamed hysterically through the whole thing! It was so embarassing! All the other babies seemed to be loving it, including my friend Kelly's baby who has a habit of screeching and sqwaking almost constantly!

I ended up in a corner trying to BF him to calm him down but that didn't help. He just screamed even more..it was horrific! I haven't been back since as it was just too awful. I sometimes think these things can be all too much for a baby.

Don't listen to smug know-it-all's you meet at these groups. You are doing the very best for your baby, and they all grow/behave differently. I gave up on reading books a long time ago as no 2 babies behave the same!

Jennynoo - I live really near you if you are in Streatham! Wonder if we have met in 'real life' at any baby groups..I've been to a few!

I'm gearing up to stop BF'ing in the next few weeks. My boobs are completely lop-sided now as DS has always favoured the left one. It looks ridiculous, and the right one is pretty much drying up.

We've started mixing formula into his dream feed as I'm also not able to express as much as I was. I think it's coming to a natural end for me. I'm sure I'll be a little sad, but considering I was ready to quit a day or so after he was born in hospital, I'm happy that I have managed to push on with it for this long really!