MSE Parents Club Part 16

gizmodo_2

Leopardlady wrote: »

On another note, we are thinking about starting to try for our second in July/August kind of time, what do you all think about a trying for a second when the first is only 8-9months old? Thanks guys

We had planned on starting trying when DD is 10/11 months old, but it'll depend if I'm ovulating then. I've been asking the question lots about having 2 fairly close in age. Sounds like it's hard work early on, especially if you have 2 in nappies, but I think in the long term I like the idea of them being closer in age.

I took DD swimming for the first time today and she loved it

Other news is I can't figure out if DD is teething or not. Monday night she slept from 10pm to 7am - lovely. Then last night she woke up screaming at 10:30, midnight, and 4:30am. I fed her each time and although it quietened her down I'm not convinced she was hungry and I think it was more for comfort. She's been going from being a happy bunny to appearing to be uncomfortable or screaming in seconds. She's not napping either. I can't figure it out

She is dribbling, but not loads or anything. And when she is crying/fidgety she puts her hands in her mouth. A lot of rubbing of eyes cos I think she's so tired.

I can't wait for her to talk so she can tell me what's wrong.

ETA - she's 14.5 weeks.

pigpen

I've found the hardest part about 2 close together is dealing with the early pregnancy exhaustion while having to stay awake and deal with an older one. this gap of 14ish months is killing me. By this point I am usually manically decorating.. I am currently manically saving money so I can pay someone else to do all the work!

18 months gap worked best for me. One was able to entertain themselves while I fed the baby and the accepted the baby much better than older ones.. 4 is a horrific age gap.. they always hate each other.. moreso if they are the same gender

madnessandmayhem

pigpen wrote: »

4 is a horrific age gap.. they always hate each other.. moreso if they are the same gender

Ds 1 was 4 yr 3 mth when ds 2 was born, and Max was born a week before ds 2's 4th birthday!!! mostly they get on-they do have their spats, but they love each other!! I would rather that, than do what my friend did-had her 2nd 9 days before her son was 1 :eek:

Becles

There's 20 months between Josh and James. Josh was old enough to understand he wasn't being pushed out when the baby came along, and they played lovely together when they were little. They're 14 and 12 now and constantly argue and fight. Just had words this evening as James has spread rumours round school that Josh is highly infectious and nobody should go near him and Josh has spread rumours that James has spots on his penis - arrrgghh!

There's an 8 year gap between Charlotte and James, and 10 years between her and Josh. It works out well as the boys are fairly independent so I've been able to give Charlotte a lot of attention. It doesn't work out when the boys want to do things that are too old for her like go to the cinema, and she wants to go to soft play. We try and do things like go to a castle where the boys can read and discuss the historical aspects and she can run around and pretend to look for dragons or something

pigpen

Squeak is trapped in her jumperoo after trying to choke herself to death, kill the cat and break the car seat..

I don't do stress.. I am about as laid back as it is possible to get and still be alive... and i want to kill.. Squeak is driving me crazy.. she is putting every single accessible thing in her mouth.. she had a tiny piece of sellotape in which I couldn't see when I looked and she kept nearly choking on.. I can't stand it!! My others never pt anything in their mouths like she does.. they did it occasionally, like once a month or so but this is constant!

The cat has lost his marbles and is peeing everywhere, vomitting and yowling at nothing... I want to make him into slippers.

Tiddles has a 'fake cough' and is trying to make herself sick..

I don't think my brain can take much more this week! I am looking for the brighter aspects.. ooh the baby is asleep.. there's one... and I'm not having much luck!

sir_monster

Sorry MV I thouught you mentioned you thought Josh might need something more than milk? Bit annoyed that they just mentioned start with baby rice, seems most health professionals don't even mentioned blw as at least an alternative so you can make up your own mind up!

MI3 totally agree with you, plus with spooning is like - just finish this etc, with blw they take what they want. Like tonight t decided he was more interested looking at his chair!

Sorry to hear many probs with sleep/naps. Not sure when teething starts, is hard to know - only bothered t the night they actually came through. Those who have probs with babies sleeping on them a good book was the no cry solution as goes through how to move them from arms to bed.

T had a poor nap day so collapsed at 7:30, just found him face down head near cot bars with arm sticking out! Also had first day of proper training to be a bf peer supporter with Rach, which seems good.

Becles

Morning

Never really had a problem with them putting things in their mouths. The dogs used to give them their manky rubber toys and bones to chew though - yuk!

Another busy day ahead with work to do and boot camp this evening. I downloaded an exercise tracker thing for my phone. It straps on my arm with an armband and it works out how many calories I burn, then uploads it to their website where I can keep stats and stuff. I tested it playing Just Dance on the Wii last night and burned 357 calories in an hour

Have a good day all xx

brednall

Morning to all. Just after some advice please.

My DD is just about 16 months old and has always been a great sleeper at night. She had a nasty ear infection about 2-3 weeks ago which was treated with some antibiotics and hasn't been sleeping the same since.

Most nights she wakes once, twice or even 4 times which is hard for both me and my husband. I am currently almost 34 weeks pregnant with our second child and still working too so finding it hard missing out on my usual sleep as is my DH.

Some nights she settles back quicker after a cuddle but then will often wake again later, some nights we have resorted to Calpol but still awake sometimes an hour later and twice now we have had to give her a bottle in the night which I really don't want to get into the habit of doing.

My DH thinks she may be hungry but she doesn't cry for food (but then she never really has after the first few weeks of her life) so we are not sure whether to introduce some sort of 'supper' into her routine other than her current bottle of milk.

Any ideas/suggestions would be gratefully received.

Emma

Evansangel

Leopardlady, We started when Lily was 6wks and i was pregnant when she was 6 months.

The early stages were ok because she was still small, but as i got bigger i couldn't do much for her.

Now he's here i thought it would be easy, but she has been so naughty and constantly has tantrums even though she gets more attention than ever. But she's lovely to Alfie (she constantly kisses him) so its worked out ok in a way. The nappies aren't so bad since we are used to doing them all anyway.

You will notice that when the new baby is born, the older one is suddenly sooo grown up and no longer your little baby *sniff*

*BigBird*

Can I ask a question of those of you doing BLW - how easy is it to prepare stuff in advance? I started Joe off with the mushy stuff and he's quite happy with it, but in the last week I've tried him on a few finger foods and he's LOVED it So I'm wondering if we switch to BLW instead. However I do find the mush convenient as I can make it in batches and then just pull some out of the freezer and zap it in the microwave as and when needed. Could I put things like steamed carrot sticks and broccoli in the freezer, or would I need to be making it fresh in small batches? (That's not such a problem for me, but I just know it will be far too much trauma for DH to cope with!)

I had a chat with Joe's childminder about it this morning and she's quite happy to give it a go, so I just need to get my head around it now.

I'm also wondering when would be a good time to start trying for another baby. I don't want to wait too long so there's not too much of a gap and I'm not getting any younger. But I really don't want a double pushchair! Sounds silly, but I know I would hate it So it'll have to wait til Joe's walking.

Not sure what to suggest about your DD brednall. Joe sleeps really well, but has woken in the night when he's been having growth spurts and then continued to do so for a week or so. After a couple of nights (when I know his appetite has settled down and he's not hungry), I just leave him when he wakes up as I know he can settle himself, and he always has within a few minutes. Then gradually his wake up time gets later and later til he's back to sleeping through.