MSE Parents Club Part 16

Teenie_D

delain wrote: »

Ditto, I posted further back about my experience with DD1. I was almost afraid of feeding her I used to dread it and it contributed to my PND hugely.

There is a huge stigma attached to FF and it's unnecessary really

Exactly I loved breast feeding but DD just instinctively knew what to do right from the word go which made it 100 times easier on me but it isn't all fun and games for everyone and if you get to the stage that you did you do have to ask yourself is it worth it!

cazscoob

if it makes you feel any better i have 5 and was unable to feed my 1st and 4th as i dreaded it and they cried constantly, my 2nd was fed until he was 2 and the girls were before they were 1 xx

delain

cazscoob wrote: »

if it makes you feel any better i have 5 and was unable to feed my 1st and 4th as i dreaded it and they cried constantly, my 2nd was fed until he was 2 and the girls were before they were 1 xx

Long time no see :j

How are you?

Chakani

Hi all - it's nice to see lots of people I recognise in here

Big hugs to all who need sleep - I do too, but am managing. DD is 2 weeks old now, and today is my first full day at home alone with both children - DS goes to nursery Monday afternoons, so only had DD then, and yesterday I had MIL over to entertain DS and to "help".

Can any of the mums of two or more give me your best tips on organising babies and toddlers together? To be honest, neither of my two are bad, but our old routines don't work so well any more, and I need to work out some new ones to save my sanity, since I understand that tying up the toddler and gagging the newborn are generally frowned-on practices these days? :rotfl:

OH has a long day with work tomorrow, so I will be on my own all day from 6am til 10pm. I am dreading bedtime a bit, so trying to work out in advance what on earth I'm going to do with the pair of them, especially since DS is really missing Daddy at the moment since he's gone back to work, and Daddy does a lot of his bedtime stuff normally, like stories etc.

My biggest problem is keeping DD safe from her brother (he's 2) because he is besotted with her and is constantly trying to cuddle and kiss her. It's fine if all I'm doing is watching the pair of them, but dinner does have to be made at some point, and I don't want DD in a sling while I'm cooking.

Giz - I'm not exactly enjoying BF yet either, I thought it would come easier second time - it WILL get better if you keep at it, but if it all gets too much, there are more important things than a boob in a baby's mouth, and a happy, healthy, (and sane!) mum is way further up the list in the grand scheme of things

Evansangel

Chakani wrote: »

Can any of the mums of two or more give me your best tips on organising babies and toddlers together? To be honest, neither of my two are bad, but our old routines don't work so well any more, and I need to work out some new ones to save my sanity, since I understand that tying up the toddler and gagging the newborn are generally frowned-on practices these days? :rotfl:

I hope not, we have the baby cage ready for when this one is born :rotfl:

I might just lock him in in his rocker chair and let Lily roam the place, then she wont be able to get to him

cazscoob

delain wrote: »

Long time no see :j

How are you?

im ill lol! full of the cold and its not good!

How are things? not been up tomuch trying to organise the house but then got ill so it now looks worse than ever! xxx

MERFE

afternoon everyone x

chakani I really can't remember what it was like when my other 2 were young together, I think OH had a job with less overtime actually so was home by 3-4pm and I waited till he was home before I did dinner. DD used to be a biter as well so we did have to be careful leaving them alone, or she would bounce his chair really hard. The kitchen was tiny too, could barely fit one person in let alone take the baby in with me. Its possible I left her in the lounge then we had a stairgate across the hallway and DS the otherside so he could see me in the kitchen. It was so much harder with two little ones but I would say you will get into a routine and its still early days at 2 weeks it took me longer than that with Bob and I can mostly concentrate on him, plus everything changes so much in those early days.

New toys are great, they played lego at the table for 2 hours this morning, gater golf for an hour. I just took them for a stroll to asda for baby milk in the rain - we got soaked but its great when you get home and changed and dry. Tomorrow I'll take them to the soft play, they haven't been except for birthday parties for over 2 years and I think I can deal with Bob and keep an eye on them ok. This half term is going really fast.

Oh evans I have a babycage here waiting to keep baby safe once he plays because today I had to keep him off the floor. When the older 2 are at school he can roam about but they were playing remote control cars earlier and with how much they run about its safer for him. I don't think he will like it much though.

pigpen

I've done the 'baby in the playpen and toddler roaming free' thing too.

Of m 9 i have breastfed 8

dS1 was FF.. and he isn't dead, brain damaged or constantly ill.. in fact h is probably the healthiest child you could ever hope to meet.
DD1 and DS2 were BF for 9 months
DD2 16 months
DS3 for 3 months as he was lactose intolerant and had severe reflux
DD3 was 3 and I tandem fed her and DD4 for a year.
DD4 quit at 2
DD5 was 6 months.. she also had reflux and the meds were given in a bottle and I was ill and we moved house and FF was so much easier.
DD6 is 6 months and down to 3 feeds a day so I can't see her wanting to continue much longer

So long as baby is fed and thriving there shouldn't be any guilt associated.. who cares what the books say or the World Halth Org.. they don't have to live your life or see your child distressed or a sad mummy.. You should all do what is best and most suited to your family.

And I was ousted from the Surestart building for saying that to a mum at a breastfeeding support group..

I think sometimes we feel we have to have permission and approval in order to make a decision which is right for us..

Chakani

Oh I so wish we had room for a babycage, but we just don't - I actually have a travel cot I could use, but nowhere it could go and still leave DS any space to play. DD is quite happy in her bouncy chair, but DS has already been caught trying to pick her up from it, and he could very easily tip it over. I could try the carseat I suppose, it's heavier than the bouncer. I have tried the buggy, but it's a P&T, and he's used to climbing into it, so that didn't work, and the little wretch can climb over the garden gate, so can't let him outside unless I can go with him and pay him my full attention. I love him and his energy, but it's driving me crackers this week!

Oh, and he can climb into her cot too, so she's not safe in there either! :rotfl:







Are sedatives frowned on too.....?

delain

Chakani wrote: »

Oh I so wish we had room for a babycage, but we just don't - I actually have a travel cot I could use, but nowhere it could go and still leave DS any space to play. DD is quite happy in her bouncy chair, but DS has already been caught trying to pick her up from it, and he could very easily tip it over. I could try the carseat I suppose, it's heavier than the bouncer. I have tried the buggy, but it's a P&T, and he's used to climbing into it, so that didn't work, and the little wretch can climb over the garden gate, so can't let him outside unless I can go with him and pay him my full attention. I love him and his energy, but it's driving me crackers this week!

Oh, and he can climb into her cot too, so she's not safe in there either! :rotfl:









Are sedatives frowned on too.....?

I believe they are yes but boy it's tempting....

DD1 was 21 months when my twins were born, they had a travel cot as a cage. Someone offered me a door bouncer for Squeak the other day which I was atounded about as we have no room and the twins would have mad fun 'swinging' her in it. I said no lol :rotfl: