MSE Parents Club Part 16

delain

cazscoob wrote: »

im ill lol! full of the cold and its not good!

How are things? not been up tomuch trying to organise the house but then got ill so it now looks worse than ever! xxx

You can't beat my kitchen, there are 3 bin bags of clean washing and the floor would have kim and aggie busy for hours!

Speaking of hours Squeak has been asleep since 1.30 :eek: she's not been well though so I'm letting her sleep it off.

got-it-spend-it

**confuzzled** wrote: »

HI all, I've been mia since DD was born but everything is settling down now and I finally have time to type:T, serves me right for taking on too much I suppose:)

Giz can completly empathise with you, I felt the same but honestly if you persevere it's totally worth it, I'm still bfing Lottie most of the time but from 5 weeks we introduced small amounts of formula, mainly for my sanity:o and she took to it quite well and now we give her formula when out and about, mainly due to the fact I'm no good at covering myself up, natural exhibitionist me:p:rotfl:

Anyhoo I have a bfing question, what are the signs that baby is ready to give up the boob??? I have a feeling Lottie isn't as keen on bfing anymore as I am:( She gets really agitated while at the boob and is constantly on and off it, it's definitely not wind and her attachment has always been good. The only time she feeds well is just before her bedtime and I think thats only coz she's too knackered to wriggle about:p:D

TIA x

I stopped offering Henry BFs when he turned one, and he never asked for it again. Funny really as he was milk obsessed when he was little. I really enjoyed BFing after the initial painful few weeks, but I must admit I was a little bit glad to get my boobs back!

Hugs to poorly mummies, I hope you feel better soon.

gizmodo_2

Teenie_D wrote: »

LOL I had typed more or less the same but lost my post! Giz I typed a long winded post yesterday about my b/feeding experience and I had a relatively easy time of it (I also expressed and laterally DD got formula for last feed at night).

I went to a b/feeding support group, mainly for the company, is there something like that you can go to? I don't want to say just give up, especially if you really want to carry on with it, but NEVER feel guilty about doing so. I was ashamed to tell anyone when I started giving DD a formula bottle at night but there is a lot of pressure out there that makes mums feel like this. You have given it good go and no matter how long you continue for, you have given the best start to your baby!

Fuzz DD gave up my boob at 8 months which was kind of ok as I was going back to work then anyway, I was quite happy offering her milk first thing but she decided otherwise (and I did persevere with this for a good while but if they don't want it then they don't want it!). Every baby is different at the end of the day.;)

There's a breastfeeding clinic which I've been too. They were fab and got me through the first week. I'm worried I just have very little patience, I'm getting quite frustrated with the crying too and let her cry it out last night and today I feel terrible for doing it. I get frustrated because one time she latches on perfect (usually infront of midwives/at the clinic/guests/my mum). But others it's such a battle, she fidgets so much, she then cries, she buries her head in my tummy, meanwhile my milk is pouring out I get upset...blah blah blah. *sigh*

delain wrote: »

When I got very anemiic I felt cold all the time and very sluggish, try Spatone it's basically iron without the side effects

Definitely not anaemic (had my blood tested 2 days ago - and back to normal - had a blood transfusion in hospital and been on iron pills). I do have Spatone in the cupboard though so will continue taking it. I've also got about 6 months supply of pregnacare, so whoever suggested that, I'll start taking those again, thanks.

I'm not too fussed about the whole FF thing, it's more my laziness...everytime I BF I try and think about how easy it is and how I don't have to go downstairs to get a bottle and warm it up and steralise them etc etc. BF is very convenient but it's not worth it if I'm going to be miserable. I think I'm going to start expressing from tomorrow, as if I don't I think I think I will give up soon. If things don't improve over the weekend I shall go back to the clinic on Monday for more help and support.

Thanks everyone for all your help...

Got to go and wolf down dinner now before DD wakes up for food

Becles

gizmodo wrote: »

Thanks for this. I did feel feel better, although quite exhausted and it was only a short walk Yesterday we went to town and opened an account for DD. So did a fair bit of walking there and again felt good after. So we're aiming to do something everyday now.

I'm not sure if I have a cold or not. I've been occassionally getting really achy in my muscles and bones - almost like when you have the flu, but it's on and off. Sometimes I get cold too and have to wrap myself up in a duvet even though it's warm in the house.

Yay for the walking :j

It could be a bug going round. We've had horrid colds here that are just lingering on. It felt like flu with the aches and feeling shivery, but not the high temps and spaced out feeling you get with full blown flu.

Sorry to hear you are struggling with the breast feeding. Don't feel down if you have to give up. You've tried your best and given your baby a great start in life.

I had a hand pump and I never got on at all with expressing. I used to squeeze it for ages until my hand felt like it was going to fall off, and I'd end up with a dribble in the container

**confuzzled** wrote: »

HI all, I've been mia since DD was born but everything is settling down now and I finally have time to type:T, serves me right for taking on too much I suppose:)

Nice to see you back

Chakani wrote: »

Can any of the mums of two or more give me your best tips on organising babies and toddlers together?

Is your toddler old enough to "help"? There's two years between my eldest two, so I used to get Josh to help me. It made him feel useful and important. For a nappy change, he'd get a clean nappy out and hand me wipes out of the box and things like that.

When I was feeding James, I'd put something on TV that I could talk about with Josh, or we'd look at a book or play a game that I could do one handed!

It meant I could get on with the essential baby jobs, but Josh still felt I was giving him plenty of attention

I used to put mine on either a play mat or in the bouncy chair in the kitchen, so they could play and I could keep an eye on them while cooking.

iceicebaby

I have a question for those of you that may have encountered this situation.

I'm currently pregnant with 1st child. I will be moving over to this thread when I am an actual parent lol, as a first time mum I have a feeling I will have LOADS of questions.

OH and I are not married and have no plans too so will we be able to get our baby christened if we are not married?

Has anyone else had their child christened when they have not been married themselves?

fantafan

Don't see why not Ice. I'm a married catholic with my first on the way and I'd put money on my priest still performing a christening. They don't refuse welcoming children in to any church/family as far as I can see.

x

Metranil_Vavin

Glad to see that BF'ing is as big a pain in the..boobs for others as it is for me..having a horrible day today and am also seriously contemplating throwing in the towel with breast feeding

Josh just struggles, cries and almost tears my nipples off at the moment. He doesn't seem happy and I certainly am not. My nipples are sore and scratchy.

I thought it was getting better and easier, but it just seems to have become horrible again. I had a good cry earlier, feeling really trapped and exhausted.

I need a good couple of nights sleep with no disturbances, but that's not likely with a (nearly) 6 week old.

Sigh..just on a downer this evening.

jennynoo

I'm not married and was going to get LO christened in a catholic church and had had it OK'd by the priest however we never go round to it as the church was flooded and out of use for a couple of months.

Hello Aless! Due to OH's shifts I have periods where everything is organised and I have time to be on here and absolute horrid times where nothing gets done and no time to be on here. The facebook group isn't working well for me either as I just keep getting the script error and have to close my browser to get anything to work again. Are you still working? How is that going?

jennynoo

Hi MV, hugs honey. If you need a break try and get as much as you can, forget chores for a while, stay in bed with LO, watch a film lying on the couch and feeding when necessary, have a bath. Just remember that it does get better. It doesn't help that the weather is crap, it was always a great relief for me to get out of the house even if it was just a short walk to sainsburys and I always found if I did then LO would be more settled in the evening.

Chakani

Sorry you're having a bad day MV :grouphug:

Are you getting out much, even just for a bit of a walk? Can OH watch Josh so you can go for a walk/bath/whatever by yourself to try to combat the claustrophobic feelings? If your head is in a healthy place, the rest all instantly seems so much more bearable.

Becles, thank you for the suggestions. You make it all sound so effortless, I shall aspire to be as breezy about it one day!

DS does "help" - and to be honest I don't find it hard to carry on as normal while feeding as well - DD is a big lass and a very efficient feeder, so I don't spend ages with her stuck on a boob - it's more when I need to do things like cooking dinner, because our kitchen is tiny, so I can't have either of them in there with me, but leaving DD within reach of DS on a mat or in a bouncer would be a recipe for disaster - I'm sure there's a sensible solution, it's just that I haven't found it just yet. I suspect it might involve a somewhat higher level of organisation than I manage at the moment, but I'm fighting that