MSE Parents Club Part 16

delain

I second buttons, I do think that is sad, and I feel for you. I think a lot of the MSE OH's need a kick up the bum :mad:

Having said that my love life is not wat it was either but that is because we (by which I mean me usually) are so tired. I am just shattered all the time which is not being helped by Squeak now waking at night.

I was a size 10 when I got together with OH, I blame a lot of the weight gain on him if I'm honest. It's not that he wants me to be fat, it's that he always wants stodgy food and then pudding lol. When I lived alone I ate weetabix, toast and salad with the odd biscuit.

SusanC_2

Becles wrote: »

We've only done it a couple of times since Charlotte was born. He's never told me the true reasons but he did tell me I was fat when he was drunk once so I guess that is why.

But having met you in real life, I'd say you're definitely not fat. In fact I was surprised how thin you were because the impression you'd given online made me expect you to be loads bigger.

smartie12

Sorry if this offends anyone but me and DH have a mutual agreement that we wouldn't feel the same about each other if one of us put on LOTS of weight. He wouldn't fancy me. I wouldn't fancy him. Sorry if that sounds shallow but thats the way it is for us. I just don't fancy "larger sized" men and wouldn't be happy being with one... inc hubby.

BUT to have negative feelings for you Sir M after having a baby is not on. He should feel nothing but admiration for you:) And size 16 is hardly overweight is it!!

DH put on a bit of weight whilst "pregnant" and he's supposed to be doing something about it!! 2 chocolate bars????:rotfl:

I have a flabby tum after Daisy producing and am not offended if hubby mentions it... it doesn't put him off you know what though sadly. Sleep is sooooo much better;)

Did I mention the sleep word?? I'm not even sure what it means!!!:mad:

Make-it-3

Hello ladies (and any guys here), may I join you? Some of the names are familiar (big "Hi" to MV). I've come all the way from TTC, <12 weeks and the pregnancy threads with fantastic support from MSE, so hope I find you a friendly gang here too!

My DD, Nina Rose, is 6 days old arriving in the world at 42 weeks weighing 8lb 6 oz (birth story in the usual place if anyone is interested).

I need to ask for some breast feeding advice if anyone can help. DD's weight was down a little more than they liked (12%) when weighed this morning, which they have put down to my milk only just coming in today. I am lucky that I haven't had any transitional phase issues like heavy, sore or leaky breasts but equally I don't have the sensation of empty/fullness so its difficult to gauge if I am feeding enough. I take my cues from her, but OH is concerned I'm not spending enough time with her on the breast. Our MW is happy with what I'm doing but as I say OH is nagging me to feed her more often, waking her up if necessary. We have another weigh-in on Friday and he wants her to "meet the mark". So how long is long enough????

SusanC_2

Make-it-3 wrote: »

I need to ask for some breast feeding advice if anyone can help. DD's weight was down a little more than they liked (12%) when weighed this morning, which they have put down to my milk only just coming in today. I am lucky that I haven't had any transitional phase issues like heavy, sore or leaky breasts but equally I don't have the sensation of empty/fullness so its difficult to gauge if I am feeding enough. I take my cues from her, but OH is concerned I'm not spending enough time with her on the breast. Our MW is happy with what I'm doing but as I say OH is nagging me to feed her more often, waking her up if necessary. We have another weigh-in on Friday and he wants her to "meet the mark". So how long is long enough????

It's very hard to say really as you don't know how quickly they are taking the milk and also it varies in composition. I know I was told they should be feeding at least eight times a day although my daughter was feeding seven times a day with no problems. If your milk has only just come in then I'm sure things will improve and given the MW has said she is happy with what you are doing, unless you become concerned for some reason (e.g. lack of wet nappies) I would carry on as advised and see how things are on Friday. I am surprised she has been weighed so early though; here MWs don't weigh babies because they say weighing them too early causes unecessary worry so you have HV visits for weighings - mine were at 10 and 16 days and before the first one the HV talked for ages about how it is normal for the baby to below birth weight at that stage and that it is more common with breastfed babies and not automatically a problem.

redmel1621

Hello Make-it-3 Congratulations on the arrival of baby Nina Rose (lovely name) Hope everything is going well...no advice on breastfeeding i'm afraid although there is plenty of experienced BF's who will come along and give you advice. I dont think I would wake baby to feed though, but that's just me;)

Sir M (and Becles) I am upset on your behalf.....

My weight is only made an issue by me, I think I am the most grotesque person to ever walk the earth!! This does put a dampener on bedroom antics as I hate to be 'seen' whereas dh loves looking:o



I do need a little whinge too....I am at my wits end with dinner times, trying get anything cooked and dished up! In fact I feel like crying or screaming and smashing things:mad: Don't think I can cope with it any more, so next week I swear I am not 'cooking' It will be all pizzas/ready meals/oven chips............ There will be plenty of fruit and sald/veggies so people can help themselves to healthy options but I can't go through this anymore:(

SusanC_2

I hope the break from cooking helps Mel. Have you ever thought of batch cooking? Even if you just cooked double a couple of times a week it would save you a lot of work.

SusanC_2

Overheard conversation between OH and Alice:
A: The [kitchen] floor's all dirty.
OH: What's happened.
A: It's all yucky.
OH: What with.
A: It's got dirt on it.
OH: Ah! You mean you want to do some cleaning?
A: Yes please.

Sami_Bee

Make-it-3 'they' should only be worried if baby hasn't gained on birth weight at 14days so I really wouldn't worry about that bit. As long as you are offering the breast lots and she is feeding well she will thrive. Do you feel happy that she is latched properly and swallowing lots?

SirM - try not to feel bad about it, I think its most likely what weezl said or v similar. He was being honest which is generally a good thing but maybe that was a time where a white lie of being tired would have been better. IF YOU want to loose weigh for YOU then try to make sure you are snacking on low fat/sugar things and maybe reach for a drink before food just in case your body is confusing thirst with hunger - milk is good if you like it as the protein fills you nicely and the dairy fats apparently encourage your body to not absorb other fat in your diet. Although I know I was eating a big bar of choc everyday at Ed's evening feed, the hunger does ease off once they are feeding less which will come in the next couple of months along with mobile baby which requires muchos energy burning running after them

Becles - you are a stunner! don't let anyone tell you otherwise, C is incredibly lucky to have you and frankly I think its about time he realised that.

got-it-spend-it

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Hello ladies (and any guys here), may I join you? Some of the names are familiar (big "Hi" to MV). I've come all the way from TTC, <12 weeks and the pregnancy threads with fantastic support from MSE, so hope I find you a friendly gang here too!

My DD, Nina Rose, is 6 days old arriving in the world at 42 weeks weighing 8lb 6 oz (birth story in the usual place if anyone is interested).

I need to ask for some breast feeding advice if anyone can help. DD's weight was down a little more than they liked (12%) when weighed this morning, which they have put down to my milk only just coming in today. I am lucky that I haven't had any transitional phase issues like heavy, sore or leaky breasts but equally I don't have the sensation of empty/fullness so its difficult to gauge if I am feeding enough. I take my cues from her, but OH is concerned I'm not spending enough time with her on the breast. Our MW is happy with what I'm doing but as I say OH is nagging me to feed her more often, waking her up if necessary. We have another weigh-in on Friday and he wants her to "meet the mark". So how long is long enough????

Hi Make it 3 and congratulations on the birth of Nina Rose! I think it sounds like you are doing a great job breast feeding and I would just stick with taking cues from baby. It is hard to say how long they should feed for since it depends how good baby is at getting the milk, but I would think feeding every 3-4 hours is probably average at this age.


Massive hugs to those whose DHs are making them feel unattractive. I have nothing constructive to add, except to say that I hope you can work through it. It must be a really horrible situation to be in.