Bitter sister in law

MrsE_2

geri1965 wrote: »

So she will buy presents for the other two but miss this one out? How petty, I would be inclined to tell her not to bother with presents for any, as you won't accept them.

I agree & I would tell her not to buy any.

I personally think two children is enough for any family & would only give child benefit/benefits for two children. But thats my opinion & I would NOT force it down anyones throat or penalise a child a xmas/birthdays because of it:mad:

mrcow

My immediate reaction to her would have been to tell her that I couldn't give a rat's left bollock as to who she buys gifts for. Does she really think that her opinion is that important or interesting to you?

Good luck with your pregnancy. It's a lovely blessing for you and your family.

Next time you see her, tell her to shove it up her !!!!. That will give her something to be properly "disappointed" about.

Alittlesad

MrsE wrote: »

I agree & I would tell her not to buy any.

I personally think two children is enough for any family & would only give child benefit/benefits for two children. But thats my opinion & I would force it down anyones throat or penalise a child a xmas/birthdays because of it:mad:

Well we didn't think 2 children was enough for our family and I suppose that's a personal choice. To be clear, we don't get any tax credits and soon won't get child benefit either.

PasturesNew

*Robin* wrote: »

I wonder if the sister-in-law is an undiagnosed Aspie?

..Just a thought.

I wondered that, but stayed quiet as it's too easy to go waving labels about.

But certain aspects rang a bell.

pupsicola

mrcow wrote: »

My immediate reaction to her would have been to tell her that I couldn't give a rat's left bollock as to who she buys gifts for. Does she really think that her opinion is that important or interesting to you?

Good luck with your pregnancy. It's a lovely blessing for you and your family.

Next time you see her, tell her to shove it up her !!!!. That will give her something to be properly "disappointed" about.

:beer: I like the way you think :beer:

Alittlesad

Also, to those who have stated that her reaction may be a result of her sadness over not having children. Maybe... but there are lots of things I'm sad about in life but I have the good grace not to take it out on other people.

lostinrates

Alittlesad wrote: »

Also, to those who have stated that her reaction may be a result of her sadness over not having children. Maybe... but there are lots of things I'm sad about in life but I have the good grace not to take it out on other people.

You're sad about this and sharing it. Its normal to. You also have a loving husband and family to share joy with. Its not the same for her. Parents don't fill that role in quite the same way. Close friends can sometimes.

MrsE_2

Alittlesad wrote: »

Well we didn't think 2 children was enough for our family and I suppose that's a personal choice. To be clear, we don't get any tax credits and soon won't get child benefit either.

I meant to put wouldn't or would not.

Typo;)

*Robin*

PasturesNew wrote: »

I wondered that, but stayed quiet as it's too easy to go waving labels about.

But certain aspects rang a bell.

Indeed. There are a lot of people over 30 years of age now, who were simply "odd", "weird", or "a pain in the @rse" as youngsters and allowed to struggle on as best they could - today they would be given much-needed help as a result of the label.

My DH is one. He could have made the over-population comment, although not the rubbish about refusing to buy gifts for the third child.
..Perhaps he is not so far along the scale? The fact that he can sustain a relationship with me suggests it. By the way, when hearing that our third child was on the way, he burst out with: "But we didn't plan that!" (Which I didn't take offence at in the slightest - because it was quite true! :rotfl: ).

OP, I wouldn't make a fuss about this now. Wait and don't worry about it; if SIL even remembers her remark and carries out her threat to ignore your baby next Christmas, well, it'll cost you the postage to return two gifts (and save the price of two stamps a year as she will no longer merit a birthday or xmas card from your family! ).

Abbafan1972

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

What a horrible woman!

I wouldn't say anything about what she's said to you. Just put it to the back of your mind. She probably won't carry out her idle threat, if she does then just send the presents back. Also "accidentally" forget to invite her to the christening (if you have one).

Enjoy your pregnancy and don't let the shrivelled up old prune spoil it for you.

PS. Having read a few posts above. What's an "Aspie"?