Sharing chores...

lauren_1

I must be the only person here who wouldn't dream of getting OH to do housework when he's been slogging his guts out all day?

paddedjohn

The op sounds like a right moaning battleaxe, you make playing and reading with your kids sound like a chore, get out of your pit in the morning you lazy git.
I am the boss in my house and i have my wifes permission to tell you..

jamespir

:rotfl::rotfl:

paddedjohn wrote: »

The op sounds like a right moaning battleaxe, you make playing and reading with your kids sound like a chore, get out of your pit in the morning you lazy git.
I am the boss in my house and i have my wifes permission to tell you..

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::T:T:T that made my day

clairehi

I think your OH does very little to be honest OP and has nothing to moan about. I work all day and then come home, make the tea, wash up put a wash on, supervise kids homework and baths etc. it doesnt kill me.

the only daily chore he seems to have after doing a day's work is packed lunches which must take all of 15 minutes. as you say, if he chooses to do them earlier on then he can sit down and relax with you.

ignore any huffing and puffing, if he has a problem with it he needs to tell you straight. (this is what a man in your position would do!)

Person_one

Apparently feminism never happened on MSE.

Newly_retired

I would rather do the packed lunches myself, as I know what is in the fridge; I can juggle the use of cheese/ham, fruit etc in the light of my meal planning. I could do this job as part of the clearing up the kitchen routine - or alternatively, do it in the morning instead of an extra few minutes in bed.
Glad you are getting things sorted, OP. Hope you can find some relaxing time together.
Who is doing all the Christmas cooking?

sueeve

When we have things planned out they work for a while and then have to be renegotiated. I can see that specific tasks help him to remember, but it doesn't mean they don't have to be adjusted, or altered at particular times, eg just before Christmas, when someone is sick, under extra pressure, stressed, depressed etc

JodyBPM

lauren_1 wrote: »

I must be the only person here who wouldn't dream of getting OH to do housework when he's been slogging his guts out all day?

But what about when I do a full-time day at work, which I do, along with a commute 2 days a week. Should I just put my feet up when I get home as well, leaving the (4 &5yr old) children to feed themselves, make their own packed lunches, tidy the house, feed the cats, run the hoover round, sort out the washing etc?

Or is it one rule for men, and another for women? Or is my job seen as not as important as DH's, despite the fact I earn a higher salary (pro-rata) and have more responsibilty than him?

To put it in perspective, its making packed lunches, which takes all of 15 minutes!

So 2 out of the 5 nights he has to make sandwiches, we've BOTH been at work. 1 is Sunday night, where we've BOTH been at home, and 2 are nights where he has been at work, but I have been at home. When I am at home, I am on the go from 6.55 am until around 8.30pm. Granted, some of the time is spent doing fun things like reading with the children, doing crafts with them, baking etc, but still I am busy, busy, on the go with often no more than 5 mins to myself for a quick sandwich the whole time. I'm not sat on my bottom in front of Jeremy Kyle. That's compared to DH's hour commute in the morning (seated, watching DVDs on his personal DVD player on the train, FULL HOUR for lunch, plus another hour commute watching DVDs and a mere 7 hours at work!

I can't believe how many people have such outdated views which completely devalue women! I'm so glad that my DH isn't like that!

Brighton_belle

s'ok sassyblue:)

OP, yes, it been quite suprising some of the responses! Glad you have sorted it out - and interested to be reminded that grumping doesn't necessary mean what you thought.

alwayspuzzled

I've found this thread really interesting. I guess I'm lucky OH does a share (but no where near 50% despite what he thinks), we both work full time+ and we have three kids (12,9,3) BUT what really gets on my nerves is he likes to say hes doing the vacuuming, cleaning the kitchen, dropping off/picking up kids or whatever to 'help' me. Why is it helping me? Does that mean its all my responsibility really? I don't think so:mad::mad: