Struggling mum of 2 - where do I turn for help??

Dontknowanymore

Hiya hun, not sure if this has been mentioned but how about contacting your local church and asking about food parcels?

I attend a toddler group run by the church on the high street, I got talking to one of the men there and we got onto my heating situation (basically the heating is rubbish and costs £7 in 24 hours to run :eek:) the next week he asked if I minded that he had put me down for a food parcel, it was a big help, had lots of essentials, tea coffee, sugar, cereals, loads of tinned foods etc, it all helps x

sunnyone

He will have a good pension, make sure you get what you are owed of it!

sandraroffey

was up early today and thinking of you;. do keep us all updated on here.

please think on what everyone is saying; do not move out. ;get a proper solicitor, and scream and shout at tax credits and csa. it will work eventually. and as a previous poster said; he does not pay csa from when HE deems to. they tell HIM. and it goes from when they first contacted him. my daughters ex chose to ignore letters and calls from them and got the shock of his life when he had to back pay something like many months money. and remember that csa payments are not counted if you ever have to apply for housing and/or council tax benefit.

do not agree to anything with him, no matter how much he shouts and hassles you. do not discuss anything with him. from now on its all done through solicitors.

you can do it. and you will.xxxx

nikki_angel

Where abouts in the country are you OP?

demir2424

I am based in Lancashire - near Lytham St Annes.

demir2424

I would like to say a huge huge thank you to blue monkey - she is one of the niciest people ever and I didn't think that people like that still existed - big big thank you for saving christmas !!!

blue_monkey_2

My pleasure. Have a wonderful Xmas - deal with everything else in the New Year.

nikki_angel

Oh that's a shame. I was hoping you were local so I could help you out. I am in Essex so a bit far

blue_monkey_2

nikki_angel wrote: »

Oh that's a shame. I was hoping you were local so I could help you out. I am in Essex so a bit far

I am next to you in Herts Nikki, I know what you mean.

fermi

Just got to say that that was a wonderful gesture b_m.

Made my Xmas to read that. :xmassmile

blue_monkey wrote: »

OP, I am sorry to hear of the struggles you have been having. I have a few things in my loft that I would like to send you for the kids, if you do not mind. I have a musical toy for the baby (they dance to the music) and some toy cars for your son - a few other bits and pieces too. I've got books as well. I bought them thinking that they would do for friends children but lost the invoice and could not return them - they have been in the loft since - and do not have anyone to give them to. I am happy to pay the postage as well - so the offer is there.

PM me if you want these toys, they are destined for freecycle anyway and I know that someone who needs them will get them then. I know that the exchange of personal details on MSE is not allowed but I would not need your name and address as I can send them via collect+ and it can go to a shop local to you to be collected http://www.collectplus.co.uk/ You can find a shop local to you on there.

I also have a box of stuff that I was going to put onto Freecycle. I can send it via that new parcel service for £5 so it is no hardship for me. I have been in your situation a long, long time ago and I know how hard it is especially when you are not getting the advise you need.

demir2424 wrote: »

I would like to say a huge huge thank you to blue monkey - she is one of the niciest people ever and I didn't think that people like that still existed - big big thank you for saving christmas !!!

blue_monkey wrote: »

My pleasure. Have a wonderful Xmas - deal with everything else in the New Year.