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Can ex wife change child contact arrangements?
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paddedjohn wrote: »I know im in the minority here but i side with the mum, last year she didnt have her kids at hers so why not this time?
I don't see this as relevant to the thread, isn't the question about the mother unilaterally changing arrangements as a 'punishment' to dad?
If she wants the kids over Christmas, then she needs to be responsible and mature and negotiate this, not hold his access hostage.0 -
The problem seems that you ex thought he could call the shot on this, obviously thinking he was doing the right thing, but she probably felt that this year she could be the one deciding what to do. It is a pity because everyone seem to be prepated to make an effort for the kids. I think it is very respectful that you are ok for him to spend the day with his ex for the benefit of the kids just like you do with your ex. Your partner is ok for his ex to come to the house which is great, and she is, well at least was last year prepared to come over so both could spend time with the kids. I feel that all went wrong because of bad communication rather than bad intentions, and she over reacted as a need to get some control over the situation. Maybe it is not too late to sort things out amicably rather then through a power struggle?0
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i have my son every xmas day and he goes to his dad for boxing day he likes it because he has 2 christmas days0
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post deletedMFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months0 -
[post deletedMFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months0 -
Tricky one! Who is the parent with resident care? If it's the mom then I don't see that your partner can do much about the situation except go to court and get the arrangements set in stone.
My ex's weekend falls on Christmas but he will only see dd for a while on Xmas Day and then he'll have her Boxing Day for a couple of days. We are both happy with this and dd loves it because she gets 2 Xmas's!20p Savers Club 2013 #17 £7.80/£120.000 -
post deletedMFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months0 -
i don't see this as relevant to the thread, isn't the question about the mother unilaterally changing arrangements as a 'punishment' to dad?
If she wants the kids over christmas, then she needs to be responsible and mature and negotiate this, not hold his access hostage.
its easy to pick sentences out of threads to suit your arguement, if you read my whole thread you will see i dont agree with kids being used as pawns.
The two parents need their heads banging together and to grow up themselves and maybe they will then get back to whats important,the kids welfare, and not their own needsBe Alert..........Britain needs lerts.0 -
post deletedMFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months0
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