Can ex wife change child contact arrangements?

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LillythePink

I would insist on it if I were him - especially given the hassle which is happening now.

My arrangement with my ex was just between us and ok, one year we went away for the whole of xmas, but he was fine with it (probably made his life easier)

She sounds like a spoilt spiteful moo! However, I can sympathise in one respect, the first year that we had split up, ex had dd for all of xmas as I felt bad as I was the one who walked out on him - but I didn't want to be on the island for that time, we OH and I went to rome

paddedjohn

I know im in the minority here but i side with the mum, last year she didnt have her kids at hers so why not this time? The dad needs to back down on this and maybe suggest picking them up on boxing day, this way they get 2 christmas's.
By the way i dont agree with using kids as weapons in arguements but sometimes people are backed into a corner and say things they dont really mean.

(kids at mums 6nights and at dads 7nights, do they camp out on the other???)

kindofagilr

I agree paddedjohn, although mum was at dads with the kids over christmas, she didnt have them at her house on her own.

If this was me, just becasue christmas was on 'my' weekend I wouldnt presume that meant I would have the kids all of christmas.

minimoneysaver

I agree too. They were with their dad last year, so this year they should be with their mum.

pulliptears

Sorry OP but I'm another who agrees they should be with their Mum this year.

FatVonD

I agree the mum should have them for Christmas Day (and then Dad pick them up Boxing Day.)

If it were me I'd be encouraging him to put this option to her (ie accepting for himself what he'd offered her) and she'll probably relent over the reduced access.

liney

Wouldn't the most sensible option be that parent 1 has children Chrismas Eve until Christmas Tea time, then parent 2 has children from Christmas tea time until the day after boxing day? Alternate yearly. That way both parents see their children on Christmas day and have time alone with them.

I think you OH is wrong to assume normal contact over Christmas meaning, Mother doesn't have any access. It's thoughtless of him, and unreasonable to suggest that his Ex should come over and play happy families just because you choose to with yours. I would suggest he phone telling her he has seen the error of his ways, and can they make a Christmas week compromise and revert back to the other arrangements, which were working so well, as of 2nd January.

CallaLily

Could you not work it that they spend Christmas Eve & Christmas morning with one parent and Christmas Day afternoon and boxing day with the other parent? I know they do not get to go around to see all the families on Christmas day that way but they do see the two most important people. My arrangement with my ex-husband worked well like this until he decided he had a life and it left no time or space for his children .

swingaloo

(there is no chance of my partner and his ex doing this, they don't speak).

Poor kids, being used as pawns by 2 people who should be putting them first.