Lose Weight 31

Brighton_belle

bettyB wrote: »

Dont know what to do. I guess the choice is either go back to SW, start calorie counting again or just try to 'be healthy' and exercise more. but i'm worried that whichever one i decide i will fail at.....

You sounds really stressed Betty. It sounds like you are going round in circles trying to find the right answer for you and geting no where. That isn't a critisism. It is just a horrible place to be and many of us will have been there at some point.

Can you work out why your weak points are i.e why you 'fail'?

Is going to a club meeting just out of the question financially? Would that extra RL support make the difference?

catlover47

So lovely to read about everyones success and even if theres a failure it doesnt matter, we all carry on. Im still doing really well on celebrity slim and have got into a great routine with it and got together lots of good recipes for low carb evening meals. I feel great and reckon i can lose another 6lbs before Christams - theres a challenge!!

bettyB_2

Brighton_belle wrote: »

You sounds really stressed Betty. It sounds like you are going round in circles trying to find the right answer for you and geting no where. That isn't a critisism. It is just a horrible place to be and many of us will have been there at some point.

Can you work out why your weak points are i.e why you 'fail'?

Is going to a club meeting just out of the question financially? Would that extra RL support make the difference?

Thanks BB, I know it's not a criticism and it is true, I am stressing and as a reuslt I am failing more than usual and being much harder on myself.
Got a milestone birthday coming up in the new year and really dont want to be this size still.
I'm not sure a group would help, and I really can't afford it. I have lots of support anyway from my mum and my OH who have heard me moan about my weight a few too many times now!
I think the reason that I 'fail' is that I eaily slip out of good habits and back into bad ones. and once i'm off the wagon I like to roll around in the dirt for a week or so before climbing back on! :rotfl:

I think it's a combination of A) greed - pure and simple, too much food
laziness - it's easier to get a takeaway or to not bother with the gym
C) self-defeat - if I tell myself i'll fail I usually do, and I'm to scared to belive that I can do it in case I don't succeed.

Also I often overeat because I am bored or trying to put off doing something else. Put simply, I have very little willpower and it's very embarrasing - I'm supposed to be a grown woman!!

beanielou

Great losses peeps.
Forgot to weigh in as had to take DS to airport at crack of dawn.

Victoty~How are you?
Vix~Any news?

alliwantistosave

Hi everyone I am reporting a poor STS This week thanks Fred

I don't know what is the cause but onward and downward I hope next week.

Some great losses this week well done everyone :T

vixarooni

betty: I hear you, im quite the same. Im on of these who doesnt eat much, but what i do eat isnt the best quality, which is now made harder by living with parents who cook for you. No control!

Beanie: Nothing!

fredsnail

Here's this weeks chart:



Congratulations to our SoTW flis21 with a fantastic loss.

Well done to all the losers and STSers and commiserations to the gainers.

Good luck to everyone for next week.

Congratulations to the Southern Stunners who have won this weeks round of the North v South battle. Next week is the final week so good luck to both teams.

This weeks quote is from Plato

"The first and the best victory is to conquer self."

victory

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sarymclary

Thanks for the chart Fred.

C'mon you Souther Stunners, let's have a great last week and kick some northern butt!

Betty, it does sound like your head really isn't in the right place at the moment for committed weight loss. I know from much previous experience how self-defeating that can be. In fact I wasn't feeling so differently from you a month or so ago. I'd almost convinced myself that I just had to accept that I was the size I was, and that was that. I don't know what exactly led to my change of heart, but it was a combination of having clothes I invested in that I can't wear, and thinking that if I keep allowing the weight to creep up I will just get bigger and bigger. I was very close to moving into the stone barrier that I left 20 years ago, and I vowed I would never go back there.

I also felt guilty for the fact that my son was clearly gaining weight, and I have to take responsibility for that, and help him. Having seen some remarkable steady losses from people attending SW I decided to bite the bullet, and accept I needed extra help. I have a very supportive OH, but sometimes I need more accountability than that. It's part of the reason why I wanted to be involved in this thread too, but of course I now feel I 'know' you here, so it's a different kind of support.

Anyway, my suggestion is either to give yourself a break, and make a decision after Christmas, or decide on a short-term goal of Christmas as the timeframe to lose 4lb or something like that. Keep a food diary, do not buy anything that will undermine your efforts in the weekly shop, and plan your meals ahead.

HTH.

puddings_2

im searching for some motivation to try get me back in the right frame of mind again