My partner has left home with our son

damsidebear

clearingout wrote: »

you will have an uphill struggle now, I'm afraid. See a solicitor and get into court as quickly as you can to get it sorted. The advice you were previously given still stands but my worry is that we're all talking England and you're in Scotland so you really do need that extra bit of expertise. You did the right thing, in my opinion, by letting him go, even if that turns out to the wrong thing in the end - in a court's eyes, you were trying to do what is right. She's now the one in the wrong rather than you.

I wouldn't waste time trying to reason with her or talk to her. Just take it down the legal route and worry about the cost of that later. Good luck and keep us posted.

Thanks, just struggling to know where to turn right now.

neneromanova

Sorry I haven't read the whole thread yet, but is there anything in place to say that the child is staying with you for the time being?

damsidebear

when i contact the lawyer for an appointment i assume i need to wait until that appointment before i can get an emergency meeting in place?

neneromanova

damsidebear wrote: »

when i contact the lawyer for an appointment i assume i need to wait until that appointment before i can get an emergency meeting in place?

I would just tell the lawyer that you need to see him ASAP and take it from there.

damsidebear

neneromanova wrote: »

Sorry I haven't read the whole thread yet, but is there anything in place to say that the child is staying with you for the time being?

no nothing 'legal' in place, my ex left home last monday, i let her take our son over night and we agreed she would return him on sunday 6 30ish, i called her last night and she said she was not returning him and he was staying with her!

scooby088

I am Sorry for your situation but i would call the police..

damsidebear

scooby088 wrote: »

I am Sorry for your situation but i would call the police..

nothing they can do, the mother has every right to be with our son as i do.

susieb

I think you need to call the police and then a solicitor

damsidebear

susieb wrote: »

I think you need to call the police and then a solicitor

Like i say police can do nothing about it, i just spoke to a lawyer who can see me this afternoon so i'll take it from there.

clearingout

the police won't do anything other than log the 'incident' and tell you it's a matter for the courts. However, it might be worth logging it with them - they will give you an incident number and you can then use that in any court paperwork. You expected the child back, he didn't arrive back so technically, he's 'lost'. It won't do any harm to call them - just don't call 999!

Based on my experiences, I woulds seriously try and get more than one solicitor's appointment over the next 24 hours or so. They do really vary in their approaches and whilst one might be pessimistic, another might be optimistic and more sure of being able to help you. At the same time,just be wary of the solicitors who will tell you what you want to hear - all they will do is wrack up costs and shrug their shoulders when it doesn't turn out the way you were told it might. Have you had a look at the Families Need Fathers website? I think they have a helpline.