My partner has left home with our son

surreybased

School admissions are separate to nursery and most schools admissions are based on the child's permanent address. Some counties in England have to submit the school admission as early as Oct/Nov for the following year..i,e Now if your child is 4. Please check this out, you could search for school admissions or speak to the education department at the council.

Like the other posters my sense is that this is permanent:( and I feel for you.

jackieglasgow

OP is in Scotland. Registration for Primary school is in January, so OP has time to sort things out with the mother by then. Registration is much more straightforward up here, you go to the school which you are in the "catchment" area for, register your child there to start school. If you wish them to attend a different school, they then give you a form to forward to the local authority requesting a place at the school of your choice, which is then decided in approximately April or May. The only big thing about it is that the school which your child must be registered at initially is the one nearest your home address, so if the little boy is living more than 50% of his time with the mother that is likely to be his home address.

damsidebear

clearingout wrote: »

my ex husband engineered a 50/50 split (well, 3 days to him, 4 to me) in the early days of our separation. A judge upheld that pending CAFCASS reports and I suspect, if he hadn't been such a lying idiot that he couldn't keep up with himself, CAFCASS would also have upheld it. However, we were living closer than 40 miles apart. OP - what would be the effect of moving 40 miles for you? Could you still manage your work? If it meant having a genuine shared care arrangement, would you be willing to move?

It is something that has crossed my mind a number of times, and at present i am roughly 15 miles from my work place if i moved to where my partner is it would be 26 miles to my work! deep down i would seriously consider moving but only for the good of our family and relationship(don't want that sounding too selfish though).

damsidebear

jackieglasgow wrote: »

OP is in Scotland. Registration for Primary school is in January, so OP has time to sort things out with the mother by then. Registration is much more straightforward up here, you go to the school which you are in the "catchment" area for, register your child there to start school. If you wish them to attend a different school, they then give you a form to forward to the local authority requesting a place at the school of your choice, which is then decided in approximately April or May. The only big thing about it is that the school which your child must be registered at initially is the one nearest your home address, so if the little boy is living more than 50% of his time with the mother that is likely to be his home address.

Thanks for that i hadn't really gave that much consideration as i was proposing our son go to nursery 3 days a week and spend time at his mothers the other 4 days so technically he would be spending more time at mums than dads! and thats not going to work come his schooling! I have obviously thought of his schooling but i suppose i was hoping our relationship would have been sorted out prior to us having to decide which school he would be attending! I am just being blind to things that i really need to concentrate on and consider i am really stressed with the whole thing!

damsidebear

hi people, my ex has agreed that our son should continue to attend his existing nursery! yeeahh! she is a lot calmer now when speaking to her! we are; through time going to 'start again' so to speak and take it easy regarding our relationship and just see how things go she is getting a house near her family in the mean time! so after having a really bad day this has cheered me up! Do i need to now claim child tax credits as it was in my ex's name previously?

space_rider

Can't help with tax credits. I think it's usually paid to who gets the child benefit. Glad the communication is better and your son will continue at his nursery.

Bloomin_Freezing2

Good for you, glad things are (hopefully) on the up!

damsidebear

Bloomin_Freezing2 wrote: »

Good for you, glad things are (hopefully) on the up!

thanks, any ideas on the tax credit question?

Bloomin_Freezing2

damsidebear wrote: »

thanks, any ideas on the tax credit question?

Nope sorry, did you say it was only in your ex's name? Our tax credits are joint named and I have them go into my hubbys acc.

If they are in your ex's name then she'd have to agree to them being in your name and also instruct tax crdits to have them paid to you. Or at least change so it goes in your acc.

sassy_one

Contact your local CAB office or a Family law Solicitor.

Also you could try looking at the Families need fathers website (Google it)