My partner has left home with our son

damsidebear

Hello folks,

I am a father of one and have lived with my partner for over 5 years now and our son is 4 years of age, my partner and i have been going through quite a rocky time of late nothing sinister we just simply haven't been getting on, my partner decided to up sticks and leave our home today with our son and return to her mothers house 40 miles away, i am devestated and really don't know where to turn and i am struggling to cope emotionally, my fear is that we don't resolve the situation and i simply get to see my son on my partners say so as i have been 'threatened with' so to speak. My question is where do i stand as a father, this is my sons home he goes to nursery here and i fear his life is being turned upside down am just looking for advice thanks.:(

anderson8

your best bet would be to go to your local C.A.B
it will give you all the up to date info you need

damsidebear

anderson8 wrote: »

your best bet would be to go to your local C.A.B
it will give you all the up to date info you need

something i am considering but i'm hoping to get other peoples experiences on here or if anyone can offer advice thats all.

gratefulforhelp_2

Is your name on the birth certificate?

And you need to see a family law solicitor asap.

damsidebear

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Is your name on the birth certificate?

And you need to see a family law solicitor asap.

yes my name is on the birth certificate.

JustBe_2

Hi damsidebear:)

Really sorry to hear about your situation.

As suggested I would go as soon as and get some advice from a good family solicitor. This will let you know exactly what your rights are, should you need to go down the legal route to gain fair access to your little boy.

Did your partner just suddenly decide to leave today?

If that is the case then maybe you both just need some time out to calm down and assess the situation.

Hopefully in the meantime you both could try and sort something out between you, so that you can see your son.

JustBe

damsidebear

JustBe wrote: »

Hi damsidebear:)

Really sorry to hear about your situation.

As suggested I would go as soon as and get some advice from a good family solicitor. This will let you know exactly what your rights are, should you need to go down the legal route to gain fair access to your little boy.

Did your partner just suddenly decide to leave today?

If that is the case then maybe you both just need some time out to calm down and assess the situation.

Hopefully in the meantime you both could try and sort something out between you, so that you can see your son.

JustBe

I hope this is all it is and we can sort things out for both our sakes and our son as i really want him to be settled and enjoy his childhood without his mum and dad falling out. Like i said in my first post we have had our fair share of arguments of late so my partner has had enough pack all her clothes and all our sons clothes and left to go to her mums miles away, everytime i go into my sons bedroom i break down and i am struggling big time, can't type right now sorry

gratefulforhelp_2

Name on the birth certificate means (I believe) that you have parental responsibility, and so your son has a right to contact with you.

As a first step, can you contact her to ask to set up arrangements for contact?

damsidebear

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Name on the birth certificate means (I believe) that you have parental responsibility, and so your son has a right to contact with you.

As a first step, can you contact her to ask to set up arrangements for contact?

Yes she is going to call tomorrow i believe to speak about arranging to see my son

Bloomin_Freezing2

Same thing happened to someone I know of, the following day he went to see a solicitor and within only 2 weeks a family court hearing gave him residency (for now), the mother has weekend visits. It was decided that as that was the childs home, schooling, doctors etc was there then thats where the child should stay, and also to avoid as much upset for the child as possible. They're back in court in december to get a more permanent decision. She was also aged 4. Good luck, it must be awful for you.

DUTR

damsidebear wrote: »

Yes she is going to call tomorrow i believe to speak about arranging to see my son

See Blooming Freezing2 's reply and partly grateful for help reply, you don't have to lay there and be walked all over, fortunately for you, you have parental rights, get some legal direction and quickly :T