Nice new house, missus wants to live with parents, baby on way. Advice

emsywoo123

pipsta wrote: »

The worse part of it is the only reason she has given me for not wanting to move in is because she feels it is my home and not our home. Tell me if i am wrong but surely not moving into house together "Bricks and mortar" and providing a stable evironment for baby is more important than her hangup with me buying the house on my own a year previous?

Quite a few people have told you you are wrong, in our opinion, but it's like you won't listen and just keep posting the same stuff........if this is how the talks have gone with GF, then that might offer some explanation as to the lack of progress

Errata

Forget about a stable environment. What a baby needs and is entitled to is a loving family environment with mum and dad in a house they don't share with interfering relatives.
Stick up for your baby so that can happen, because your GF won't.

pipsta

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Quite a few people have told you you are wrong, in our opinion, but it's like you won't listen and just keep posting the same stuff........if this is how the talks have gone with GF, then that might offer some explanation as to the lack of progress

I am taking all opinions on board.

But if you read there are also alot of replies saying im in the right. (Post above)

Its not abouts whos right and whos wrong its what is best. And in my opinion as errata has said, a house with my gf and I and baby is needed without reletives.

But i am not going to rush into anything just because of a hangup over me buying the house a year ago

emsywoo123

Errata wrote: »

Forget about a stable environment. What a baby needs and is entitled to is a loving family environment with mum and dad in a house they don't share with interfering relatives.
Stick up for your baby so that can happen, because your GF won't.

And the baby needs it's mummy to be happy........which she won't be if she moves into the house with him, as she has explained.

And i'll pass your thoughts onto the children, mothers and fathers in single parent families, who, by your thoughts, must be in some way missing out.

emsywoo123

pipsta wrote: »

I am taking all opinions on board.

But if you read there are also alot of replies saying im in the right.

You are exhausting! I am outta this thread. I feel so sorry for your GF.

Good luck.

pipsta

emsywoo123 wrote: »

You are exhausting! I am outta this thread. I feel so sorry for your GF.

Good luck.

LOL fair enough

pipsta

emsywoo123 wrote: »

You are exhausting! I am outta this thread. I feel so sorry for your GF.

Good luck.

You feel sorry for my GF who is having everything provided for her yet still cant wait a few months for the sake of a quick sale. No pleasing some people

Make-it-3

So you are in the right and your GF thinks she is also in the right - deadlock.

You both need your heads knocking together. It's about compromise and a practical solution to provide a stable environment for the baby.

I happen to be due my first baby 3 days after your GF and yes Pipsta in my mind I think that the house you have renovated is the best solution for the short term. But like I say, I think there are relationship issues behind her reason not to accept this. If you don't explore these I'm with the poster who said their won't be roses round the door wherever you live!

kegg_2

I am female and a good bit older than both the op and his girlfriend and i think she is being daft.
They have a perfectly good house that they could try into a home for all 3 of them.
Why waste money on selling and buying a different one when they are going to have a new baby with all the costs that doing so involves.

It is time for the girlfriend to grow up and cut the mummy apron strings and start making a life for herself with her boyfriend and baby.
No way should he even think about moving in with the in laws and baby and neither should he agree to sell without her moving in setting up a proper home with him.
After the baby is born and things are a bit more settled she might be only to happy to stay there or they might both jointly decide the place isnt big enough/too far from family.

But as far as i can see she hasn't even tried yet and is just trowing a tantrum to get her way.

Plans_all_plans

I dont see why YOU cant move into her mums for those few months though? I think you are the selfish one. I know it's not ideal for you personally, but for the family as a whole it is better than split living arrangements.

It's all about compromise and right now I dont see why the 22 y/o who's had massive life changes to contend with should be the one compromising. You should be prepared to compromise on this one IMO. As someone else said, it is only a house after all.

House vs your child/woman you profess to love - I know what I'd pick.