Nice new house, missus wants to live with parents, baby on way. Advice

pipsta

Its all good though because what is a very difficult situation with many variables i think the key thing that has come out of this is compromise and put the baby first.

Whatever happens Im going to do my best to make mother and baby happy but mummy still needs to know im not going to be taken advantage of because of this. I have compromised saying i will stay with her at her mums for first month or so as i really dont mind doing this but i will tell her that this is not a healthy option for raising baby and that i think she should move in with me full time and whilst ill put house on market.

emsywoo123

pipsta wrote: »

Its all good though because what is a very difficult situation with many variables i think the key thing that has come out of this is compromise and put the baby first.

Whatever happens Im going to do my best to make mother and baby happy but mummy still needs to know im not going to be taken advantage of because of this. I have compromised saying i will stay with her at her mums for first month or so as i really dont mind doing this but i will tell her that this is not a healthy option for raising baby and that i think she should move in with me full time and whilst ill put house on market.

Might I suggest ducking while "telling" her this :eek: :eek:

pipsta

I also want to add Im not going to be pressured into selling it as quick as possible.

think she'll go for it?

pipsta

*Ducks*...

spendingmad

Put house on the market but ask her to move in with you until it sells, look for other houses immediately. Ask her to help you with the move, look for houses, arrange viewings to sell yours etc make her feel useful (she has been busy with studies and planning a career now she has nothing to think about but the baby - she may need a project to keep her busy). I know when i am uncertain/nervous I need to plan something/find a project.

I think what is best for ALL of you is that you sell up and make a fresh start. It is only a house after all.

cattkitt

*peers down at Pipsta behind the bomb proof shelter*
The bottom line is that you both have options as to where you can live independently. This is good in that you both have options to exercise your free will. It's a double edged sword, as you're both left with so many options, that you're totally free to select from.

Financially, if you go your separate ways, you'll have your house, and she'll probably file for child maintenance.

Emotionally, and as a father to be, you have decades stretching out in front of you, decisions to make that will shape how your life with your child and its mother will pan out. Being a GOOD parent is a tightrope act, you have to swallow so much rubbish that you never get thanked for by anyone. The only payout is knowing that you did the best for your child.

thorsoak

pipsta wrote: »

She will only be unhappy because she wants everything now....

..but so do you!

Errata

Before i bought the house i was crazed by her and her mum to get a house so i did!

Man up, you're !!!!! whipped.

emsywoo123

spendingmad wrote: »

It is only a house after all.

I've made about 827 posts on this thread, but those 7 words have been what I have been trying to say :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: Thank you

pipsta

Errata wrote: »

Man up, you're !!!!! whipped.

LOl youre right i am