Nice new house, missus wants to live with parents, baby on way. Advice

thorsoak

Sadly, I do not see this story having a happy ending ....no trotting off into the sunset to a cottage with roses round the door - wish I could.

spendingmad

Another thing - baby arrives GF living at MIL's. I take it MIL will be at work during day leaving GF alone? Whilst you have 2 weeks paternity leave in your cottage/ living in someone elses house.

Her living at mothers does not make sense as she will be alone all day anyway - do you work long hours eg will MIL be home 4:30pm but you wouldnt be home until 7pm etc?

You do not need to be pressured into selling your house cheap but you do need to be realistic! Maybe discuss with Estate Agents and MIL and GF and decide what the lowest offer you will accept is.

emsywoo123

pipsta wrote: »

LOl youre right i am

I actually don't think you are :cool:

pipsta

thorsoak wrote: »

..but so do you!

How do i want everything now?

I just spent a year of my life!! doing this every night for hours after work, all weekend. I've put my heart and soul into it. dont say it not important because it is. Its no different to me making you sell your home right now knowing you have put time and effort into making it a home.

Ive tried my hardest to make her feel part of it buts it been thrown back in my face at at very step. so dont say i want everything now because that is just not true.

pipsta

spendingmad wrote: »

Another thing - baby arrives GF living at MIL's. I take it MIL will be at work during day leaving GF alone? Whilst you have 2 weeks paternity leave in your cottage/ living in someone elses house.

Her living at mothers does not make sense as she will be alone all day anyway - do you work long hours eg will MIL be home 4:30pm but you wouldnt be home until 7pm etc?

You do not need to be pressured into selling your house cheap but you do need to be realistic! Maybe discuss with Estate Agents and MIL and GF and decide what the lowest offer you will accept is.

I think she wants to go see her sister who lives closer to her mum than the cottage. I can understand she wants to go see her sister ( who has two young childen) yes its nice to get help but there are millions of women who have to stay at home (alone) all day looking after children why should she be any different.

emsywoo123

pipsta wrote: »

How do i want everything now?

I just spent a year of my life!! doing this every night for hours after work, all weekend. I've put my heart and soul into it. dont say it not important because it is. Its no different to me making you sell your home right now knowing you have put time and effort into making it a home.

Ive tried my hardest to make her feel part of it buts it been thrown back in my face at at very step. so dont say i want everything now because that is just not true.

It is very different indeed. I assume Thorsoak does not have a pregnant girlfriend who does not like his/her home?

If s/he does, then that is remarkably spooky :rotfl: :rotfl:

pipsta

emsywoo123 wrote: »

It is very different indeed. I assume Thorsoak does not have a pregnant girlfriend who does not like his/her home?

If s/he does, then that is remarkably spooky :rotfl: :rotfl:

She has said she likes "my" home, she loves what i have done to it but she doesnt want to live there because she wants me to sell it so we can get place together.

LilacPixie

pipsta wrote: »

How do i want everything now?

I just spent a year of my life!! doing this every night for hours after work, all weekend. I've put my heart and soul into it. dont say it not important because it is. Its no different to me making you sell your home right now knowing you have put time and effort into making it a home.

Ive tried my hardest to make her feel part of it buts it been thrown back in my face at at very step. so dont say i want everything now because that is just not true.

You want to live in your house, the house as you said was only ever going to be for you. It a yes i'll live at your mums for a month but then you will move into cottage and i'll put on market.

My home that I have put time and effort into is for sale. Firstly I bought it myself, DH lives here but its never been his home. We are a family and we need a family home. Quite simple really. This isn't and never has been out family home, this was my nice project bought when DH was not DH but just the guy i happened to date who lived with his parents. Ultimatly its a pile of bricks and cement, yep i spent ages picking tiles and kitchen units, getting wiring done and reskimming each room but ultimatly us as a family having something we both chose and both decided is a good place to raise our children takes priority.

Can you see falling prices ending soon? Can you see a sharp rise once they do? I can't TBH.

Really if your heart and soul is more in a house than in providing a stable enviroment for your child then I think seperate living is probably for the best.

thorsoak

emsywoo123 wrote: »

It is very different indeed. I assume Thorsoak does not have a pregnant girlfriend who does not like his/her home?

If s/he does, then that is remarkably spooky :rotfl: :rotfl:

No, Thorsoak is an ancient old crone with adult married/divorced/living with partner/not living with partner & child- children

And in the work I've done, believe me, there ain't much I haven't seen!

pipsta

The worse part of it is the only reason she has given me for not wanting to move in is because she feels it is my home and not our home. Tell me if i am wrong but surely not moving into house together "Bricks and mortar" and providing a stable evironment for baby is more important than her hangup with me buying the house on my own a year previous?