Nice new house, missus wants to live with parents, baby on way. Advice

thorsoak

Pipsta - how involved have you been during her pregnancy? After all, January 11th is only 13 weeks away now! Have you been with her for the scans? Attended any of the ante-natal clinics?

Are you planning on going with her to any birthing classes? Are you involved in her birth plan?

And what about cot/pram/baby equipment? Have you looked at any of these things with her?

Just how much has she involved you in the pregnancy?

Make-it-3

This has become quite a long thread and Pipsta has received a lot of advice, yet I don't think there has been one comment that suggests that moving in with his girlfriends's mother is a good idea.

But my feeling is he is reluctant to rock the boat and get to the bottom of the real issues with his girlfriend for fear of what he might find.

So Pipsta, go along with her choices if its easier, bury your head in the sand, ultimately things will either work out with you both or they won't.

pipsta

Thanks for all the replies guys, but it is still difficult for you to judge whats going on still. All the posts about gf being unfaithful, child not being mine are way way wrong. She is not the kind of girl, Even though she has been at uni, she would come home most weekends (well nearly everyweekend) The long distance relationship has not been a strain at all on us so i would like to leave that side out of it. im not saying it out of denial but trust me we are very close.

My GF isnt fearful of living with me etc as the main reason for her wanting me to sell the house is because she wants us to get a house "together" and wants this as soon as possible. Thats where the problem lies, she wants the house gone asap, she has said she wants me to enjoy the house but i think out of stubboness (there i said it) that she wont move in full time with me.

thorsoak

Have you asked yourself my question yet, Pipsta? You've not answered it here.

pipsta

thorsoak wrote: »

Pipsta - how involved have you been during her pregnancy? After all, January 11th is only 13 weeks away now! Have you been with her for the scans? Attended any of the ante-natal clinics?

Are you planning on going with her to any birthing classes? Are you involved in her birth plan?

And what about cot/pram/baby equipment? Have you looked at any of these things with her?

Just how much has she involved you in the pregnancy?

I ve been involved fully, been to all the scans and midwife appointments.. Looked at prams etc together.

thorsoak

pipsta wrote: »

I ve been involved fully, been to all the scans and midwife appointments.. Looked at prams etc together.

That's good - and what plans are there for you being there at the birth?

pipsta

thorsoak wrote: »

That's good - and what plans are there for you being there at the birth?

i'll be there lol

Mojisola

If the problem is the house, then what about the advice to rent it out and rent somewhere with your GF so that she'll have been involved in choosing where she lives?

If I were you, I would be careful of selling your project house quickly. You've put a lot of yourself into the house and it must mean a lot to you.

Make-it-3

pipsta wrote: »

My GF isnt fearful of living with me etc as the main reason for her wanting me to sell the house is because she wants us to get a house "together" and wants this as soon as possible. Thats where the problem lies, she wants the house gone asap, she has said she wants me to enjoy the house but i think out of stubboness (there i said it) that she wont move in full time with me.

Really? Plenty of people here have suggested you rent a place together for now - have you put this to her? If she genuinely wants you all to be "together" then she would consider that. Although my bet is she will find an excuse about that too, or dismiss any rental places that you view as "unsuitable".

pipsta

Its means a hell of a lot to me!! Trouble is most of doing the house up was done before knowing baby was on way but got to the point that i couldnt turn back if you know what i mean. Originally the house being just for me, circumstances have now changed but still selling now doesnt seem to be the most practical thing to do with baby on way, falling house prices etc.

I dont want to rent as renting is putting money into somebody elses back pocket for the sake of it. Plus my GF wouldnt want to rent.