Menopause Matters

joyfull

Hiya Ladies,

wmf - Oaty drink sounds very soothing. I've sometimes made a very runny porridge as a kind of drink - bit of honey added and it's YUM. And rather MSE.

Choille - very impressed you're making a go of ebay. It appeals to me, but had a couple of bad experiences and I have to use petrol to get to a post office. Hope your weather improves and you can get your garden sorted ready for spring. I've made some newspaper pots and have little seedlings growing in them. Very easy to just pop straight into soil or outdoor pots.

nomuny - Oh the lighter mornings and not sleeping. I love the summer light,but I always sleep even less (if that's possible) in the summer months. Confession time. I sometimes put a pair of black knickers over my head to cover my eyes if I've woken early and need some dark to get off again. I can't believe I've admitted that! It flipping well helps though.

Nicky, Raksha, Mishka, Bronnie, Shykins and all others - hope all is well in your meno world.

My mum is very ill again,. Her heart is failing. I realised y'day that the Mum I've always know is gone forever. She is barely with us, but may rally for a while again, who knows.. I just hope she knows she's loved. I'll pop in and see her every day at the nursing home & hold her hand.

Bronnie

Sorry to hear about your mum, joyfull. You sound in a calm and accepting place and that's a good place to be. Your mum will know she's loved by you, never fear. Look after yourself, at what I know from experience, albeit 12 years ago now, is a very draining time all round. Hugs! XX

choille

Joyful - sorry about your mum. My mother has Alzheimer's & is in a home 8 hours away - so in a way I'm insulated from her disease. It is easy not to dwell on it. You are brave & your mum will know she is loved - Thoughts are with you.

It is a mile or so to our little PO but I sometimes walk & sometimes not - like this morning as I couldn't get my act together early enough!
Nice bright day but bitter cold. I must get myself braced & try & get outside for a bit as I'm so behind with the garden.

Rowan9

Joyfull - so sorry - it is such a hard time. Have been there with my dad. Keep eating, drinking,resting as much as you can. Hand holding is so very soothing and comforting for you both. I spoke to my dad as well and was comforted to be told that people can still hear when unconscious. Take care
W

shykins

just a quickie to say am back, had a lovely restful time

joyfull so sorry to hear about your mum, i have a friend in a similar situation and she says the same its just not her mum anymore but its still so hard. hiugs and look after yourself!!

waves to everyone else. so good we can let off steam here and just KNOW that others reading "get it"

nomuny

joyfull - sorry about your mum (:

yout tip on the knickers made me smile

choille- Ive been putting things on ebay for a while its usefull but sometimes a slow process and I'm a bit impatient to get rid and sorted burt also don't want to throw out perfectly good stuff.
miserable weather here today after the beautiful sun yesterday - brings your mood down

Rowan9

Glad you are back all nicely rested Shykins - did you get good warm sun?
I have another period, so it's 2 months in a row now. Ah well. As they say, accept all with 'ah, this too'. Am cranky and grouchy as I don't know what although I am hoping that I am getting a glimpse of it passing.Poor DH, I called him a greedy pig (twice, repeated for emphasis) because he ate the Mar$ Bar and a half that were in the fridge. They were calling to me - I went and lo! the fridge was bare of anything at all chocolatey. His poor little face:(. I wasn't sorry for a long time. V unlike me. But, hope it is passing. Just such rage you know? Hoping it was a blast of hormones and not a personality change.
Hope you are trucking along nicely. How's your mum, joyfull?
W

choille

Glad you had a nice time Shykins,

I feel the rage a lot of the time. I am struggling with my moods & I can't be easy to live with.
I'm so fed up of the caravan & cold tap living. Found another cupboard of mouldy clothes & it just depresses me.
oh got me nothing for my 50th birthday & I thought that was mean of him. He says he's skint - which we are but just a little something would of been nice.

joyfull

wmf - I giggled at your mar$ bar meanness. :rotfl: Crikey we are a fierce lot. Don't mess with The Menos! Mum is not good. Because she does not want to go to hospital it's difficult for the nursing home to really diagnose everything going on with her. Basically she's dying, body is not working properly. No-one can say how long she will go on for. A day at a time, is all we can do.

Choille - I've had to teach my OH how to be good to me, and still have to remind him. They sometimes don't have a clue. I was 55 last week. Whenever you were 50, Many Happy Returns from Menoland!:beer:

Shykins - Ooooo, lovely hols, bet you're delighted to be back in the murk of the UK.;)

Thank you all for the Mum good wishes, you're all very sweet.

choille

Thanks Joyful,

I just pray your mum slips gently away.

All the best.